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RE: Sub girls with vanilla guys - 4/14/2007 11:17:58 AM

kate

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i date nilla guys...... and i figure out what it is that THEY want and do it for them.....that is what they want and how i can serve them best...and it works out well for me.... i would rather date more Doms...but there are not very many where i live, so i work with what i have.....when you have Lemons, make kinky Lemonaid

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RE: Sub girls with vanilla guys - 4/16/2007 6:09:43 PM

wildtigress27

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I've been in a relationship with a guy for over 4 yrs now that started out vanilla. A year into that relationship i met a Dominant that swept me off my feet and i fell in love with him. Since he and i are both poly, i still kept seeing the vanilla guy. I told him about SG and our BDSM relationship and activities and it turned out that he has had an interest in it all of his adult life and just didn't know anyone to share it with. SG moved out west a couple years ago, and since we only see each other a couple times a year, if that, my former vanilla lover turned sadistic Dom is helping to fill the void in my life. So i guess not all vanilla guys are as vanilla as they may seem to be. At least in my experience.

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RE: Sub girls with vanilla guys - 4/16/2007 6:28:58 PM

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My ex-boyfriend couldn't be a Dom. Partly because I was too shy to completely tell him what I wanted, partly because he wanted me to be as much mother as girlfriend, and partly because it just didn't turn him on. Not everyone gets off on the same things. He was a sweet, loving guy, and he eventually learned that certain kinds of pain were pleasurable to me, but he didn't want to tie me up or blindfold me or any other bondage scenarios. And all that means is that we're not compatible sexually. It doesn't mean that he's impotent or uncreative or anything.
Some guys are submissive, they don't want a submissive girlfriend for obvious reasons. And some guys just aren't into BDSM. Not everyone likes the same things.
For example- I don't like peanut butter and chocolate combined. I like peanut butter, I love chocolate, but combining them seems wrong to me. Most people think I'm crazy when they hear this. But it's just who I am. People like what they like, and the only reason to be frustrated that a vanilla guy doesn't appreciate his sub girlfriend is because it means that either one, or both of them is ultimately not going to be fulfilled, and you could have been doing all kinds of kinky things to said girl while she was busy trying to get her boyfriend to do them instead.

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RE: Sub girls with vanilla guys - 4/16/2007 8:29:34 PM

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I also just can't comperhend this, but I also respect the fact that just not everyone likes the same things. I have dated nilla guys...And I always felt tlike something was missing, and felt incomplete. But my current realtionship started out nilla and turned into 24/7 lifestyle. I convayed my wants and needs and found he was also interested. We've been together 4 yrs.

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RE: Sub girls with vanilla guys - 4/17/2007 12:07:09 AM

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you mean you studied psychology?

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RE: Sub girls with vanilla guys - 4/17/2007 1:48:39 AM

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I remember first trying to get a guy I was involved with to try just a few things. Didn't go well haha. He didn't even approve of toys (not even handcuffs for goodness sakes). Needless to say it didn't work out. We're still good friends, but sexual opposites :)

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RE: Sub girls with vanilla guys - 4/17/2007 1:49:44 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SilkyAngel

just for a laugh

John Doe strode into the bedroom , wearing His leather Postal Worker's uniform. He sneered at the bound and gagged figure on the bed, as He reached into His latex mail bag. Jane Doe, a 29 year old schoolgirl, looked up at her Master, her eyes a mixture of fear and desire. She gasped as He brought a knife with a 9 ~ inch blade out of the bag.

"I saw something on the Internet which I want us to try," He said sternly,

"Are you willing?"

Jane nodded eagerly and mumbled, "yes Master".

John smiled as He bent close and cut her free of her bonds.

"Strip", He ordered as He began to remove His own clothes..

Jane quickly complied, wondering what new delights her beloved Master had in store for her.

"Lay back on the bed", He commanded.

Jane did so. John then laid on top of her.

"Tonight my dear", He whispered while reaching for the light switch.. "We are going ........... Vanilla!"

"NOOOOOOoooooooooo", cried Jane as the room plunged into darkness.

The above tale is true. John eventually left Jane to move in with a vanilla woman. They now have a 24/7 vanilla lifestyle, regularly enjoying home improvements, Tupperware parties and only having sex 3 times a year.

Jane was more fortunate and now attends Vanillas Anonymous, with help and guidance she is slowly recovering. Only last week she was able to stand up and say,

"I have the right to more than one sexual position!"

Vanilla is dangerous and should not be practiced at home. If anyone offers you vanilla sex, just say No.

This has been a BDSM safety awareness announcement.