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RE: Have you ever given your girl grief - 2/23/2008 2:45:09 AM

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Have I ever yelled or given grief because of a question?

Frequently and with fervor. Which is not to say I'm proud of it, but I'm not ashamed either. It's situational, as all of the highly qualified "never, except when..." answers above me can attest.

There are MANY stupid questions out there, and the fact is, sometimes you just don't have time for the B.S. Actually, these days I barely have time for the nifty fun stuff.

However, comma, if you find yourself falling into a pattern of yelling and being short with questions, there's something very wrong. With you, them, or both. If you've been with the person for a while and the shortness is, say, less than a few weeks old, then figure out what's the underlying cause and fix it. If the relationship is new and you're doing a lot of nixing on their questions, then chances are you need to go find someone else to be with--the new sub isn't compatable or you're unsatisfied. Or they're unsatisfied, and they're provoking problems. Either way, find some space fast and regroup, because that's when communication is most important, and the nixing will leave a negative impression that can last for a damned long time.

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RE: Have you ever given your girl grief - 2/23/2008 2:57:32 AM

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Have you ever gotten upset by them asking a question or gotten yelled at for asking one?

BadOne

Sure. Himself is only human and sometimes I ask dumb questions. With my menopausal state, sometimes I ask the same dumb question two or three times in a very short (10 min) time frame.

The question doesn't even have to be dumb actually. My timing could be bad or he could be having a bad day and just lash out. I don't sweat the small stuff though, so it's no biggie. If he wants to answer it, he will in his own good time .. and if he doesn't, then he obviously wants me to remain in ignorance for some reason.

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RE: Have you ever given your girl grief - 2/23/2008 3:15:13 AM

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After thinking about it. Some questions will piss me off. It comes form ppl that are too lazy to do basic research. When my kids were younger was a perfect example. Dad what does "x" mean. "Go look it up" pretty soon they caught on, that when the information is available to them. They had better get up off the ass and look it up before coming and asking me.

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RE: Have you ever given your girl grief - 2/23/2008 4:16:46 AM

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I'm sure I've asked about as many dumb questions as I've been asked.

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RE: Have you ever given your girl grief - 2/23/2008 5:08:46 AM

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there are no stupid questions, only stupid answers

I hope my girl will ask me first before she asks help on the forum. If it are personal problems.
But if she wants advise to improve herself....then she is allowed to learn here.

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RE: Have you ever given your girl grief - 2/23/2008 7:56:40 AM

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ORIGINAL: eyesopened
i am in a TPE relationship, i am property, however in our dynamic, Master owns this particular piece of property because it comes with some cool, pre-loaded data that He has total access to via an interactive system. The property asks questions and like a better form of Tivo, learns what Master likes, dislikes, needs, and then stores the information to anticiapate Master's needs in the future.

I love it, eyesopened! Great. Can't wait to tell Master this one. Very cute. Thanks.............luci

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