daddysprop247
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Okay... allow me to ramble on here with a train of thought and maybe clarify my question just a bit.
There's been some discussions on the boards here recently that have demonstrated some aspects of domination that I hadn't really considered and in essence, my curiosity has been piqued. To a degree, I've discussed those things with FirmHandKY as they relate to him and me, but I'd really like to get a broader feel and perhaps gain some additional perspective.
What I'd like to know is if the "turn on" for you (or your significant other) is the exercise of power in a voluntary or involuntary manner. I'm not really talking about consent here... leaving aside the vehicles we use to establish and maintain relationships, I'm asking about the base pleasure you feel in dominating. What turns you on... gets your motor running... floats your boat?
Is it the power of having someone trust you to the point of turning all control over to you... of simply being in the position to say what and how things are done (voluntary submission or submission that is willingly given)?
Or is it the power of being able to exert control and overcome any obstacles (involuntary submission or making someone submit)? And to clarify, I'm not referring to "bratty" or argumentative behavior... but genuine reluctance to the point of refusal.
I suppose an example would be rape. Many have talked of rape fantasies, but there's also an acknowledgement that they can seem somehow less because in a BDSM relationship, there is always (hopefully) underlying consent. So they aren't really rape but merely role playing a rape.
If there were no social, moral or legal ramifications, does the idea of being able to select someone off the street that attracted you and do with them what you wanted, with no regard to what they wanted or whether they liked it or not, would that be the kind of dominance that turns you on most?
And if so, does having a submissive who willingly and happily agrees to submit to you... perhaps one who pledges you no limits and never gives you the opportunity to flex your "control" muscles... would that somehow diminish the "turn-on" for you?
*sighs* edited to correct poor grammar
every Dominant is different....some "get off" from the challenge of bending a reluctant or strong-willed submissive to their will, and some need total obedience and compliance in order to get their motors running, although you don't seem to hear about this sort of Dominant often. my Master is the latter type....he can't stand a willful, difficult, "make me" sort of submissive. however he also does not require that a submissive be happily, complacently submitting to his every whim either. He demands unquestioned obedience, without any hesitation....but a submissive need not be happy about it or do so without emotional struggle. in fact, knowing that a submissive is indeed struggling or suffering, yet still obeys instinctively, always, is part of the rush for him.
the first night we met in person, after a few hours of being very casual and "vanilla" together, with absolutely nothing of an erotic nature planned or anticipated by either of us, all of a sudden his "Dom horns" as he calls 'em came out, and he says "get over here and suck my dick"....now of course i was shocked/confused/surprised/etc., wondered what the heck was happening, yet as these thoughts raced through my mind, my body immediately moved to do as i was told. He points to this moment in our history as the first sign that he knew i was something special, and something he had to have. because despite the authoritative, even arrogant way in which he told me to suck his dick, in reality he was not expecting me to do it, or at least not without some questions/discussion about it first. instead he gave the order, i instantly moved to obey. no challenge. the epitome of the "easy submissive"....and for a Dominant like him, such a submissive is a treasure beyond value.
for a different type of Dominant, a submissive like myself would be worthless. they would say things like, if she always submits so easily, what would be so special about her submission to me? or where would the challenge lie in bending a fiesty strong sub to my will? that is why i am so grateful that there is someone out there for us all, even in this "alternative" lifestyle.
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