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GreedyTop -> RE: New with a question... (8/21/2012 3:07:17 PM)
keeps this one grin

CRYPTICLXVI -> RE: New with a question... (8/21/2012 3:09:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GreedyTop keeps this one grin yea, she seems sincere... I wish her luck in her path.

ARIES83 -> RE: New with a question... (8/21/2012 4:00:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: culareD When a potential dom asks you to post on your profile "under consideration" what should one do? We have only been talking for a short time over CM...your thoughts are most welcome and appreciated. I duno, so many of the protocols and things people use in relation to D/s on the net sound so silly to me... Surely with the exception of roleplay, a D/s relationship would have to start in person? Anything before that is just internet browsing. My advice, (and this comes from having no online romance experience.) Just stay a smart, informed, sensible person untill you have gotten to know him in person. If that means you never get to meet the guy telling you to kneel before your computer screen because you have offended his internet domination skills, then it may be for the best. -ARIES

kalikshama -> RE: New with a question... (8/21/2012 4:51:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama Don't feel bad. I did too. Well hey.. since Kana's busy... need some protection? Just recently I lined up Ishtarr and poise as my official protectors (I got too busy to woo athena as I remember). If you're feeling the need for some protection I'm sure I could loan one or both of them out to you :) ooo ooo ooo

CRYPTICLXVI -> RE: New with a question... (8/21/2012 4:54:23 PM)
Monkey protection... [image]http://therobotwatch.files.wordpress.com/2007/11/monkey-gun.jpg[/image] Consider this you online doms.

OsideGirl -> RE: New with a question... (8/21/2012 5:02:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: onceshattered 3) He asked me to. To me... it's a small act of submission done in good faith. I don't submit to someone that I haven't met. 1) We haven't agreed to a dynamic and 2) it confuses the issue if you meet and end up not liking him.

poise -> RE: New with a question... (8/21/2012 5:06:36 PM)
Sub protection. sandwiches available when the smoke clears [image]http://i48.tinypic.com/wslhu9.jpg[/image]

pyschosubmission -> RE: New with a question... (8/21/2012 5:48:11 PM)
Anyone still wanting protection? Setting up a racket...

OsideGirl -> RE: New with a question... (8/21/2012 5:49:38 PM)
So, we should pay you for protection, eh?

pyschosubmission -> RE: New with a question... (8/21/2012 5:52:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl So, we should pay you for protection, eh? Yes. Yes you should... [image]http://images.wikia.com/sims/images/0/0b/Hypnotoad.gif[/image]

onceshattered -> RE: New with a question... (8/21/2012 5:56:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: onceshattered 3) He asked me to. To me... it's a small act of submission done in good faith. I don't submit to someone that I haven't met. 1) We haven't agreed to a dynamic and 2) it confuses the issue if you meet and end up not liking him. yeah, in theory I understand it's different for a lot of people and I can totally understand where you're coming from. I can see how it might be confusing to the Guy I'm talking to. I don't know... again I don't really have a lot of experience so this outlook that I have now could totally change in time. In fact, I hope it does. I'm using the term "submission" here very loosely. I consider it a very simple act to show good faith on my part. Just because I accept the offer and include the phrase in my profile doesn't mean that I've given him ALL of me. It just means that at that point in time I have spoken with the man to some length and I have enough respect for him to want to pursue further discussions and exploration. Basically I'm just acknowledging him as a possible Dominate match. I will say this... I make it perfectly clear to the guy that just because I've accepted his "protection" or "consideration" or whatever other term you want to use, it does NOT mean that I've agreed to automatically become "HIS." Hope that makes sense. Thanks for the input :)

OsideGirl -> RE: New with a question... (8/21/2012 6:00:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: onceshattered quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: onceshattered 3) He asked me to. To me... it's a small act of submission done in good faith. I don't submit to someone that I haven't met. 1) We haven't agreed to a dynamic and 2) it confuses the issue if you meet and end up not liking him. yeah, in theory I understand it's different for a lot of people and I can totally understand where you're coming from. I can see how it might be confusing to the Guy I'm talking to. I don't know... again I don't really have a lot of experience so this outlook that I have now could totally change in time. In fact, I hope it does. I'm using the term "submission" here very loosely. I consider it a very simple act to show good faith on my part. Just because I accept the offer and include the phrase in my profile doesn't mean that I've given him ALL of me. It just means that at that point in time I have spoken with the man to some length and I have enough respect for him to want to pursue further discussions and exploration. Basically I'm just acknowledging him as a possible Dominate match. I will say this... I make it perfectly clear to the guy that just because I've accepted his "protection" or "consideration" or whatever other term you want to use, it does NOT mean that I've agreed to automatically become "HIS." Hope that makes sense. Thanks for the input :) It makes sense to you and truly that's all that matters. But, the term "under consideration" originally came about by the folks that think that the submissive needs to prove their worth while the Dominant determines everything and how it progresses. I think it would just be better to say "I'm talking to someone right now".

ARIES83 -> RE: New with a question... (8/21/2012 6:18:51 PM)
Hypno-toad!

onceshattered -> RE: New with a question... (8/21/2012 6:23:16 PM)
Perhaps it might be better to say that, it would certainly be more clear to people who view my profile. I don't think that particular approach works for me though. On thinking about this some more in light of your last post, I still think that my post holds some merit, however perhaps it would be good for the OP to flat out ask the Dominant what "his" interpretation of the term entails. That way they are both on the same page. While the Dom that I am talking to accepts my reasons, the Dom that the OP is speaking to may envision it completely different.

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: New with a question... (8/21/2012 7:42:45 PM)
I will tell you here the exact same thing I said in Ask a Master: Do what you want to do. If he's not your Dom yet, he has no business telling you what to do. I think that a lot of Dominants use "under consideration" to take the sub "off the market" and make her/him prove she/he is worthy while the Dominant is still scouting for other prospects. The way I see it is, if you're under consideration, then so should he be. Is he putting that on his profile too? If he's not, then it's all B.S. as far as I'm concerned. Whenever I was considering someone, I always told him make sure he considers me carefully too, because it's a two way street. NBMG

SWDesertDom -> RE: New with a question... (8/21/2012 8:07:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poise Sub protection. sandwiches available when the smoke clears [image]http://i48.tinypic.com/wslhu9.jpg[/image] Since she's holding that thing without handguards over the barrel, her hands are probably going to be too burned for making sammiches.

sexyred1 -> RE: New with a question... (8/21/2012 8:16:43 PM)
Under consideration and under protection. Uh, no to each. I consider someone and they consider me; that has been the way it has always been since time began, Adam considered Eve, she considered Adam, but when he said she was under consideration, she said, what a pussy, and went with the snake. He also failed to protect her against the snake. So, the moral of the story is it is not necessary to publically announce you are being considered or considering since that always dooms the relationship to fail. And being under protection is such a hoot; I cannot imagine someone not able to protect themselves from their own choices.

poise -> RE: New with a question... (8/21/2012 8:47:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SWDesertDom Since she's holding that thing without handguards over the barrel, her hands are probably going to be too burned for making sammiches. That's where you come in, silly. [;)]

Kana -> RE: New with a question... (8/22/2012 4:48:23 AM)
quote: So, we should pay you for protection, eh? Ah, Psycho just likes the idea of you putting him behind bars for racketeering...or damn near anything else :-)

sheisreeds -> RE: New with a question... (8/22/2012 4:57:48 AM)
What no one seems to understand is that this whole conversation should be had BY her mentor and protector! A dominant should never negotiate with a potential submissive directly!

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