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ORIGINAL: Lockit

So the grooms balls have been broken and the bride is a push over... this is going to go well! I say if people aren't strong enough or adult enough to call the shots on their own wedding and work out the details of overbearing adults no matter who they are... what makes them think they are ready for the challenges of marriage?

And why are you enabling them in the situation? You can be supportive of friends, but broken balls and push overs are serious business. Are you sure you want to be involved?

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

She needs to tell her mother the list is closed, or that she can pay for all her friends. However there is a middle way, to send announcements to people but not invitations.

Otherwise, it's their friends and loved ones. And if she and the fiance can't get the guts to say no to mama, the marriage is doomed. You might suggest they move cross country to get some space. But I suggest learning healthy boundaries would be better. So perhaps give them a book on that?

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ORIGINAL: MissAsylum

While in my perfect world, my friend would grow a spine and tell her mother to stop inviting people that she doesn't really know, that won't happen. She is a big pushover(bless her heart), so she will never dispute what her mother says.

However, the other members of the bridal party, including myself, are not her mother's children, so we could care less what the mother wants. Especially since we have been delegated a lot of the duties involved for the wedding.

So since the mother isn't paying at all, my bride-to-be and the rest of the bridal party decided to finalize the guest list WAY before the mother will get a chance to alter it.

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ORIGINAL: poise

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ORIGINAL: MissAsylum

While in my perfect world, my friend would grow a spine and tell her mother to stop inviting people that she doesn't really know, that won't happen. She is a big pushover(bless her heart), so she will never dispute what her mother says.

However, the other members of the bridal party, including myself, are not her mother's children, so we could care less what the mother wants. Especially since we have been delegated a lot of the duties involved for the wedding.

So since the mother isn't paying at all, my bride-to-be and the rest of the bridal party decided to finalize the guest list WAY before the mother will get a chance to alter it.

I get the impression that you are treating this more like that fashion show you were asked to do make-up on
than to be an honored brides-maid at the most important day of your best friends life. You have to step back
and realize this isn't your world, and the frantic mother is always an integral part of any wedding preparation.
The mother may be simply thinking of everyone possible, knowing the worst thing in the world is to leave someone
out. She will eventually simmer down some and together her and your best friend will be able to pick a select group
of guests to make it an affordable yet happy wedding. Her mother has some valuable imput that you may overlook.
My advice to you, the bride, and the rest of the bridal party is for all of you to confer on a set deadline to finalize
the exact number of guests, which will avoid you getting any annoying phone calls.

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

Hillwilliam! Why come in here with just a few words and make all the sense in the world when we are going the drama and philosophical routes?! lol Good post!