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RE: How open are You? - 10/2/2006 11:56:28 PM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

and you don't want to know about the cool new anal trick I tried last night.



Since we're not at work right now.. is this going to be a new thread or can you just share it here?

Celeste

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RE: How open are You? - 10/3/2006 12:07:26 AM   
becca333


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Status: offline 		I'm just boringly ordinary at work.  They know I have an enjoyable private life, but no specific details.  I don't know what they do behind closed doors, either.  And I don't really care.  I have a circle of lifestyle friends, and I have my co-workers, and I have my family, and I'm probably a slightly different person in each group.  But what the heck, works for me.

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RE: How open are You? - 10/3/2006 3:00:33 AM   
Mavis


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Status: offline 		i don't work outside in a corporate setting anymore, but when i did, it was kind of funny when co-workers would be asking if my date after work was with hubby, or with some hot new guy or gal. 

i was pretty open about our open marriage, and dispelling a lot of silly pre-conceptions about it was ok for me.  i realised there was a "class-clown" way to do it, or an enlightening way to do it, but it did keep me on my toes to make sure the information i shared didn't get loose and play post office.   

One thing to remember, if you're going to be out in any way about doing something outside of the societal norms, best be prepared to work harder, perform higher, and serve the needs of the employer at a level that keeps your life choices off the front burner.  i also found it was nescessary to be doubly supportive of those who choose to embrace societal norms if you expect them to consider your choices as valid as well.

(please excuse 4 am grammer, spelling,  and sentence composition. )

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RE: How open are You? - 10/3/2006 3:20:55 AM   
cuddleheart50


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Status: offline 		I'm a very private person, no one at work has any idea. 

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RE: How open are You? - 10/3/2006 3:27:15 AM   
OhReallyNow


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How open are you in the Vanilla World?
Are You a Master ~Mistress~Submissive~Slave~Switch
at work and come home and do the opposite?

this slave is very open to the vanilla world, for those who take the time to ask her questions about her own life. While at work, this slave has to make life/death decisions, yet she does each with the thought behind them of how Master would perceive each decision. Would he be proud of his property? or would he be displeased by how she handled herself? In that same vein, this slave has an unmentionable to raise. She does so with the same thoughts in mind. Is she doing the right thing? Would Master approve? Or would he offer up some different advice?
quote:

  While at work how much of Your Bdsm
personality do You let people see?


this slave finds no reason to hide her personality from anyone. She is the same while at work or at home.
 
this slave has said before that everything she does, down to the smallest decision, is done with her owners pleasure in mind. If Master finds pride in the way his slave handled herself in the vanilla world, then this slave is happy. If Master is displeased with the way she talked to someone, or in the way she handled something, he tells her, and she corrects the behavior accordingly.
 
this slave does not distinguish between her world and theirs; she only views it as ours.

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RE: How open are You? - 10/3/2006 3:29:25 AM   
SirLordTrainer


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Status: offline 		Im fairly open although I dont wear it on My sleeve per se, but I do wear My leather vest out alot. If someone asked more n likely I would tell em straight up. But moreover I usually get '' are you in a band'' or.. 'do you ride a harley'  LOL

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RE: How open are You? - 10/3/2006 5:05:09 AM   
teamnoir


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Status: offline 		My role in the scene is that of shaman, explorer, sex mage. In that sense, yes, that role tends to permeate much of how I see and interact with the world.

Top, bottom, dom, sub, daddy, kid, those are just roles I play in scene or in constructed relationships. They aren't who I am. They're just things I do from time to time or with particular people.

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RE: How open are You? - 10/3/2006 5:13:03 AM   
smilezz


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Status: offline 		I'm out.....i don't necessarily go out of my way to broadcast that, but i also don't have a problem in speaking with anyone about it.  I figure if the Government knows a bit about what i do, i could really care less what other's think about it.

I do agree with Em though, i don't walk in to work the next day and say:  Ohh, y'all should hear about the spiked paddle and all the marks it leaves.

Happy Tuesday!

~smilezz~

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RE: How open are You? - 10/3/2006 5:17:53 AM   
stillexploring


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Status: offline 		i am 100% private , noone knows  i  have strong desire of being sub ,  that is the reason i did not attact pic here ,

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RE: How open are You? - 10/3/2006 7:02:51 AM   
Silvermoon


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Status: offline 		We are 100% open about our lifestyle. Friends, Family, Work.
I've actually had co-workers attend events after discussion at lunch, my neighbors have vested interests...my family knows, but pretty much ignores the fact.

Luckily (or perhaps it's BECAUSE I don't hide it) I have never had negative impact on work, friends or family. I think it also helps that we have surrounded ourselves with our peers.

I do not feel ashamed, so I feel no need to hide who I am. I am tactful, but not private.

Sincerely,
Silver

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RE: How open are You? - 10/3/2006 7:06:05 AM   
OhReallyNow


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ORIGINAL: Silvermoon

We are 100% open about our lifestyle. Friends, Family, Work.
I've actually had co-workers attend events after discussion at lunch, my neighbors have vested interests...my family knows, but pretty much ignores the fact.

Luckily (or perhaps it's BECAUSE I don't hide it) I have never had negative impact on work, friends or family. I think it also helps that we have surrounded ourselves with our peers.

I do not feel ashamed, so I feel no need to hide who I am. I am tactful, but not private.

Sincerely,
Silver

perfectly stated

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RE: How open are You? - 10/3/2006 7:10:48 AM   
LadyJulieAnn


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ORIGINAL: knees2you

How open are you in the Vanilla World?
Are You a Master ~Mistress~Submissive~Slave~Switch
at work and come home and do the opposite?
 
While at work how much of Your Bdsm
personality do You let people see?
 
I'm becoming more of a Switch so I have shown
both sides outside of my Home.
 
quote:

"I am the Rock, You are not."

 
Ant, & LilBecque


I live in the "vanilla" world and am open to BDSM.  My participation in BDSM is very sexual in nature, so I don't show this side of me outside of my relationship.  I do not consider being assertive and confident in the "vanilla" world the same as showing my dominant side in my BDSM world.  They are two different things to me.

Be well,
Julie

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RE: How open are You? - 10/3/2006 7:31:47 AM   
PrimitiveLogic


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Status: offline 		I like the "in the closet with the door open" quote. Many people in my ER know about my interests...not so much about my practice. I use my background to educate and stimulate conversation about relationships in all conceptual formats. Many know I had been active in the writing aspect here; having had numerous things published in Ds newsletters, writing groups, and such over the past 10 years. I have done a dozen open mic poetry jam readings and a few private ones, of my Ds erotica...the largest audience of 225. So my artistic nature flows into my theatrical into my professional...I try to be subtle and offer invitations...no need to be intrusively obvious.
Of course at work, they all giggle when I slyly post the 'spanking list for today' on the staff lounge board...

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RE: How open are You? - 10/3/2006 7:45:41 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I do not intentionally hide anything but I don't run around "hey, guess what!!" either. If someone were to ask me a question I would answer it honestly. I guess it is really not an issue. 

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RE: How open are You? - 10/3/2006 7:51:44 AM   
TrueCalling


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Status: offline 		How 'open'....who i am isn't something i've ever felt need to 'hide'. My family knew twentysomething years ago and anyone in my life is welcome to know - what they choose to do regarding it is on them. If a person cannot look past that in another person i don't believe i'd want them in my life anyways. As for work, i once explained a decade long absence of work history to a prospective employer with the truth..and yes, i was offered the job! I opted to open a small construction company where i engage in the physical 'work' at times with the crew/s and rarely have to assert myself.. i do admit to being the 'coffee slave' at times, though!
 
colleen

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RE: How open are You? - 10/3/2006 8:01:11 AM   
maudite


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Status: offline 		I don't discuss it with people unless I feel it's appropriate (like if someone asks me, or they're already discussing the subject). However, I'm also an obvious nonconformist who makes a lot of dirty jokes, some of them bondage-related; I expect most people who know me have figured it out by now. (They often assume I'm a dom, however, since my everyday persona is, er, less than submissive.)

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RE: How open are You? - 10/3/2006 8:22:07 AM   
hypnoticblue


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Status: offline 		I'm a submissive...  my BDSM life and my personal life are complete opposites.  I'm open about it with a few very VERY close friends.  If you told my other friends that I was a BDSM sub, they'd laugh at you.  It's not in my personality at all.

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RE: How open are You? - 10/3/2006 8:29:17 AM   
MsKatHouston


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How open are you in the Vanilla World?


I don't exactly hide it but what I do within my relationships pretty much stays private unless in a BDSM venue. If someone finds out, I'm OK with it.  I neither flaunt it nor take great pains to hide it. 

quote:

Are You a Master ~Mistress~Submissive~Slave~Switch
at work and come home and do the opposite?


I am not an anything while at work but a worker.  I own a business, I have clients.  Sometimes I have to be a leader, sometimes assertive, sometimes a follower, teacher, student, sometimes accommodating, sometimes bend over backwards.  Work is work and I do not mix D/s with it. 
 
quote:

While at work how much of Your Bdsm
personality do You let people see?


My personality is my personality and it carries over in my relationships both personal and professional.  I don't change my personality for a submissive.  I may engage in forms of play and some rituals and protocols but my personality on how those get carried out does not really change.  So my personality I would say is pretty consistent.  However, things that go on in private stay there. 


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RE: How open are You? - 10/3/2006 10:59:06 AM   
WhipTheHip


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Status: offline 		I am pretty open all around

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RE: How open are You? - 10/3/2006 11:13:58 AM   
SlaveAkasha


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Status: offline 		I don't run around and scream it to the world, but I am not ashamed of it either.  If someone asks me, I am very open.  I will be wearing my collar soon, and know it might get a question or two, that doesn't bother me though, I am happy to share.
 
I guess after coming out of the closet (bi) to my very conservative family.. I just decided I won't ever hide or be ashamed of who I am.  If people don't like it, I figure it's their problem and not mine.
 
I have learned to "Live Outloud", if someone wants to close their ears, more power to'em.
 
Akahsa

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