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RE: Subs made to lose weight - 3/6/2007 7:54:38 AM

CoyoteWhips

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Well, as long as we're comparing diets, I've been thrilled with raw vegan. I've dropped 50 pounds, since Summer. Yeah, still a hundred pounds overweight, but now I know how it works, that'll come off. It's nice, because instead of limiting myself, it's now about getting healthy food and plenty of it. An healthy, well nourished body does not need to store fat. Who wouldn't want their submissive to be healthy?

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RE: Subs made to lose weight - 3/6/2007 4:41:11 PM

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A conversation I had with my Master today:

We were discussing the "comfort food" syndrome. You know what that is. It's when your life is reeling out of control and the only thing you can control is your food. It doesn't yell, it doesn't argue, and it doesn't do anything other than make you feel all full and cuddly, and when you're having difficulties in relationships, what better thing to do than to eat eat eat. After all, that'll show HIM huh?

Except that my Master had a different view. He says while comfort foods do feel good, women who are going through difficultes with relationships are doing things backward. Instead of eating eating and more eating, they SHOULD be dieting and exercising and all that. Yes, it's difficult, Yes, sometimes during those awful moments, walking to the refrigerator is nearly all you can muster, but just think!!

When you are dieting and exercising, you are allowing the difficult relationship to not take control of your life. You are doing something positive to make you feel better during times when not a whole lot feels good. You are exercising self-discipline which is always a good thing. But more importantly - heck, MOST importantly, you are doing the very thing that will either "get back" at that person who's "doing you wrong" and make him jealous (kind of a "see what you lost?" or am "aren't you sorry you gave this up?" thing), OR you will activate his interest again and possibly save the relationship you're feeling badly about, OR, you will activate someone ELSE'S interest and well...a new relationship when you're down can be very nice.

We were talking about losing weight and this post. In his words, "juliet, men are addicted to that ass. When a girl makes it look good again, they will fall over themselves trying to get some. They may deny it, they may tell you they're stronger than that, but they'd be lying. When they see an ass they like, they can't help it. It's like bears to honey. And really, which feels better? comfort foods or the attention? "

Y'know...he just may have a point here.

juliet

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RE: Subs made to lose weight - 3/6/2007 5:36:54 PM

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i was, until recently, very much in denial about weight loss. Nah, i didn't really need it, i wasn't that bad, etc.

And then someone hit me with a Mack truck right upside the head.

He said, "You deal with stress ineffectively." Now...that might not seem like much. But this person doesn't mince words. He says what he feels is true, and you can take it or leave it.

With his input, i began a very strict diet. i began with only lean meats, fruits, vegetables, and drinking only water and small amounts of fruit juice. i have slowly added in "natural" foods - eggs, nuts, whole grains. i stay below 800 calories every day, and do at least 30 minutes of exercise every day. i eat frequently throughout the day to boost my metabolism.

In a month and a half, i've lost 25 pounds. i have no intention of quitting - i have a wonderful support system, and people cheering me on.

i'm not sure i could have gotten to the point of being REALLY ready to confront this without his not-gentle-at-all push. He shoved me right into the fire and said "Deal with it." Before this point, i thought i was doing good things, making good steps in the direction of becoming healthier. But at that point, i realized that everything i was doing was not enough, and was never going to BE enough. But it took the opinion of someone like that to help me see that.

Things didn't end well, but i'll always be grateful for the time he took to help me see myself more clearly than i ever have.

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