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RE: How safe is it to meet, what is recommended - 11/29/2010 1:19:43 PM

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ehhh I call BULL SHIT on the post. Later on to add more high school Drama oh BTW it's a person on CM.
Let's say someone was stupid enuff to offer their SO to a stranger for rape and pillage. The only other person in this equation that is stupider <yes it's a word cuz I said so> is a person that would actually consider this action.

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I've had fairly similar offers-I started a thread ages ago about a guy who wanted to blindfold his gf in a hotel room and not tell her I was there until she figured it out for herself.

Given some of the shit headcases on this site want to do, this is the thing you find unbelievable?

I find that unbelievable.

I did not say unbelievable I said stupid

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RE: How safe is it to meet, what is recommended - 11/29/2010 2:22:58 PM

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...so 'calling BULLSHIT' on a post doesn't mean you don't believe it?

I may have confused my American idiom, but I'm pretty sure that calling bullshit means you think the speaker is making it up, not that you think they're daft. Feel free to correct me if I've misunderstood.

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RE: How safe is it to meet, what is recommended - 11/29/2010 4:47:40 PM

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This could be a great experience for you and the wife. Some have that kind of fantasy.

BUT - the reality is that you could end up with all kinds of legal, emotional, and physical problems. If the wife doesn't consent - you can be arrested and this would fit the definition of rape. No question and no defense. Has the husband watched before? Huge emotional issues and potential for physical violence. Add in set up for you to be raped and/or robbed, disease, blackmail, and a long list of problems not mentioned here.

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RE: How safe is it to meet, what is recommended - 11/30/2010 12:11:26 PM

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...so 'calling BULLSHIT' on a post doesn't mean you don't believe it?

I may have confused my American idiom, but I'm pretty sure that calling bullshit means you think the speaker is making it up, not that you think they're daft. Feel free to correct me if I've misunderstood.

Bullshit means a lot of different things. In this case I think it's madeup to add drama to the forums. and the stupid part is well round here you can go to prison for that.

"no really Judge" this complete stranger came up to me and said lets rape my "girl friend" <If you dont see the "stupidness" in that there is something wrong here> So the judge gives him 1 year for rape and 4 years for being a moron. That's pretty much how I see it

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RE: How safe is it to meet, what is recommended - 11/30/2010 12:33:11 PM

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I hope the "husband" drugs and rapes you.

Good to see things are still going along swimmingly out here.

Most worthwhile post on the thread........ poor OP just doesn't 'get it'.

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RE: How safe is it to meet, what is recommended - 11/30/2010 5:09:05 PM

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...so 'calling BULLSHIT' on a post doesn't mean you don't believe it?

I may have confused my American idiom, but I'm pretty sure that calling bullshit means you think the speaker is making it up, not that you think they're daft. Feel free to correct me if I've misunderstood.

What he might be saying is that he doesn't believe anyone would actually be dumb enough to consider the scenario.

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RE: How safe is it to meet, what is recommended - 12/1/2010 11:27:38 AM

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Dude....being new to this is one thing, but being an idiot is another discussion all together. Not to be rude, but man...what were you thinking. Find a party of a club - meet some people into it that way - much safer.

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RE: How safe is it to meet, what is recommended - 12/1/2010 5:20:36 PM

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I have been in this life only a short time. This is one of the FIRST rules I learned. ALWAYS go with your guts, and It is safer to meet and get to know the people first, both in public place and online. I don't even send pic until I feel comfortable with the person and that usually takes awhile. Even then it has not worked out with them, but you live and learn. I guess as a woman I am a bit more cautious than a man would be. But, you need to think with the HEAD on your shoulders and NOT the one between your legs (no offense). You did do one thing right, you asked for opinions and it seems most of them are the same......

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RE: How safe is it to meet, what is recommended - 12/1/2010 11:15:35 PM

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That's trouble waiting to happen, as you've not an inkling of their motives combined with what seems to be you strolling into more trouble than you bargained for. The red lights are flashing, and the siren wailing.

Seems wisest to walk on by.

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RE: How safe is it to meet, what is recommended - 12/2/2010 7:23:21 AM

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nm, clicked on wrong thread, ignore me

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RE: How safe is it to meet, what is recommended - 12/2/2010 8:50:30 AM

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Her husband will be present

As a personal rule, I have never played with OPP unless I knew them well enough to have them in my "inner circle" of friends that I trust more than most of my family. I would never meet and play with strangers that could be noobs and have an emotional reaction. There are those rare occassions when a husband or wife goes apeshit jealous and the next thing you know, you are looking at one of your lifestyle aquantances on the news.

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RE: How safe is it to meet, what is recommended - 12/2/2010 8:54:32 AM

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After some bad experiences, if someone wants to know me they can go to kink community events and meet there among all my friends and get to know me over time and put in a sincere effort. I will not meet a stranger alone even in public. They have to be willing to go into the community and if inexperienced learn through workshops, watching and mentoring. Thats where I am comfortable at this point. I focus on friendship development. YMWV

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RE: How safe is it to meet, what is recommended - 12/7/2010 4:35:54 PM

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Another thought: this sort of situation could be a police sting, like the way they catch child molestors by pretending to be young girls in chat rooms inviting guys to meet.

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