Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex

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culareD -> Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 8:51:24 AM)
I was looking for some different perspectives on the differences between vanilla and "the other side"...what the hell is it called anyway? I don't really want specific and sordid details about your personal life...just some opinions and perspectives. I realize the answers will be "mixed bag" as there is no one "cookie cutter" recipe...TIA culare'd

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:04:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: culareD I was looking for some different perspectives on the differences between vanilla and "the other side"...what the hell is it called anyway? Kinky?? Actually, most of my actual sex itself is just...sex....except that I have more control than I would were I vanilla or sub. But the pegging/strap-on, I don't think that's vanilla. lol Honestly, most of the non-vanilla stuff I do is the "play" rather than the actual sex. NBMG

myotherself -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:12:07 AM)
In my case, there are only a few possible differences. First, instead of kissing and cuddling and fondling as foreplay, he beats me until I cry. Second, the sex is really rough. Thirdly, I have multiple orgasms (which I never do if there's no pain play first) Errrmmmm that's about it. Afterwards it's all cuddling and talking and romantic silliness. Sighs...ain't the kinky life grand? [:D]

GreedyTop -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:14:57 AM)
wants Bunny's type of sex life

kalikshama -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:15:24 AM)
Ya, sex for me is pretty vanilla, it's the foreplay that's kinky.

Greta75 -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:16:31 AM)
Actually, I got a few questions. Are these things vanilla? Deep throating Spanking Swallowing cum Cumming on the girl where-ever, head, face, tits, cunt, wherever Basically..., fingering her in public Anal sex Threesomes or more

GreedyTop -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:20:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Greta75 Actually, I got a few questions. Are these things vanilla? Deep throating Spanking Swallowing cum Cumming on the girl where-ever, head, face, tits, cunt, wherever Basically..., fingering her in public Anal sex Threesomes or more depends on what your personal view of vanilla is. The only thing I would consider out of line (but still not "kinky") is the fingering in public, but that's more because I don't care to expose an unsuspecting public to my sexual life.

myotherself -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:20:37 AM)
Apart from the threesomes, the other stuff on your list was stuff I did before I 'found' bdsm. Maybe if I was a bit more adventurous I'd have done the threesomes too! [:D] I think pretty much every act we do, sexually, is vanilla. By that I mean there are people all over the world doing that stuff right now without any inclination towards power exchange, s&m and all that other good stuff. It's not WHAT you do that makes it kinky, it's HOW you do it [8D]

RumpusParable -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:21:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Greta75 Actually, I got a few questions. Are these things vanilla? Deep throating Spanking Swallowing cum Cumming on the girl where-ever, head, face, tits, cunt, wherever Basically..., fingering her in public Anal sex Threesomes or more Yes, those are all vanilla. As are spanking, choking, having someone watch, switching partners, snowballing, etc.

culareD -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:23:01 AM)
Second's GT's opinion....

GreedyTop -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:23:48 AM)
which one?? LOL!!

kalikshama -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:32:18 AM)
quote: Are these things vanilla? Deep throating Spanking Swallowing cum Cumming on the girl where-ever, head, face, tits, cunt, wherever Basically..., fingering her in public Anal sex Threesomes or more I think so. YMMV.

Greta75 -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:35:53 AM)
Geez, then it's just me who thinks it's not vanilla. I tend to see vanilla as just missionary sex. Anything deviating from it, is not vanilla.

GreedyTop -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:37:30 AM)
wow. you've lived a sheltered life, haven't you?

pyschosubmission -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:39:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: myotherself Maybe if I was a bit more adventurous I'd have done the threesomes too! [:D] When I was 18 I turned down a midnight threesome on a beach with two beautiful Irish girls, not because I didn't find them attractive, no, because I didn't realise what they meant until afterwards. [painfully true story]

Greta75 -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:40:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GreedyTop wow. you've lived a sheltered life, haven't you? I dunno how are some of those vanilla though when humiliation is involved?

myotherself -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:42:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pyschosubmission quote: ORIGINAL: myotherself Maybe if I was a bit more adventurous I'd have done the threesomes too! [:D] When I was 18 I turned down a midnight threesome on a beach with two beautiful Irish girls, not because I didn't find them attractive, no, because I didn't realise what they meant until afterwards. [painfully true story] Ahhhh...maaaaan...I'm feelin' for ya! [:D]

GreedyTop -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:44:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Greta75 quote: ORIGINAL: GreedyTop wow. you've lived a sheltered life, haven't you? I dunno how are some of those vanilla though when humiliation is involved? Not everyone would find those things humiliating. ETA: You reallllllllllllllllllllly need to accept that not everyone is as easily humiliated as you appear to be. and that the things you find humiliating would be considered abusive by a lot of folks.

Greta75 -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:46:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GreedyTop Not everyone would find those things humiliating. So if it feels humiliating, is it then no longer vanilla? I associate vanilla with sticky sweet happy sex.

GreedyTop -> RE: Vanilla Sex vs The Other Side Sex (8/24/2012 9:48:22 AM)
Kinky sex for most of us, around here IS "sticky sweet happy sex". I guess you skipped over myotherself's post on the subject.

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