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RE: da whining of da subs vs. da whining of da dominants - 10/16/2006 7:47:35 PM

hsagnev

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ORIGINAL: MissyRane

dadada.. ok I have a question, why does it seem that so many subs/slaves whine because they can't find a dominant but you can barely ever bump into a dominant whine about that they can't find a real sub/slave. (or well that's my experience..)
I mean just think about it. Is it that because someone is submissive they believe they're more entitled to whine than the dominants or is it just that they become submissive 'cause they're attention freaks? or or or?
Is it just me or is the number of subs/slaves whining about those things increasing like 220% a day?

I haven't posted on these message boards for very long so I can't comment on recent increases in whining. As for subs complaining verses doms that do not complain I thought the reason for this had to do with ratios of subs to doms being larger leaving, in general, doms satisfied and a number of subs unsatisfied.

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RE: da whining of da subs vs. da whining of da dominants - 10/16/2006 11:58:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: MissyRane

dadada.. ok I have a question, why does it seem that so many subs/slaves whine because they can't find a dominant but you can barely ever bump into a dominant whine about that they can't find a real sub/slave. (or well that's my experience..)
I mean just think about it. Is it that because someone is submissive they believe they're more entitled to whine than the dominants or is it just that they become submissive 'cause they're attention freaks? or or or?
Is it just me or is the number of subs/slaves whining about those things increasing like 220% a day?

Hello A/all,

I personally decided years ago that whining about not having a submissive in my life was not an overly Dominant (one would think a Dominant was in control of their life) approach.

So I decided instead to throw perfect strangers into speakers on the dance floor and send out the odd email.

So one day I question somebodies blind devotion to the ideals of Karl Marx as they had posted in their profile.

It was all downhill from there.

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RE: da whining of da subs vs. da whining of da dominants - 10/17/2006 12:04:03 AM

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My observation, the majority of posters on here at least.
The subs are looking, and the Dom/Dommes already have their subs.
That could be why there is so much more whining in the subs, they are the ones with less luck finding what they want.

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RE: da whining of da subs vs. da whining of da dominants - 10/17/2006 12:10:00 AM

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To be honest, I have not noticed a large percentage of regular posters that whine about not finding someone with a few notable exceptions. They wander in from the other side from time to time....

I have noticed since being here

Submissives whining that dominants do not read their profiles (me included)
Submissives whining about doms that tell them to get on their knees or other abrasive orders
Submissives that whine about fakers

I have read dommes that whine about do-me subs that expect sex
I have read doms that whine about submissives that do not email them back
Dom/mes bemoaning fakes and wannabes
Dom/mes that whine about disappearing submissives

Both have whined about taking of money (male submissives about prodommes, and male doms about submissives from Nigeria)

Now I whine too, so this is not a personal attack on whiners... really it isn't, it is just an observation on my part

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RE: da whining of da subs vs. da whining of da dominants - 10/17/2006 2:19:49 AM

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LOL

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RE: da whining of da subs vs. da whining of da dominants - 10/17/2006 2:45:24 AM

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Seems to me that the whiners are trying to get a free lunch by recounting their sorry stories like theyre mythical tales in some oral tradition, that we can all benefit from.

In other words, whining, dining and something else that slips my mind right now.

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RE: da whining of da subs vs. da whining of da dominants - 10/17/2006 3:09:21 AM

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Ok this thread caught my attention for many reasons.I think the whinging is about equal on both sides,one of the predominant explination for this is that people come to the "scene" for the wrongreasons and there fore have totally wrong expectations.I got involved in te real life scene a couple of years ago and even i had the wrong idea's about what to expect,lucky enough i had many friends within the lifestyle to pojnt me in the right direction.Also the whinging is a negative attention seeking tactic,you will get berated for whining but ,your getting the atention aren't you ,so there fore it's people either sub or dom need teaching the difference.

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