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new and confused - 9/13/2006 8:56:41 PM   
prettiekitten


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RE: new and confused - 9/13/2006 8:59:49 PM   
Estring


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RE: new and confused - 9/13/2006 8:59:56 PM   
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Why why why are all the cute guys on here subs, while all the Dom guys are scary?

Cuz you're new and giving the doms power over your feelings.


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RE: new and confused - 9/13/2006 9:00:33 PM   
Aubre


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RE: new and confused - 9/13/2006 9:01:18 PM   
cravespleasure


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there are hottie doms! besides.. when your eyes are faced down, tears streaming and that nasty little voice is telling you what a dirty wet slut you are .. it's not like you are going to notice whether he's "cute" or not :)

i've noticed that no matter what i initially think about an individual.. depending on how i get to know them better i will begin to think they are more/less attractive. an incredible Dom will look absolutely gorgeous to me regardless of whether he's considered an attractive specimen to the rest of the world.

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RE: new and confused - 9/13/2006 9:01:45 PM   
mstrjx


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What's cute to you?  What's scary?

What do you think of my avatar?

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RE: new and confused - 9/13/2006 9:04:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: prettiekitten

This question was lame- less a question and more me venting-  I am deleting it. But thanks for the feedback!


Seems you deleted too late huh?  Yes, lame post but one is allowed.

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RE: new and confused - 9/13/2006 9:07:28 PM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: prettiekitten

Why why why are all the cute guys on here subs, while all the Dom guys are scary?


MMMMM scarryyyy, part of their charm

Perhaps like LA said, it is a perception on your part because your new feelings overwhelm you and you feel a little like a deer in the headlights? Perhaps you are projecting your fears on to them? I am just suggesting questions to ask yourself about why you think Doms are so scary

I will let you in on a secret, doms are just people, some are good and some are not so good and some are not nice at all. Some are rich, some are poor, some are smart and some are not. Some are into serving their community, and some are not...

Perhaps you can find a few doms just to be friends with until you get over those fears? What we have knowledge about scares us less....Just some thoughts

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RE: new and confused - 9/13/2006 9:07:47 PM   
EvilGeoff


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ORIGINAL: prettiekitten
Why why why are all the cute guys on here subs, while all the Dom guys are scary?


*grins evilly*

And here I thought I was cute AND scary.  And no, I'm not a switch!

Bwahahahahaha!

YIK,
- Geoff

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RE: new and confused - 9/13/2006 9:07:54 PM   
AbstractSavant


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Status: offline 		I don't think I'd EVER want a dom I would call "cute".

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RE: new and confused - 9/13/2006 9:11:58 PM   
juliaoceania


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http://www.collarchat.com/m_583447/tm.htm

Hopefully this helps, if nothing else it might make you smile

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RE: new and confused - 9/13/2006 9:29:51 PM   
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What do you think of my avatar?


Ummm, Jeff... actually I can't help thinking of you as Dr. Frank-n-Furter from the Rocky Horror Picture Show.  *blushes*

Sorry.

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RE: new and confused - 9/13/2006 9:47:23 PM   
popeye1250


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Status: offline 		You want a "cute" Dom? You mean a "pretty boy" like Tom Cruise?

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RE: new and confused - 9/13/2006 10:14:55 PM   
Owned1


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Status: offline 		LOL I guess someone has been reading too many BDSM fiction.  This is real life, some are cute scary short fat tall bald hairy big feet little feet all their teeth removable teeth.......the list goes on.  And to each their own as to what scary is and what cute is.

In all honesty my dog is cute, my Master is Dominant looking perhaps scary to some but to me  mmmmmmm that "look"  well ..makes me weak in da knees.

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RE: new and confused - 9/13/2006 10:20:34 PM   
ownedgirlie


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ORIGINAL: mstrjx

'Why do birds suddenly appear?'


LOL Thanks!  I'll have this song in my head for the rest of the week!


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RE: new and confused - 9/14/2006 3:46:33 AM   
mstrjx


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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

quote:

ORIGINAL: mstrjx

'Why do birds suddenly appear?'


LOL Thanks!  I'll have this song in my head for the rest of the week!




:: a tip of the hat :: My pleasure!  Feel free to sing along next time.

And to losttreasure, Well I suppose a Tim Curry comparison isn't so bad, is it?  A little less British perhaps, but not a bad way to be thought.

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RE: new and confused - 9/14/2006 4:57:22 AM   
Lashra


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RE: new and confused - 9/14/2006 7:39:01 AM   
CreativeDominant


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Status: offline 		After many years of just living, I've found that good looks can be an extremely effective camouflage for people that are jerks.  And ironically enough, their good looks keeps the "jerk" factor hidden far longer than it would be if they were not quite as good-looking.  I've also found that there are some extremely interesting, kind people beneath those good looks.  However...I've found the same to be true, maybe even a little more in my experience as regards the interesting and hot and kind people, beneath looks that weren't quite as good.

Everyone's taste varies.  I have my own perception of what is good looking.  Luckily (I think, anyway), I don't get involved with people either as friends or at deeper levels on a looks-only basis.  For me, that has led to some wonderful encounters and some wonderful friends.

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RE: new and confused - 9/14/2006 8:08:52 AM   
tade


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Status: offline 		Our Slave responded to this by saying that she wouldn't be able to submit to a man that does more plucking and tweezing and worrying about his hair than she does, but she thinks she just might be able to top one. She's coming along nicely....lol



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RE: new and confused - 9/14/2006 8:37:10 AM   
WhipTheHip


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quote:

ORIGINAL: prettiekitten
This question was lame- less a question and more me venting-  I am deleting it. But thanks for the feedback!


I wouldn't say I'm cute.  Sad for me, nobody thinks I'm scary.  And I am just a Dom wannabe.  I am much
more into bondage and S&M, than I am into D/s.   But in any relationship, I need to be captain, and need
an inseparable first-mate to work with me.   But as captains go, I'm the least commanding.  Those who
follow me do so because I am not commanding, because I really care about others, and because I cater
to the needs that others have.   I am a dominant with a submissive side.   The more dominant people are, 
the more dominant I become.  The more submissive people are. the more submissive I become, but I
always remain a little more dominant. 

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