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SeattleDiamond -> insults when rejected (11/15/2006 1:40:21 PM)
A few times now when I have said no thank you to emails and the result has been I receive insulting comments back. I have been told I am both old and ugly. First off I was young enough and pretty enough to attract their attention. If one hears back that another isn't interested just move on. There is no need to attempt to insult. When I get these responses it clear shows the sender isn't a Dom. As I have learned a Dom has self control.

slavejali -> RE: insults when rejected (11/15/2006 1:43:06 PM)
People can be harsh.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: insults when rejected (11/15/2006 1:43:59 PM)
Plenty of doms don't have self control. Insults are just sore losers who are hoping that they can goad/shame you into either trying to win their approval and "change their minds" or get into some sort of banter so they can try and "tame your beast." It's a ploy that actually works a lot of the time.

SeattleDiamond -> RE: insults when rejected (11/15/2006 1:46:18 PM)
They will not goad me into anything other than blocking them. As for Doms with no self control, if they want to control me they have to be able to control themselves first.

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: insults when rejected (11/15/2006 1:52:02 PM)
Well from what I have seen of your picture you are neither, and the background also shows me a nice home and cleanliness.So hence ignore such ignorance..BTW I would suggest maybe a picture with a smile..you kinda look sad..[&o]...Tempting

windchymes -> RE: insults when rejected (11/15/2006 1:53:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavejali People can be harsh. ...when they're rejected! [:)]

SeattleDiamond -> RE: insults when rejected (11/15/2006 2:03:17 PM)
I have sent emails to Doms who's profiles stand out to me. If they say no thank you i wish them luck in their search and move on. There is no need to insult. It is rather childish to do so.

MistressSassy66 -> RE: insults when rejected (11/15/2006 2:09:46 PM)
Some people just dont know how to take a No and move on. You should bask in the glory that you do and know your a better person for it. Thankfully not everyone is rude.I toss the bad apples aside and keep looking.

MmakeMme -> RE: insults when rejected (11/15/2006 2:18:54 PM)
Today was the first day I had a rude message at CM. It was filthy, profane, disrespectful, and clearly against what my profile states. I am glad this sort seems to be the exception and not the rule. To the OP, when they message you so rudely, be happy they are letting you know who they really are so you can sidestep them (you know - like when you're out walking in the park and swerve avoid the big steaming dogpiles). [:D]

princessrn -> RE: insults when rejected (11/15/2006 2:19:40 PM)
in all walks of life there are people in the cold of the day just cant take rejection , i to have been on the end of insults when i said i wasn't interested it just summed up why i wasn't interested in them .... but on the other hand I'm known for being pretty straight some times so maybe i could of handled my answer with a little more tact !!! who knows I'm waffling aren't i ??? OK ill finish there think its bed time lol

LordODiscipline -> RE: insults when rejected (11/15/2006 2:47:44 PM)
*These people might be 'asses', but they also might be 'dominants'.* *After all, it is a personality trait - and, does not negate a person from being an immature dominant.* *The whole "a dominant never loses control" is a lot of BS...* *EVERYONE loses control on occasion. It's that "human" thing we hear so much about.* ~J quote: ORIGINAL: SeattleDiamond A few times now when I have said no thank you to emails and the result has been I receive insulting comments back. I have been told I am both old and ugly. First off I was young enough and pretty enough to attract their attention. If one hears back that another isn't interested just move on. There is no need to attempt to insult. When I get these responses it clear shows the sender isn't a Dom. As I have learned a Dom has self control.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: insults when rejected (11/15/2006 2:53:42 PM)
Not all Dominants are self controlled. Nor are they necessarily al mature enough to handle rejection. I agree with LA, a lot of them use the insults to try and push your buttons. A lot of them will tell you also that you arent a "real sub" or a "true slave" if you turn them down. Its a tactic to try and get the response they wanted. As for teling you your old or unattractive, sour grapes. If they canot have what they wanted, tehey make a show of not really having wanted it in the first place. DV

Kalira -> RE: insults when rejected (11/15/2006 2:58:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SeattleDiamond A few times now when I have said no thank you to emails and the result has been I receive insulting comments back. I have been told I am both old and ugly. First off I was young enough and pretty enough to attract their attention. If one hears back that another isn't interested just move on. There is no need to attempt to insult. When I get these responses it clear shows the sender isn't a Dom. As I have learned a Dom has self control. Some have a hard time handling rejection, so they lash out in anger. Consider it a blessing. If they lose control over such a small thing, what would happen over something larger?

Mercnbeth -> RE: insults when rejected (11/15/2006 3:01:00 PM)
quote: A few times now when I have said no thank you to emails and the result has been I receive insulting comments back. Seattle, Consider it proof that your judgment is good and you have made the correct decision. Good luck! Stay confident!

SeattleDiamond -> RE: insults when rejected (11/15/2006 3:19:53 PM)
I understand people get upset over things. Everyone does. The difference is standing there in one's face or stepping back and regaining composure. And yes maturity plays into it, but for good grief in thier 40s and still playing this little temper fit game! May take some time and work towards growth if one feels they need to lash out like that.

LordODiscipline -> RE: insults when rejected (11/15/2006 3:23:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SeattleDiamond And yes maturity plays into it, but for good grief in thier 40s and still playing this little temper fit game! May take some time and work towards growth if one feels they need to lash out like that. *Someone once stated that we remain at the core who we were when we were in Kindergarten -* *I was a quiet, shy and unassuming boy.* ~J

Kalira -> RE: insults when rejected (11/15/2006 3:26:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LordODiscipline quote: ORIGINAL: SeattleDiamond And yes maturity plays into it, but for good grief in thier 40s and still playing this little temper fit game! May take some time and work towards growth if one feels they need to lash out like that. *Someone once stated that we remain at the core who we were when we were in Kindergarten -* *I was a quiet, shy and unassuming boy.* ~J PFFT [8D] LOL you managed to deceive them all didn't you ? [8D]

LTRsubNW -> RE: insults when rejected (11/15/2006 3:31:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SeattleDiamond A few times now when I have said no thank you to emails and the result has been I receive insulting comments back. I have been told I am both old and ugly. First off I was young enough and pretty enough to attract their attention. If one hears back that another isn't interested just move on. There is no need to attempt to insult. When I get these responses it clear shows the sender isn't a Dom. As I have learned a Dom has self control. Yeah, well...get used to it. It's the web. (Ya know?)

LTRsubNW -> RE: insults when rejected (11/15/2006 3:33:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LordODiscipline quote: ORIGINAL: SeattleDiamond And yes maturity plays into it, but for good grief in thier 40s and still playing this little temper fit game! May take some time and work towards growth if one feels they need to lash out like that. *Someone once stated that we remain at the core who we were when we were in Kindergarten -* *I was a quiet, shy and unassuming boy.* ~J (I never could find my smokes when I was 5)

TreSwank -> RE: insults when rejected (11/15/2006 3:55:29 PM)
I rarely insult people nowadays when I feel rejected...........I just crouch down in the shower and cry.

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