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amiciaN -> RE: Submissive , but not for all (4/8/2007 6:03:28 PM)
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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo
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ORIGINAL: justinedoll
Sorry but something other is comunication between people who are not in any kind of bdsm relation, and other between sub and dom. But many people thinks if are dom every subs are for them.
I've seen this -- crosses gender, sex, and orientation lines though.
Fox used to be sub to almost everyone. One of the coolest things about our relationship (I'm sure in both our own opinions) is that he learned he could choose who to be submissive to and then he learned how to stand up for himself in other parts of his life too. He's even learned he's a good top when he wants to be with another bondage or rubber fetishist.
I think I tend to be attracted to smart but naturally submissive people in part because I feel like I can help them find their own power in other parts of their lives. Not only does that increase how much I value what they give to me when they submit to me but it makes me proud to watch them grow and become powerful in other things like jobs, family, friends, health, religion, etc.
Thank you for saying this, Tammy Jo. This is an extremely important part of the dynamic between NChaka and myself. During those periodic mental reviews of the state of the relationship that I and many other women seem so fond of, one look back at far I've come since Master placed His collar around my neck is all I need to reassure me that no matter where our path goes, I can depend on Him to lead me safely through it and go further in life in general than I ever dreamed possible. It has taken a year and a half to be able to really begin to set boundaries with family and friends that I can make stick. "I submit to One, not everyone," can be a very empowering concept for a person with a naturally deferential demeanor who finds it difficult or impossible to set appropriate boundaries. [:D]
May you find joy in living your chosen path--
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