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RE: I dont get this - 12/26/2006 3:07:49 PM

ObedientYYC

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ORIGINAL: classykindasassy

People are always falling in love with the story they tell themselves about how someone is.

Very well put. My theory is that in the absense of real information, people subconsciously "fill in the blanks" according to their hearts desires. But you really can't know someone and see them objectively until you spend time with them in person.

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RE: I dont get this - 12/26/2006 7:25:17 PM

WhiteRadiance

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Both men and women are guilty of falling in love with the image and the fantasy. I get A LOT of emails from subs who know nothing about me, yet want to give themselves to me ( NO LIMITS), who claim to adore me and worship me.. and I can 't take them seriously. I chalk it up to immaturity, infatuation.. or the more common diagnosis of hornyitis.

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RE: I dont get this - 12/26/2006 9:25:51 PM

whisperedsighs

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

I wasnt sure where to post this, exactly. This seemed most appropriate.
I have been getting a lot of emails and messages from submissives on this and on other sites telling me that I am exactly what they are looking for in a Mistress. They tell me how perfectly we would work together, and how I was everything they ever wanted.
The thing I dont get... they know nothing ABOUT me. They occasionaly say this in an initial email, working off my profile. More often, its one or two messages in, after theyve asked me what my interests in BDSM are. Is that really all some people need to think your a perfect match? I always thought that you had to get to know someones personality before you could know whether or not youd be a good fit, not just their kinks.
Does anyone else have an opinion on this? I am sure I am not the only one who gets emails like this. Even though I am not looking (and many of these also have somewhere that they would be better for me than Angel is) I have trouble taking these people seriously.

Curious as to other peoples takes on it
DV

Hey DV,
I can completely relate to what you are saying. On another site I constantly seem to get winked at by submissive men....I clearly state I am a submissive. I think it is a matter of desperation. Not to say that only person who would be interested in you is desperate, but coming from someone who is a submissive, and constantly gets emails from other submissives on another site, I really have to say that desperation has to be a part of it. I have a feeling some people feel that if they can just "be, say or do" just the right thing, they will change your mind, that way they don't have to do the work to find the one who truely fits. Maybe pretending is easier?

Then again I could be completely wrong.
~whisper

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