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LadyHugs -> RE: Meeting as Equals (7/7/2006 6:16:43 PM)
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Dear songofeire, Ladies and Gentlemen;
You wrote;
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ORIGINAL: songofeire
This question made me think about the various meanings of the word equal...such as equal in what way, and does having power make you better than, and does reliquishing power make you less than, and other odd mental meanderings.
As groups, I do not believe that Dominants have greater value than submissives. The relationship between them is symbiotic...they need each other equally, in order to have the meetings or the lives that they want.
Within a relationship, it might at first seem that the Dominant's needs are the ones being served, until one looks deeper and sees that the submissive's need to serve and obey are just as important to her as his are to him.
In fact, I have sometimes wondered if it isn't that the satisfaction of my craving for the sensations of total surrender may be what I seek...that the Dominant who can best make me need to obey and submit is threfore the one I most want to serve.
So then, who is serving whom? The only satisfactory answer to who's on top, lies, again, in the concept of symbiosis.
And symbiosis implies equality of partners, even if one serves, and one is being served.
Rosemary
SongOfEire
Very well said. Good job.
In a relationship it is very fluid. Having independent power it is a current, much like electricity and or power. Co-dependent, to which one recieves power and one supplies power or 'submits' power. However, it is not held long but re-invested into back into the giving power. Or, feeding the slave/submissive. Yet, the slave/submissive feeds the Master/Mistress/Dominant.
Because no one person is perfect, at times the power is drawn to compensate for weakness in the moment or person and, to compliment or compensate, the other will do the same. Before we create a union, be it friendship, a military body, a government, a job, a relationship and or marriage and in this community, a M/s or D/s union it is a fluid, living exchange. We come and approach as independent powers. Like magnets though, the positive and negative can join but, two negatives/two positives repell away from the same force yet, separation of both with a line, much like the line that is created by M/s or D/s, the traits of dominants are that of regulating power and the submissives supply the power, which feed the power exchange. However, if a person takes without replacing the energy back then power is lost and perhaps starved as to cause the relationship to die. What makes BDSM, M/s and D/s different; equal powers of individuals come together and make a choice who will be authority and who submits to authority.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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