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We are both adorable so it is expected there are flirters

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ORIGINAL: elizabethVI

We belong to a fairly large group and we attend munches as often as possible.  Lately some of the uncollared submissives/self proclaimed want to be submissives have been messaging offers and/or flirting with my Daddy. 

iv'e been in the lifestyle for 9 years and i would never do such a thing. i am just enough of a brat to rip their hair out. But i am just enough curious to try to maintain and see what's up.  i would welcome another submissive or a pet and Daddy has allowed me that option.  

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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

Here's my take on flirting.  It's something that has the potential for turning into something more.  Some people will flirt as a safe means to explore the potential with another human being.  This does not mean they will actually take it to a more serious level.

Face it, many people love the attention it brings of flirting or being flirted with. It's a bit like cuckolding or teasing in a sense.  I myself have flirted with beautiful women with no intentions of either taking them home or starting a serious relationship.  It was simply a moment in time for two people to enjoy the company and sexual tension between one another.

The real bitch is if there become stronger emotional ties or involvement that occur over time.  A few weeks ago, I had to have an in depth talk with a married female friend on mine.  I believe that situation is totally under control.  We have a deep connection, and it's very sensual and sexual as well.  However, we are using each other to tease ourselves with.  Kind of like cuckolding in a strange twisted way. 

Her and I have Danced extremely questionable together at a local club here.  To the point where people were watching us.  More like having sex with our clothes still on.  You know it's bad, when you come off the dance floor and you are hearing comments from black men that you actually dance like a black man. (no racial remarks intended, I'm just sharing things as it really is).

The point is neither her nor myself have the intentions of crossing the line.   I can't really think of anything else to say about this. You just have to have good solid communication going with the understanding and trust in your Dom/Master.  You should be able to express to him how you feel about this.  He should be willing to listen and take what you have to say into account.  In the end you can not control what he does or does not do.  His choices and decisions in life.  Trust me, no Dom/me likes to be pressured or otherwise pressured into doing something they don't want to do.  But a caring Dom/me should have an understanding heart and should be willing to hear your heart as well.

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And if you wouldnt tell your Daddy that others flerting with that bothered you how is he suposed to fix it.

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if it is really something that would bother you then it would effect you and mauybe eventaully cause a problem and he cant make calls and desistions if he doesnt know things... Master insists complete honesty from me and would consider that an ommition and he considers ommitions lies.

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ORIGINAL: ScreamerGirl

When I was with M in CA, a woman from our local group did this.

Turns out, M was ripe for the picking, and while he sternly told me that he wanted to experiment with multiple partners, I bluntly told him that it wasn't acceptable to me that he determine that *after he was flirted with, and we were done shortly thereafter, ending a 4 year relationship.

It was gut-wrenching, but the point is - if he was so easily lured, why on earth would I still want him?  If it wasn't her, it'd be someone else.  And I'd be damned if I'm going to have to worry about that.

If you have trust, you can smile and nod at these flirters, and they'll probably go away when they see they aren't getting a reaction from either of you.  But if you give them the slightest indication that they're riling you....well, you're in for a long ride.