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RE: insults when rejected - 11/15/2006 4:28:34 PM

candystripper

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i've been here so long, i laugh. My personal "best insult" said something like:

"Next time you blow off a Dom, at least have your hand on His dick so He'll get some pleasure from it."

i hadda give that sender points for crudity, humor and studity all in one -- not an easy thing to do.

Just let it slide, dear, it's nothing.

candystripper

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RE: insults when rejected - 11/15/2006 4:44:17 PM

RandomGAGirl

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I know what you mean and it can be extremely frustrating but I believe some people who react in such a childish way are hoping to bully you into speaking with them.

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RE: insults when rejected - 11/15/2006 5:02:49 PM

MysticFireTopaz

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SeattleDiamond
A few times now when I have said no thank you to emails and the result has been I receive insulting comments back. I have been told I am both old and ugly. First off I was young enough and pretty enough to attract their attention. If one hears back that another isn't interested just move on. There is no need to attempt to insult. When I get these responses it clear shows the sender isn't a Dom. As I have learned a Dom has self control.

I have gotten this type of response from male submissives as well when I tell them "no thanks." Some folks just don't handle rejection well, and the anonymity of the Internet gives them a sense of bravado they wouldn't have face-to-face.

Interestingly, I once met a male submissive at a real-time event who had sent Me a totally hateful and uncalled for response when I politely declined him, due to a reason that was clearly stated in My profile. He was entirely different in person and came off as a gentleman (though I knew otherwise.)

Lady Topaz

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RE: insults when rejected - 11/15/2006 7:37:17 PM

Ava82

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I'm getting some great ones lately. One guy told me that no one on this site knows more about BDSM than he does. We're having a lovely correspondence

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RE: insults when rejected - 11/15/2006 7:44:24 PM

MASTERRocker

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He knows more....? about 'Big, Dumb, Stupid Machoism' (another form of BDSM)???? 'smirks'

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RE: insults when rejected - 11/15/2006 7:46:03 PM

Ava82

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MASTERRocker

He knows more....? about 'Big, Dumb, Stupid Machoism' (another form of BDSM)???? 'smirks'

I told him he should come to the forums and impress everyone with his godly knowledge, but he hasn't read my email yet

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RE: insults when rejected - 11/15/2006 7:51:30 PM

DiurnalVampire

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I think I got an email from your guy Ava, he told me I could learn a thing or two from him.
Once I caught my breath and stopped laughing, I told him I wasnt interested.

I think the closest thing to a nastygram I have sent any of the subs that have ever emailed me has been "Read the profile which you have just told me was so interesting and please quote to me which part gave you the impression you'd be my perfect pet?"

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RE: insults when rejected - 11/15/2006 8:04:21 PM

MasterWilliam55

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Seattle,

There's no excuse for rudeness or lack of civility. It simply occurs in any arena where there is no accountability, where real life clashes with false expectations. I wish you better luck in the future and suggest that you take the high road and simply ignor them.

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RE: insults when rejected - 11/15/2006 8:32:08 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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quote:

ORIGINAL: candystripper

i've been here so long, i laugh. My personal "best insult" said something like:

"Next time you blow off a Dom, at least have your hand on His dick so He'll get some pleasure from it."

i hadda give that sender points for crudity, humor and studity all in one -- not an easy thing to do.

Just let it slide, dear, it's nothing.

candystripper

LOL...got to applaud that Dom for a most humorous comeback...that one belongs in the archives as best of the sour grapes...Tempting

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RE: insults when rejected - 11/15/2006 10:30:21 PM

CandleInTheWind

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Some people just dont know how to take a No and move on.
You should bask in the glory that you do and know your a better person for it.
Thankfully not everyone is rude.I toss the bad apples aside and keep looking.

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RE: insults when rejected - 11/15/2006 11:45:40 PM

Arpig

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quote:

When I get these responses it clear shows the sender isn't a Dom.

All it shows is that the sender decided to be rude, nothing more, nothing less.

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RE: insults when rejected - 11/15/2006 11:53:21 PM

leatherzack

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i've been rejected more than once but never insulted anyone (even when the replies were rude).

i try to remain as polite as possible because i respect the people i talk with. And, in the lifestyle even more than anywhere else, i think that respect is very important.

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RE: insults when rejected - 11/16/2006 1:27:25 AM

bignipples2share

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I wonder if that was the guy who was stating he was 'THE official mentor for this site..hmmm, he may have come up with a new line.

~Big

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RE: insults when rejected - 11/16/2006 2:51:17 AM

mons

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greetings

i found many who write me have a whole group of people they wish to play with trans dom/dom couples couples switches so many i have nothing agaisnt this type of people but it is not for so i explain to them why email me when i have not one of these types on my list and the become mad but i do reply with good intentions but well they try to tell me " what do i know so leave them alone" i done and move on i find always checking profile is the best way to check out what they are about . they do become mad and i am not a true domme is what they say oh well has this happen to others

mons

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RE: insults when rejected - 11/16/2006 3:22:48 AM

Fitznicely

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Plenty of doms don't have self control.

Insults are just sore losers who are hoping that they can goad/shame you into either trying to win their approval and "change their minds" or get into some sort of banter so they can try and "tame your beast." It's a ploy that actually works a lot of the time.

Sorry to go back to the third post in this thread, but WTF??

I'm not sure what amazes me the most, the fact that people actually do this, or that it works!

What's going through the minds of these people, that's what I want to know.

The first email I got on CM was - probably very predictably - someone mocking me for mentioning Gor, nothing of any note since, but I haven't been here long.

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RE: insults when rejected - 11/16/2006 3:27:44 AM

rubyleu

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maybe not all doms have self control, but a real Master does. along with patience, understanding, integrity, and all those wonderful things we learn from them..

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RE: insults when rejected - 11/16/2006 3:37:13 AM

PAVANE

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yes i am always polite when i get a rejection. thank the sub for the courtesy of replying and wish them good luck with their search.
i will admit i have been rude to the 2 or 3 gay men who have emailed my profile here. but that is because my profile clearly states i am straight. as far as i am concerned they have shown bad manners first by not reading my profile clearly.

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RE: insults when rejected - 11/16/2006 5:46:53 AM

Padriag

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavejali

People can be harsh.

And suddenly I'm reminded of some lyrics from People Are Strange

People are strange when youre a stranger
Faces look ugly when youre alone
Women seem wicked when youre unwanted
Streets are uneven when youre down

Given the topic, just seemed appropriate.

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RE: insults when rejected - 11/16/2006 5:50:16 AM

JerseyKrissi72

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Hon, don't pay no mind to what others say..you are beautiful just the way you are...I know what you mean though, I have had men call me fat, a whore, etc etc....I reply "you call me whore like it's a bad thing".. or "what kinda world would it be without a whore?" or "I'm such a whore but YOU were the one pursuing me" or "hell yeah i'm fat, i had four kids..your excuse is?"....ok i'm just big boned...lol...just laugh it off..they are immature..

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RE: insults when rejected - 11/16/2006 6:47:06 AM

mnottertail

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Hey-- I just say:

OK, baby-- no cockshots for you this christmas, and you can get up of your knees now, bitch......................

Ron

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