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myotherself -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:51:16 AM)

When I was in my mid-20s I was with this guy. We were in the first flush of 'relationship' and the sex was...endless [:D]

We were totally vanilla - I'd never even heard of bdsm. So one afternoon, after nearly 24 hours of food, snooze and fucking, I decide I want him again. He, however, is getting a little tired by this point.

I start pleading with him...he grins and says 'crawl to me on your hands and knees and beg for it'.

So I did. I begged and pleaded and fondled and licked and stroked and...we fucked again.

Some people might find that humiliating. Some people might find that kinky.

We just found it hot as hell!



smartsub10 -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:52:20 AM)


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ORIGINAL: myotherself

In my case, there are only a few possible differences.

First, instead of kissing and cuddling and fondling as foreplay, he beats me until I cry.
Second, the sex is really rough.
Thirdly, I have multiple orgasms (which I never do if there's no pain play first)

Errrmmmm that's about it.

Afterwards it's all cuddling and talking and romantic silliness.

Sighs...ain't the kinky life grand? [:D]




Yum.



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:56:29 AM)

Pretty much what myotherself said. Except you pretty much only have to look at me the right way and I'll have multiple orgasms. Seriously, I'm someone you should screw if you need a self-esteem boost.

There is no real definition of what 'vanilla' is. I think most people at some point or another experiment with a bit of light bondage or spanking (there's a reason why fluffy handcuffs are everywhere). Oral sex seems like a standard sex act, and anal play not much further. The headteacher-naughty-schoolchild scenario for example is so common as to be cliche, and that's sorta kinky.

Thing is, if you looked closely enough, everyone has their own unique set of kinks and turn ons. Sure not everyone wants to be beaten with a belt or to stick needles in their partner, but (in my totally non-expert opinion) most people have something that excites them beyond regular old missionary sex.



kitkat105 -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:57:47 AM)

Why get so hang up on definitions? Instead of thinking about it, just do it, enjoy it and have fun. I'm not sure why you feel compelled to label each sexual act with a separate title?

And besides, you think is vanilla or kinky is going to be vastly different to anyone else. The only part that matters is finding someone compatible to explore it with.



GreedyTop -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 10:06:22 AM)

I love you, kit. If you weren't already getting married.. *sigh*



pyschosubmission -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 10:07:40 AM)


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ORIGINAL: kitkat105

Why get so hang up on definitions? Instead of thinking about it, just do it, enjoy it and have fun. I'm not sure why you feel compelled to label each sexual act with a separate title?

And besides, you think is vanilla or kinky is going to be vastly different to anyone else. The only part that matters is finding someone compatible to explore it with.



Perfect summation.



JeffBC -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 10:10:08 AM)

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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders
Seriously, I'm someone you should screw if you need a self-esteem boost.

Oddly enough my self esteem started to plummet as I read that. It's pretty shaky right now...



culareD -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 10:10:25 AM)

GT...On Bunny's sex life...



GreedyTop -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 10:16:10 AM)

she IS delicious, isn't she, C? (just do NOT - under ANY circumstances- accept her organic raisins....)



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 10:21:22 AM)

Are these things vanilla?

Deep throating - yes
Spanking - no
Swallowing cum - yes
Cumming on the girl where-ever, head, face, tits, cunt, wherever - no
Basically..., fingering her in public - no
Anal sex - yes
Threesomes or more - possibly

Just in my opinion of course.




kalikshama -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 10:25:58 AM)

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I dunno how are some of those vanilla though when humiliation is involved?


I don't find any of those things humiliating.



culareD -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 10:33:28 AM)


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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

she IS delicious, isn't she, C? (just do NOT - under ANY circumstances- accept her organic raisins....)



I kinda like organics...hummm.

So basically, I am surmising an even more unclear answer to my OP, EXCEPT that it's really "to each his/her own"...fair enough.

So if it's not called "vanilla", then what is it called besides F-U-N? (an entirely acceptable word, but there is some fun in Vanilla)



CalifChick -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 10:34:37 AM)

I don't separate sex into vanilla and kinky. It's not two different things... it's more of points along a spectrum.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 10:39:07 AM)

I have either never had vanilla sex, or never had kinky sex. Not sure.



GreedyTop -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 10:40:16 AM)

*votes we keep Culare*



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 10:40:16 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Greta75

Actually, I got a few questions.

Are these things vanilla?

Deep throating
Spanking
Swallowing cum
Cumming on the girl where-ever, head, face, tits, cunt, wherever
Basically..., fingering her in public
Anal sex
Threesomes or more



Yes, entirely vanilla. I know people who do alllllla that stuff that are horrified at the idea of BDSM.



Kana -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 10:46:09 AM)

How to make Vanilla Ice Cream, BDSM style


-Take (her) beans-twist to release flavor and "it's flavorful oils"
-In medium stainless-steel dungeon...errr...saucepan heat milk and vanilla bean until (she is) just below simmering point. Remove from heat. Cover; let stand 20 minutes to allow vanilla to infuse milk.
-For custard, in medium mixing bowl (or St Johns Cross) whisk to blend egg yolks and sugar. Slowly whisk in the hot milk; return milk mixture to saucepan. Cook over medium heat (using vibrators, fingers) stirring constantly (Or beating her) with rubber spatula until (her wet ass twat) custard thickens enough to coat back of spatula.
-Never allow custard to simmer or boil. Stir constantly until (vagina) surface bubbles dissipate and the (pussy juice) custard thickens enough to coat the spatula."-it keeps it from curdling and helps keep the slut, I mean it "smooth and creamy texture"
-Do not let the mixture get too hot or (Her brain) the eggs will scramble. After it thickens, remove (her) the custard from heat.
-(Re)Strain
-Taste for balance-"The flavor should be rich with egg yolks and cream, yet full of vanilla goodness from both the vanilla bean and the vanilla extract."
-Add kosher salt to freezer canister (To make her scream)
-Slowly churn-"Hand churning is best and incorporates less air in the ice cream for denser texture and richer flavor," (Don't it though) "Aim for one even turn every two seconds.
-Ripen by covering with plastic wrap (Breath play) and freezing for circa four hours (or until her legs stop wobbling)
-Eat with a smile. Live happily ever after


Note-this recipe was quasi stolen from Good Housekeeping Magazine










kalikshama -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 10:47:39 AM)

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So if it's not called "vanilla", then what is it called


I generally use "kinky" for something that is not vanilla.



SlipSlidingAway -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 10:52:20 AM)

Actually, for me, vanilla sex is pretty much any sex that I have in a 'nilla relationship.  It can be kinky as heck, or not.  It's still vanilla sex...

It remains vanilla sex UNTIL I add in some form of power exchange.  Then, the sex can be tame as all get out, plain old missionary, whatever, it ceases to be vanilla for me because of my mindset. 

It's not so much what's happening at a given moment; it's about how much control I have over that and how much control I have over what ~might~ happen.

And, that probably does not make a whole lot of sense to anyone but me.  lol



kalikshama -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 10:54:29 AM)

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