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Having "Master Issues" - 1/14/2011 10:21:36 PM   
lostkitten24


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Status: offline 		hello everyone. i'm new to this site. looking for advice. have been collared for 7 years & not feeling like Master is keeping up his end of the bargain recently. i'm a very good girl, but it's been tough to not feel neglected. i mean, what does a girl have to do to get a spanking these days?
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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/14/2011 10:26:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hi there and welcome to collarme.

Does your Master know that you're feeling neglected?  Has anything changed in his life recently?


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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/15/2011 1:11:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		Welcome... what does he say when you tell him you feel this way? We have no crystal ball here...

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/15/2011 1:33:25 AM   
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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/15/2011 2:54:16 AM   
kalikshama


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Have you tried.......asking?

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/15/2011 5:24:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hard to say what's going on. Since you are feeling neglected perhaps he is as well? Is there something going on in either of your lives that is taking a lot of attention lately? Have you tried being more submissive and trying to 'wake' him up so to speak?

Communication is pretty crucial - ask him what's going on that is taking up his concentration. Or if it is something between the two of you talk with him about his concerns.

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/15/2011 8:45:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		Welcome to CM and the boards.  Don't be surprised if this gets moved to another forum since this is the intro forum.  If ya haven't been talking between the two of you, may I kindly suggest you sit down for a conversation about your needs and wants and his? 

Otherwise, the psychic 101 course I haven't quite taken yet wouldn't be of any help since it's yet to be invented.  I guess the psychics haven't figured out there's a need for one. 

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/16/2011 6:43:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		I've just had a great idea, you smash the place up, present the twit with a paddle and then stick your bottom in his face, if this does'nt work, it may be time to move on!!!

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/16/2011 11:28:45 AM   
mbes


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lostkitten24

hello everyone. i'm new to this site. looking for advice. have been collared for 7 years & not feeling like Master is keeping up his end of the bargain recently. i'm a very good girl, but it's been tough to not feel neglected. i mean, what does a girl have to do to get a spanking these days?

Well... I've found asking for one helps a great deal. Sometimes a little too well!
Seriously, what does he say when you talk to him about it?

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/16/2011 11:43:36 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		"hey honey, I'm feeling horny as hell lately. Can we schedule a play session into the calendar? I really want to be spanked good and hard and then fucked senseless."

Ask for it.


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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/16/2011 11:51:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		I tried what Des suggested.

Trust me, it works....

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/16/2011 12:14:52 PM   
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that sadist!!

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/16/2011 1:48:46 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: lostkitten24

hello everyone. i'm new to this site. looking for advice. have been collared for 7 years & not feeling like Master is keeping up his end of the bargain recently. i'm a very good girl, but it's been tough to not feel neglected. i mean, what does a girl have to do to get a spanking these days?

How about not act like a spoiled little princess who whines when she does not get what she wants?


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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/16/2011 2:03:29 PM   
Capndependable


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i'm a very good girl.


In who's opinion? Yours?

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/16/2011 2:14:56 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: lostkitten24

hello everyone. i'm new to this site. looking for advice. have been collared for 7 years & not feeling like Master is keeping up his end of the bargain recently. i'm a very good girl, but it's been tough to not feel neglected. i mean, what does a girl have to do to get a spanking these days?

Your first post so welcome.
There's no reason why a Master/slave relationship doesn't get that same seven year itch as any other relationship.
Originally the seven year itch was not a sudden feeling that one wanted to be unfaithful but an uneasy condition that had already existed for seven years.
Are you sure that there hasn't always been some underlying unease that you haven't communicated or something you fear your Master isn't yelling you about?


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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/16/2011 3:21:03 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: lostkitten24

hello everyone. i'm new to this site. looking for advice. have been collared for 7 years & not feeling like Master is keeping up his end of the bargain recently. i'm a very good girl, but it's been tough to not feel neglected. i mean, what does a girl have to do to get a spanking these days?


This is hard because it is your relationship and we neither know you nor your Master.

Do the 2 of you live together?
What kind of dynamic is this... are you a submissive, a slave?

How is he different with you?
What is he doing to occupy his time instead of doing what he used to do?
Does he have job stressors, or family issues perhaps?

What is different about your life now?

Why is discussing it with him so difficult?
Do you feel heard?
Does He?




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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/16/2011 5:13:21 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist

quote:

ORIGINAL: lostkitten24

hello everyone. i'm new to this site. looking for advice. have been collared for 7 years & not feeling like Master is keeping up his end of the bargain recently. i'm a very good girl, but it's been tough to not feel neglected. i mean, what does a girl have to do to get a spanking these days?

How about not act like a spoiled little princess who whines when she does not get what she wants?


OP, you'll get this a lot around here.

That apparently domination is defined as kicking back and passively enjoying the fruits of the other's submission....

Which somewhat contradicts my idea of leading/taking charge or enforcing rules and standards of acceptable behaviour. But I'm likely in the minority....

Anyway (going with the flow), it's all your fault and always will be.... But welcome to CM nonetheless. :)

Focus.

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/16/2011 9:57:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		This result could be anything. Something else coming up, a lack of creativity, or exhastion? In my expereince is when a sub feels "neglected" they start to act out. If that's the case, and by your comment of "I mean, what does a girl have to do to get a spanking these days?" I'm assuming you may be. Perhaps he doesn't give you one (or doesn't do anything) because he's gotton to the point of "what's the point?"

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 1:55:55 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: lostkitten24

hello everyone. i'm new to this site. looking for advice. have been collared for 7 years & not feeling like Master is keeping up his end of the bargain recently. i'm a very good girl, but it's been tough to not feel neglected. i mean, what does a girl have to do to get a spanking these days?


I wouldn't say that blaming your master while saying you do nothing wrong is actually being very submissive.

Relationships that last the test of time take hard work to maintain. It strikes me that you both could do things to improve your relationship given your comments.

Another point to consider is that we cannot change others, only ourselves.  So look inside of you and find how you can change your behaviour, perhaps work on your submission and inspire his dominance, perhaps stop making him feel bad for not doing what you want, perhaps forget the word 'neglected' and try thinking about how you haven't earned a spanking of late... etc.



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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 3:39:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Myster

This result could be anything. Something else coming up, a lack of creativity, or exhastion? In my expereince is when a sub feels "neglected" they start to act out. If that's the case, and by your comment of "I mean, what does a girl have to do to get a spanking these days?" I'm assuming you may be. Perhaps he doesn't give you one (or doesn't do anything) because he's gotton to the point of "what's the point?"



That is raises a good point.

I would never be permitted to act out to get a spanking.
Spankings are rewards and not punishments.

He does use physical correction on the rare occasion it is necessary but that is always in a form I don't like.

I would hope after 7 years of being together you would know how your dynamic works, but communication is imperfect... and right now you don't know what is going on.

Either you aren't asking the right questions in the right way or he is shutting down.

I don't see it as your issue or his issue but from your perspective it should be a we issue.

When I am in trouble, what works for us is my asking him to lead me.



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