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ORIGINAL: LoveSparkie

Yes, another question from me. Hey, I'm learning here..

Have you ever had to give up something you love for your significant other?

I am speaking both to doms and subs here, because I'm sure there are a few things doms have had to give up in the name of love (or lust..whatever).
Reason I'm asking is because I am getting to the point where I am realizing all the things I may have to give up for a future dom and wonder, am I ready for that?

What was it you gave up? How did you feel about it? Why did you make the decision to give it up?

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I gave up some of my sanity in my last relationship.

Thankfully, I got it back.

Never give up the important things.

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It doesn't sound domly to put himself last but I love him for it and for being so understanding to me.

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ORIGINAL: LoveSparkie

Yes, another question from me. Hey, I'm learning here..

Have you ever had to give up something you love for your significant other?

I am speaking both to doms and subs here, because I'm sure there are a few things doms have had to give up in the name of love (or lust..whatever).
Reason I'm asking is because I am getting to the point where I am realizing all the things I may have to give up for a future dom and wonder, am I ready for that?

What was it you gave up? How did you feel about it? Why did you make the decision to give it up?

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Funny. I took this a totally opposite way of the rest of the folks.

My lover was a world class swimmer. I was afraid of water. One can't swim without water. So, I gave up my fear for him. It was't like I didn't have the fear, I just didn't let them surface. (A year after we broke up, I lived on a boat for a while to REALLY get rid of that fear.) He never even knew I was afraid of the water (at least I don't recall ever telling him). He just said, "sunshine, I have a swim meet. Will you come and watch me? I'd love to have you there." *deep breath* Well what's a girl to do? I went, I breathed through the whole thing, and celebrated his victory afterward!

I also gave up my hard shell. When we first started dating, I had several lovers - lots of quantity and not much depth. We broke up and one point, and I was like "Fine. That's fine. I didn't want you anyway. Hmph." Well, a few weeks later, he called me and we went out again. He gave me a very sentimental gift and said to me, "sunshine, I want to be with you. But I won't be with you if I'm just a man you have a good time with. I want your heart, not just your body." *deep breath* Well, what's a girl to do? We went to his apartment, and he did an actual trust exercise with me, and I sobbed. He broke through my hard exterior in about ten minutes. I told him my deepest darkest secret that night, and he understood. And still, he loved me.

And finally, I didn't give this up, but I knew I was in love, I stopped fighting when I realized (and then told him) that I would gladly convert to Catholicism for him. I wanted to be the mother of his children, and he was Catholic. His children would be raised Catholic. *deep breath* What's a girl to do? My love for him, and my understanding of spirituality went deeper than my choice of religion.

The wonderful thing about him was that he never once demanded anything of me. He told me what he needed, what he wanted, and that was it. If I wanted to be with him, I had to be what he needed. He knew that the woman that I am was who he needed. The question was whether I was willing to stop hiding.

Giving up the fear and learning to trust, being visible and loved for all of me were the greatest gifts anyone has ever given me.

While we didn't work out in the end, I will always be grateful for what I gave up and for what I received. Before him, I didn't think I was capable of loving. In truth, I have never been so loved in all my life.

best,
sunshine

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ORIGINAL: LoveSparkie

Yes, another question from me. Hey, I'm learning here..

Have you ever had to give up something you love for your significant other?

I am speaking both to doms and subs here, because I'm sure there are a few things doms have had to give up in the name of love (or lust..whatever).
Reason I'm asking is because I am getting to the point where I am realizing all the things I may have to give up for a future dom and wonder, am I ready for that?

What was it you gave up? How did you feel about it? Why did you make the decision to give it up?

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ORIGINAL: Charnegui

It does not actually feel like giving up something. It feels like winning the lottery (in my case that is)

But I also do have my issues and troubles, we'll see if upcoming time will better it.

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While we didn't work out in the end, I will always be grateful for what I gave up and for what I received. Before him, I didn't think I was capable of loving. In truth, I have never been so loved in all my life.

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All the things? Really? Um, please don't give up all of you for someone else. I know the macho uber dom thing can be attractive. Lord knows, *I've* been attracted. I get that. Hawt as hell. But, listen, please, it's not worth giving up all of you. Don't do that for anyone.

A good dom, one who relates to you? He won't expect it.