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RE: How do you go about finding your first sub? - 3/27/2007 12:58:28 PM

Thadius

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Afternooner to ya LA,

It is only natural to have a response like that, hunting trips can be quite exciting...

I was also thinking that we might use you as bait to lure some of those male type subs in for the womenfolks? I mean if an attractive, intelligent, kinky, adventuress like yourself couldn't get them excited, they are probably dead.

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RE: How do you go about finding your first sub? - 3/27/2007 1:00:08 PM

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My first true sub/slave relationship happened because one of my friends warned a girl that was interested in me, that I was into some really kinky things. I think he was trying to warn her what she was getting into.

Anyways, he actually did us both a big favor. So social networking can be a big help, I still have yet to vouch for this online dating game. It's a bit crazy at times, I'll tell you that much.

The problem I find is that not an awful lot of girls who use the site live here. And the ones that live in the wider UK area rarely answer my messages, and when they do sooner or later (mostly sooner) they stop responding. No "hey, not interested in chatting anymore". They just stop chatting.

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RE: How do you go about finding your first sub? - 3/27/2007 1:04:00 PM

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First your going to need the right tools. A shovel, tarp and chocolate chip cookies........

*perks up* Did someone mention chocolate chip cookies?

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RE: How do you go about finding your first sub? - 3/27/2007 1:07:51 PM

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First your going to need the right tools. A shovel, tarp and chocolate chip cookies........

*perks up* Did someone mention chocolate chip cookies?

Oh the pit falls of those damn chocolate chip cookies! You don't know how many times I've accidently ruined somebodys good trap....

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RE: How do you go about finding your first sub? - 3/27/2007 1:11:24 PM

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Anyways, he actually did us both a big favor.

Sweet!

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RE: How do you go about finding your first sub? - 3/27/2007 1:14:51 PM

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First your going to need the right tools. A shovel, tarp and chocolate chip cookies........

*perks up* Did someone mention chocolate chip cookies?

Ah, ah! See! Already got a nibble!!

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RE: How do you go about finding your first sub? - 3/27/2007 2:24:38 PM

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You asked this question back in November

http://www.collarchat.com/m_661360/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#661360
I'm having trouble just finding a girl

Oh dear. I forgot all about that. Well, the advice is good!

You should be careful. LA knows every corner in the message boards! If you make a mistake, she'll know...
She sees all, like the Eye of Sauron...... Muhahaha

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RE: How do you go about finding your first sub? - 3/27/2007 2:53:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: KaineD

Hey everyone, hows it going?

So I was wondering what advice there is on going about finding your first sub. I have no real life experience of the lifestyle and I am 22. I recently joined a messageboard for people in Belfast and will be going to my first "munch", but I don't think there are any single girls on the site around my age.

But if there are, how would I approach them? I mean, do I take a regular approach, and just make normal conversation? Or since its a "munch" thing, would I be expected to take a different approach? Maybe "stake my claim" so to speak?

Outside of munches, how else can I find a girl to be my sub?

http://belfast.gumtree.com/

I've had a lot of success with the London version of The Gumtree. You'd be surprised how many vanilla girls out there want to try BDSM or even just a little light hearted bondage play. Simple stuff like hands tying, don't freak them out by going in with the big guns yet. Then when they're confident that you're an ok guy they may open up to you with what may seem to them an "extreme" fantasy like - being whipped. Shock. Horror.

Above all, remember they're people first.

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