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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 3:49:09 AM   
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hello everyone. i'm new to this site. looking for advice. have been collared for 7 years & not feeling like Master is keeping up his end of the bargain recently. i'm a very good girl, but it's been tough to not feel neglected. i mean, what does a girl have to do to get a spanking these days?



Maybe your ass got too big for him to spank. Does he have small hands? Perhaps he is having performance anxiety.

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 3:51:03 AM   
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have been collared for 7 years & not feeling like Master is keeping up his end of the bargain recently. i'm a very good girl, but it's been tough to not feel neglected. i mean, what does a girl have to do to get a spanking these days?
I don't think it's unusual for a relationship to fall into a rut, 7 years in, but if you politely ask him to talk, and express your desires, he might be easily engaged, and excitement may come from your telling him how much you want and miss him.    M

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Maybe your ass got too big for him to spank. Does he have small hands? Perhaps he is having performance anxiety.
Is there such a thing as too big an ass to spank?   lol...   Performance anxiety, heh understandable.    M

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 3:55:36 AM   
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Maybe your ass got too big for him to spank.
Does he have small hands?
Perhaps he is having performance anxiety.

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 3:59:48 AM   
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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 11:49:15 AM   
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Answer back.

Everything he says, you just... answer back. Always try to have the last say and ignore warnings. You'll have a champion's spanking in no time.

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 5:26:54 PM   
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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 5:29:30 PM   
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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 5:31:08 PM   
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FukinTroll!!!!!
I mean, err...uhmmm, hello Troll!



Hey baby. *wriggles eyebrows* Did I have you under consideration too?


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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 5:42:19 PM   
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Im probably not even your type, but that didnt stop me from getting excited over seeing you post.
Your reputation, whether famous or infamous, precedes you, and I have enjoyed reading you.

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 5:43:20 PM   
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Consideration my ass! (hrmph)
Im probably not even your type, but that didnt stop me from getting excited over seeing you post.
Your reputation, whether famous or infamous, precedes you, and I have enjoyed reading you.


GOD I hope it is infamy!


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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 5:45:58 PM   
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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 5:53:36 PM   
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Regardless of all those non-essential things, Welcome back!


And now, back to the subject of Master issues!

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 5:59:34 PM   
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*now that I've composed myself*
Regardless of all those non-essential things, Welcome back!


And now, back to the subject of Master issues!


Wait... I know I have knocked back more OJ an Vodka than an American should... but I am pretty sure I was working on the whole Master issue. Sides... yer foto-grafy is prettyful!


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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 6:05:25 PM   
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That apparently domination is defined as kicking back and passively enjoying the fruits of the other's submission....

Which somewhat contradicts my idea of leading/taking charge or enforcing rules and standards of acceptable behaviour. But I'm likely in the minority....

Anyway (going with the flow), it's all your fault and always will be.... But welcome to CM nonetheless. :)

Focus.

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 6:15:18 PM   
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*now that I've composed myself*
Regardless of all those non-essential things, Welcome back!


And now, back to the subject of Master issues!


Wait... I know I have knocked back more OJ an Vodka than an American should... but I am pretty sure I was working on the whole Master issue.
And doing a mighty fine job of it before I so rudely barged in. Pardon!

Sides... yer foto-grafy is prettyful!
*wiggles eyebrows back at you*
Thank you kindly. You're the handsomest troll I ever saw!



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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 6:50:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

quote:

ORIGINAL: Focus50


quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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ORIGINAL: lostkitten24

hello everyone. i'm new to this site. looking for advice. have been collared for 7 years & not feeling like Master is keeping up his end of the bargain recently. i'm a very good girl, but it's been tough to not feel neglected. i mean, what does a girl have to do to get a spanking these days?

How about not act like a spoiled little princess who whines when she does not get what she wants?


OP, you'll get this a lot around here.

That apparently domination is defined as kicking back and passively enjoying the fruits of the other's submission....

Which somewhat contradicts my idea of leading/taking charge or enforcing rules and standards of acceptable behaviour. But I'm likely in the minority....

Anyway (going with the flow), it's all your fault and always will be.... But welcome to CM nonetheless. :)

Focus.

Always the voice of reason. Agreed!
luci

Not sure about "agreed". I read the exchange very differently.

While Irish was quick in the castigation sense, I suspect her reaction is based on: 1) the immediate dissection of the motivational forces behind the OP's post, and 2) having a more dedicated, obedience/servitude view of M/s.

Because the OP's choice of "what does a girl have to do to get a spanking these days?" shows that not getting her fix of a specific act is apparently the main thing on her mind. It's a very different feel than if she had offered up something like "Does Master just not want me anymore??" instead, which would have displayed a fear of failing in her role (as opposed to just failing to get the reward she wanted).

Obviously, the specifics of this entire issue are lost in the details and even if they were both here to tell the story from the beginning, it's likely we'd still not have a solid list of what each of their expectations were and should be.

And while anyone is surely free to adopt any dynamic role they want and still prioritize their wants/needs in whatever way they choose (even if the priority list is completely contradictory to the very point of adopting the chosen role), IrishMist's response was not nearly as misguided or misapplied as it is made to seem.

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 7:44:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: lostkitten24

hello everyone. i'm new to this site. looking for advice. have been collared for 7 years & not feeling like Master is keeping up his end of the bargain recently. i'm a very good girl, but it's been tough to not feel neglected. i mean, what does a girl have to do to get a spanking these days?



Maybe your ass got too big for him to spank. Does he have small hands? Perhaps he is having performance anxiety.


You stole my line...

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/17/2011 8:38:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

Not sure about "agreed". I read the exchange very differently.

That's surely your perogative. I agreed with Focus in all his points. I usually do.
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While Irish was quick in the castigation sense, I suspect her reaction is based on: 1) the immediate dissection of the motivational forces behind the OP's post, and 2) having a more dedicated, obedience/servitude view of M/s.

Don't know what her reaction was based upon. She's a very vocal, outspoken gal. If she wishes to explain, she surely knows how and can do so herself. As far as her having a "more dedicated, obedience/servitude view," I won't touch that kind of statement with a ten foot pole. Who is more dedicated or obedient is a pissing contest I have no desire to participate in. I'm kind of puzzled by your response. I liked Focus' answer and I agreed with it. No skin off anyone else's nose really......luci


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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/18/2011 12:11:23 AM   
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Either you aren't asking the right questions in the right way or he is shutting down.
I don't see it as your issue or his issue but from your perspective it should be a we issue.
When I am in trouble, what works for us is my asking him to lead me.
I very much agree with this post, especially the last line. 
Good luck, and welcome.    M

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RE: Having "Master Issues" - 1/18/2011 2:56:18 AM   
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Because the OP's choice of "what does a girl have to do to get a spanking these days?" shows that not getting her fix of a specific act is apparently the main thing on her mind. It's a very different feel than if she had offered up something like "Does Master just not want me anymore??" instead, which would have displayed a fear of failing in her role (as opposed to just failing to get the reward she wanted).


Whoa, you got all this from the OP...?

Here's the OP's first and only CM post in full.

lostkitten24:
"hello everyone. i'm new to this site. looking for advice. have been collared for 7 years & not feeling like Master is keeping up his end of the bargain recently. i'm a very good girl, but it's been tough to not feel neglected. i mean, what does a girl have to do to get a spanking these days?"

And you've come up with a literal interpretation of what was meant. This "what does a girl have to do to get a spanking these days?" couldn't have been merely a breezy, light-hearted way for a newbie poster to feel her way amongst probable strangers?

You're so sure that this is what she should be damned upon. Because your entire response otherwise looks rather cliquey - and hardly the kind of "support" I've ever felt IrishMist was in need of. That said, I think IM was quick to reach an unjust and uninformed conclusion and I said as much, and now all you're doing is compounding her initial folly.

Focus.

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