RE: New with a question...

RE: New with a question... (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion

Message

onceshattered -> RE: New with a question... (8/24/2012 11:21:37 PM)
Thank you culareD for bringing this up. I also had questions about "collaring." hugs you tightly I've actually started to "get out" and meet people, like in a face to face way, which considering my social anxiety is a miracle in itself. I've learned some things about myself that I'm still a bit confused about and I consider myself to still be learning. Thankfully, I haven't had anyone approach me with the idea of a collar yet because truthfully I see the collar in the "kinky-wedding-ring" way and I'm no where near in any way ready for that kind of commitment. One of the questions that is prevalent on my mind right now is: Are there those that just prefer a more "metaphorical" collar? I ask this because I personally have a huge huge phobia about having my neck touched or pieces of material touching my neck. Kisses are okay because they're short little things, but like I can't even wear a smaller necklace without having a panic attack. I'm afraid that later, this might be an issue. Maybe I'm just looking ahead too much. Is not being able to physically wear a collar a deal breaker for some people? -os

Hillwilliam -> RE: New with a question... (8/24/2012 11:30:43 PM)
shattered, I've mentioned this once or twice but many havent seen it. My ex sub worked in a law office. This is NOT a kink friendly environment. Her 'collar' was a sterling toe ring with my initials in it. The only WEAL and TWUE place to put a collar is IN the mind rather than ON the neck.

onceshattered -> RE: New with a question... (8/24/2012 11:40:07 PM)
thank you Hillwilliam, I think somewhere along the lines I got into my head that this type of "physical" collar around the neck was like..."the thing" to do. However, your situation with your ex does help ease my mind A LOT!

DarkSteven -> RE: New with a question... (8/25/2012 2:32:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Karmastic quote: ORIGINAL: kiwisub12 If you do it - so should he!.................... Whats good for the goose is good for the gander............... The dom can be just as much under consideration as a sub. Infact given the really big gap in the numbers of doms to subs, subs can consider a lot more doms than doms can subs. THIS! i would expand on this idea - all the follow me shit comes way later, when you're collared. Cart before the horse. Collaring is a very serious commitment. In my experience, collaring before a relationship has been established does not happen. If someone DOES propose to collar you and you're not even sure if you'd be comfortable submitting to him, run far away.

DarkSteven -> RE: New with a question... (8/25/2012 2:35:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: onceshattered thank you Hillwilliam, I think somewhere along the lines I got into my head that this type of "physical" collar around the neck was like..."the thing" to do. However, your situation with your ex does help ease my mind A LOT! My sub has two collars. One is a leather one she wears at night. The other is a simple necklace that looks vanilla. Anyone proposing to put a ten pound metal locking collar (or anything else ridiculously obvious) on you, is a fantasist.

Ninebelowzero -> RE: New with a question... (8/25/2012 2:40:11 AM)
The ex used her garter belt. When that fecker came out I knew I was 'avin' it.

Salinedion -> RE: New with a question... (8/25/2012 1:10:35 PM)
Why not tell him that "under consideration" is for (barely believable) real estate ads and not for complicated, sexy, man-woman relationships? Then laugh him out of the room. If he wants back in for a sniff of the snatch tell him it's......under consideration (indefinitely).

culareD -> RE: New with a question... (8/27/2012 6:11:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: onceshattered Thank you culareD for bringing this up. I also had questions about "collaring." hugs you tightly I've actually started to "get out" and meet people, like in a face to face way, which considering my social anxiety is a miracle in itself. I've learned some things about myself that I'm still a bit confused about and I consider myself to still be learning. Thankfully, I haven't had anyone approach me with the idea of a collar yet because truthfully I see the collar in the "kinky-wedding-ring" way and I'm no where near in any way ready for that kind of commitment. One of the questions that is prevalent on my mind right now is: Are there those that just prefer a more "metaphorical" collar? I ask this because I personally have a huge huge phobia about having my neck touched or pieces of material touching my neck. Kisses are okay because they're short little things, but like I can't even wear a smaller necklace without having a panic attack. I'm afraid that later, this might be an issue. Maybe I'm just looking ahead too much. Is not being able to physically wear a collar a deal breaker for some people? -os I am thinking that if you get into a D/s relationship, then excellent 2-way communication would be paramount. I don't think I could trust anyone who didn't consider my concerns, OR who didn't voice theirs. If you have a issue with "stuff" around your neck, and your prospective doesn't want to listen or help come up with solutions that work for both of you, I say move on...hope this helps. Hugs back to ya!

Page: << < prev 1 2 3 4 [5]

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

3.173828E-02