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Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 11:49:11 AM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		Think back as to how your parents disciplined you....how does it compare to your play preferences?

My parents were very good at mind fu*ks... it's also my favorite form of play.

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RE: Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 11:54:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		I was hardly ever physicially disciplined as a child; my parents did things like grounding us. But - I seem to prefer physical discipline, so I don't see a correlation, unless it's due to something I lacked while growing up, which could be the case.

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RE: Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 11:56:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		I used to get the shit beat out of me, a leather horse cinch doubled over......among other things.

I have never spanked my children.

I despise the end-it-all painsluts.

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(I have on occasion spanked the monkey, however)

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RE: Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 12:32:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		What got me thinking onthis is a post I did over in the humor section. 

Someone mentioned that all Mom had to do was give them "The LOOK!"  

That opened a floodgate of memories. :) 

My mother would stop my upsets  (like if I was complaing I was bored on a rainy day) by saying "Bored?  I'll GIVE you something to be Bored about!"  Or if I was crying, she  would "What are you crying about?? I'll GIVE you something to CRY about!".

Now, at this time there was a cartoon called "Felix the Cat".  Felix had a "magic bag of tricks". Anything he needed he could find in that magic bag. I figured that my mother had such a bag..from which she could  retrive things that would give me "Something to be bored about"  or "Something to cry about".  Needless to say..she never had to admonish me twice.  These days that kind of behaviour would land them in court and we kids in a foster home.  But back then..it just built character.


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RE: Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 12:39:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		My little sister has two daughters, who are close to eachother in age. I remember when they were small, she'd get tired of referee-ing their fights, so when they screamed at her: "Mom, Jenny hit me!", etc. - she'd just say: "Is anybody bleeding? because if not, I am not coming in there..." Ha!

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RE: Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 12:50:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		My parents sent me to my room a lot to "think" about what I did wrong, and spanked me maybe 5 times throughout my life. There was some guilt attached to my discipline, make me feel bad about what I did, and I would not be likely to repeat it... Only worked because I adored them..smiles

I do not think my discipline as a child plays into my play preferences.

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RE: Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 1:01:55 PM   
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My parents sent me to my room a lot to "think" about what I did wrong, and spanked me maybe 5 times throughout my life. There was some guilt attached to my discipline, make me feel bad about what I did, and I would not be likely to repeat it... Only worked because I adored them..smiles

I do not think my discipline as a child plays into my play preferences.


I would think that all a Dom would have to say to you is that you "disappointed" him about something.. and would that cut you to the quick.. would this be accurate?

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RE: Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 1:04:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		When I was a young girl, I'd get time outs and occasionally a belt.

After age 7, I honestly don't remember being disciplined or punished ever.  I was the "perfect daughter" and simply hid away anything I knew my mother wouldn't approve of (like having sex.). 

For me, no, nothing in how I was raised had anything to do with the kind of kinks and style of play that I enjoy.

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RE: Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 1:07:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		My mother was an expert at makeing me regret what I did wrong WAY before she even found out. I would put myself through hell anticipating the punishment, wich wuld often be nothing worse than a good talking to and maybe a few days without TV or something. 
My personal techniques arent ANYTHING like hers were when it cmoes to doleing out th epunishments.  However, making sure my boy dreads what might happen to him when he has done something wrong is a goal. With me, I was so worried about the consequence, I often avoided the misdeed.

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RE: Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 1:08:21 PM   
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No.  I do not remember any punishments that relate to what I enjoy or do not enjoy today.
I did not tend to get into trouble very much anyway.
 
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RE: Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 1:14:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		My mum shouted, screamed and grounded me. My dad just talked to me. I used to find it hilarious when my mum shouted and couldnt help but laugh. I still laugh when shouted at now.
My worst punishment now is physical or being ignored so i dont think my upbringing made any odds.

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RE: Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 1:14:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		greeting lotus
i wish we met ,but ,on your post ,if i may say....
i read an article i think is very true,
that:
siblings have a great effect on the way you are ,and what you turn out, to be
i can say personally speaking: my 2 very- sadistic- siblings give me flash backs ,when i don't want them ,when i am playing ,intimately ,with my signifigant-other.
parents are all imagination....,not, as influential'.
i think it was feb. news week ,2006,not sure; feature article; title :siblings  influence who really we are....

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RE: Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 1:15:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		Lotus, I remember Felix the Cat.
Let's just say that comming from an Irish Catholic family from Boston who's two parents both went to parochial (Catholic) school that they "didn't spare the rod" with any of us.
I'll go into detail later with some funny stories.

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RE: Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 1:24:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		I was an easy kid to raise for the most part. I remember getting sent to my room on occasion and maybe a swat on the behind now and then. All my dad had to do was look at me and tell me he was disappointed and I was bawling.

As a parent I always tried discussing issues first, if that didn't work I got more tough. I was pretty much a hard ass as a mom, they didn't get away with much in many ways. I remember I often heard "but ****'s parents said he/she cooooooooooouuuuuld!" To which I would reply "**** is not my child, you are and I said NO!"

In play I am probably alot more sadistic than they would have dreamt of doing, either mentally or physically. I don't see any similarity for one primary reason. We are talking about adults in play, not children.


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RE: Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 1:34:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: jamesthehumanrug

parents are all imagination....,not, as influential'.
i think it was feb. news week ,2006,not sure; feature article; title :siblings  influence who really we are....


There was something about the influence of siblings a few weeks back in Time Magazine also :)

I think I learned sadistic technique from my older brothers..and the mental domination from my Mother.

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RE: Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 1:46:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		As a child I was always hit with something, be it a hand, wooden spoon, ruler, belt, doubled over cable, switch off a tree, back end of a knife. Usually I was spanked, which is something I don't really care for now a days, its more like, whatever,, but once a whip, cane or flogger come into play, I melt. I was usually hit on the ass. My parents found out that physical punishment didn't work and then resorted to the dreaded being grounded.

Of course, I also spent my childhood in the woods hitting my friends with sticks and vice versa.

It is possible that it is my childhood that has enabled me to take the intensity of pain I take, and enjoy it. However, I think it is the fact I enjoy tradition so much that I prefer floggings applied to the back over any other body part. 

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RE: Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 3:40:38 PM   
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RE: Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 3:42:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think that is more gears towards hinting at childrena nd minors being involved in something they shouldnt be.   Not remeniscing back to when WE were the children and minors.

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RE: Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 3:42:59 PM   
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RE: Early Discipline-Present Technique - 8/21/2006 3:44:29 PM   
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Threads mentioning children or hinting at minors are not allowed on collarme and are against site TOS's


Ok, see this is where Ive always gotten confused about the TOS and what it really means when they say no unmentionable speak because we were all unmentionables at one time. Are we not allowed to say "when I was such-and-such an age", as long as it is clear that we are speaking now as an adult and we are not talking about anything sexual that happened when we were not an adult? I have seen threads put on notice and posts pulled that seemed really harmless but violated the letter of the law and then Ive seen threads and posts that talk about past abuse etc etc that don't get pulled.
Does anyone know exactly where the line is drawn?

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