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RE: Switching from sub to slave? - 1/27/2011 8:47:38 PM

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She already had. This was evident by her explanation of the situation.

Then why is she here asking for advice (or whatever)?

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RE: Switching from sub to slave? - 1/27/2011 8:47:46 PM

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And don't knock the demand queue. It's the hot new thing. It's gonna catch on like hotcakes any minute now.

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RE: Switching from sub to slave? - 1/27/2011 8:49:41 PM

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She already had. This was evident by her explanation of the situation.

Then why is she here asking for advice (or whatever)?

She had accepted his position to be able to dictate what the terms are she would need to abide by. She hadn't yet decided if, in relevance to his offering her the freedom to accept the new role or not, she definitely wanted to or would be able to live up the those expectations.

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RE: Switching from sub to slave? - 1/27/2011 8:51:43 PM

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Excuse me. I meant to say "It's the hawt new thing."

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RE: Switching from sub to slave? - 1/27/2011 10:15:12 PM

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She had accepted his position to be able to dictate what the terms are she would need to abide by. She hadn't yet decided if, in relevance to his offering her the freedom to accept the new role or not, she definitely wanted to or would be able to live up the those expectations.

Clearly she has not accepted everything, or she would not asking questions here. If he offers to her "I want you to be my slave, and this is what being my slave means to me," she has to buy into '"what being a slave means to me."

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RE: Switching from sub to slave? - 1/28/2011 8:44:45 PM

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NihilusZero- Thank You very much Sir for everything said on here.

Switching from sub to slave is not something my Master takes lightly. It's a hell of a lot more intense. i am now His property, He controls me 100 %, it's a HUGE change. There were a lot of things He talked to me about that would be new, and new expectations. i needed to think about it and get advice about the matter because it would be such a big deal.

Anyways, decided to go along with it since my heart and mind told me to. Best decision i have ever made. Had my first training session yesterday, it was absolutely terrific.

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RE: Switching from sub to slave? - 1/28/2011 8:47:03 PM

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NihilusZero- Thank You very much Sir for everything said on here.

Oh, yeah, "Sir" him but not me. Bloody favoritism.

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RE: Switching from sub to slave? - 1/28/2011 8:47:04 PM

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For me, before accepting everything you have to kind of understand what it is that my Master is wanting and how much time will need to be put in..Need to ask questions, need to think about it. It's not a decision that is made overnight. These relationship are very very serious to me. i put my heart and soul into being submissive and now a slave. i will not tell a Master i will do something if i don't understand it all and don't have time to think about it.
i need to be sure i can give Him my all.

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RE: Switching from sub to slave? - 1/28/2011 8:48:07 PM

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NihilusZero- Thank You very much Sir for everything said on here.

Oh, yeah, "Sir" him but not me. Bloody favoritism.

He has shown a great amount of respect.

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RE: Switching from sub to slave? - 1/31/2011 8:22:58 AM

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Congrats on making a decision, hopefully it's the right one for you and you'll have a happy, fulfilling relationship as a slave to this man. :)

But something you wrote in your first post got me genuinely curious - it sounds like from what you said that (when you were his sub) he controlled your orgasms but not your dating life. If that's the case... how did that work for you? I just mean that if he had control over whether or not you could have an orgasm with the guys you were dating, that seems like he had some control over your dating of those guys. I hope this doesn't come across as rude or anything, and if it's none of my business I understand.... just curious!

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RE: Switching from sub to slave? - 1/31/2011 9:05:09 AM

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He has shown a great amount of respect.

I have shown a great amount of sarcasm. "Sarcasm" has more syllables than "respect."

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RE: Switching from sub to slave? - 1/31/2011 2:44:35 PM

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Congrats on making a decision, hopefully it's the right one for you and you'll have a happy, fulfilling relationship as a slave to this man. :)

But something you wrote in your first post got me genuinely curious - it sounds like from what you said that (when you were his sub) he controlled your orgasms but not your dating life. If that's the case... how did that work for you? I just mean that if he had control over whether or not you could have an orgasm with the guys you were dating, that seems like he had some control over your dating of those guys. I hope this doesn't come across as rude or anything, and if it's none of my business I understand.... just curious!

It's ok:).
Being able to orgasm with a guy is way different then being able to even go out with the guy.
Now He is in charge of who i date, if i date, and when. So it's a lot different. He also controls what can and cannot happen on the date.
While the guys i date have no idea about it. Hahahaha, makes me so horny during the date i love it!

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RE: Switching from sub to slave? - 2/6/2011 9:39:32 AM

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Congrats on making a decision, hopefully it's the right one for you and you'll have a happy, fulfilling relationship as a slave to this man. :)

But something you wrote in your first post got me genuinely curious - it sounds like from what you said that (when you were his sub) he controlled your orgasms but not your dating life. If that's the case... how did that work for you? I just mean that if he had control over whether or not you could have an orgasm with the guys you were dating, that seems like he had some control over your dating of those guys. I hope this doesn't come across as rude or anything, and if it's none of my business I understand.... just curious!

It's ok:).
Being able to orgasm with a guy is way different then being able to even go out with the guy.
Now He is in charge of who i date, if i date, and when. So it's a lot different. He also controls what can and cannot happen on the date.
While the guys i date have no idea about it. Hahahaha, makes me so horny during the date i love it!

Hahha okay, I can get that. My Dom and I did something that like that during the brief period we did the open relationship thing, though I was upfront about my relationship with him.

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RE: Switching from sub to slave? - 2/6/2011 9:47:52 AM

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While the guys i date have no idea about it. Hahahaha, makes me so horny during the date i love it!

ouch.... just ouch.

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RE: Switching from sub to slave? - 2/6/2011 11:14:30 AM

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I can see everyone's point that the need to label is questionable, and that the words her dom is using are perhaps a bit off of their normal definitions as he uses them, but at the end of the day the question is should she accept, wholesale, this new level. It doesn't matter about the words, what he's asking is for her to go from her current stage to an entirely new one with absolutely no gray area in between. He draws that distinction as being between sub and slave, but you could easily call it X1 to X2 or gleeb to tlub and the substantial difference would be nil.

As to the issue as I've outlined it (and correct me if I'm missing something) from what you say it sounds like you're ready for that next step. I don't actually know you at all, so I can't be sure, but from your comments it sounds like you are ready but nervous about you own abilities, and that's natural, but you have to keep pursuing the things that make you happy, and submission is one of those things.

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