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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Not any surprise to me. I know personally i definitely choose who I am compatible with. There are certain religious types that i simply can't be bothered to make as a friend let alone have any desire for a relationship with. There are certain races where I find that I tend to be leary of wanting around me. Does this make me prejudiced? Yeah probably. I think everyone is at some point.

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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

I don't think their conclusions are valid. First, there is a huge difference between who one has a relationship with and who one is friends with. Wanting someone of your own religious background is not prejudice of any kind. Refusing to be friends with someone outside your religion can be. For the former, it is a matter of wanting to have a life with someone where a core value is the same. That isn't prejudice.

Neither is wanting someone of your own race for a relationship. Each ethnic group tends to have similar physical characteristics. If someone is not attracted to the physical characteristics of someone who is Asian, that isn't being prejudice anymore than someone within the BDSM lifestyle to not want a relationship with someone who is poly when they prefer monogamy, or vanilla people who don't want to date someone who is morbidly obese.

For relationships, the majority of us want someone we are compatible with and attracted to. I don't really relate well to guys who are majorly into sports, needing to watch every game that comes on. However, my cousin's husband is like that, and it doesn't make me like him less. Just makes me glad I'm not married to him, because watching Monday Night Football and all the games on the weekend is far from what I find to be a good time.

It's amazing how most people think it is perfectly reasonable not to want someone who is too fat, too skinny, too active, too inactive, has a certain color hair or a certain length or doesn't share their kinks, but it is being racist and evidence of prejudice if what they are attracted to has anything to do with religion or race/ethnic background.

Far too often, people look for racism and prejudice where none exists. For me, this article is just evidence of that.

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

LafayetteLady, I didn't interpret their conclusions the way you did. The way I interpreted it was that we are probably less racist and prejudicial than we think we are.

Does anyone else see it that way?

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ORIGINAL: rulemylife

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Not any surprise to me. I know personally i definitely choose who I am compatible with. There are certain religious types that i simply can't be bothered to make as a friend let alone have any desire for a relationship with. There are certain races where I find that I tend to be leary of wanting around me. Does this make me prejudiced? Yeah probably. I think everyone is at some point.

No, everyone is not.

So you might want to rethink that whole philosophy.

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ORIGINAL: Owner59

Culturally I think,we tend to gather with familiar people,same backgrounds and ways of life.So we tend to pair off with people like ourselves,have families,etc.

I think if we spent more time mixing with other races and religions,there would be more relationships between them.

And I think that`s happening in America more and more,all on it`s own.