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RE: In reference to control. - 7/28/2010 6:38:28 PM

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The problem here is that we all make poor judgment calls, no? If it's a regular occurrence and then that would be subjective..even if I would agree..We may be of different opinions on whether any one instance was so. The decisions I make might not sit well with you but that wouldn't make me any less anything because you don't agree with it.

I don't see you saying anything I haven't already.

Take your statement for instance..You made a sweeping statement about how that's why they are single but you have no idea if that's true or not.

Tons of people are in relationships that go against what you've said. Maybe some for longer periods than others but that doesn't matter.

There are no universal laws governing what's right and what's wrong when it comes to submissive and dominants..only opinions based on personal bias and ones own desires.

My statement about submissive would fit into that area.

Anyway, I'm betting you see the logic in it all. Maybe not.

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RE: In reference to control. - 7/28/2010 6:56:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

The problem here is that we all make poor judgment calls, no? If it's a regular occurrence and then that would be subjective..even if I would agree..We may be of different opinions on whether any on instance was so. The decisions I make might not sit well with you but that wouldn't make me any less anything because you don't agree with it.

Then allow me to posit that your judgment is horribly flawed in the comment you made regarding submissive women on this site. And if we're going to use the "standard" that we present on dominance and submission it would suggest that you are making an assessment of her submission in a manner that is theoretically impossible. You can use your observation and suggest the behaviors may not coincide with the conduct you consider fitting for a submissive. But to say they are not "that submissive" is a theory you cannot validate. It is an educated guess. Nothing more or less. And as you've already admitted, you've never met anyone from this site in person.

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Take your statement for instance..You made a sweeping statement about how that's why they are single but you have no idea if that's true or not.

I believe they are presenting themselves in that fashion. I'm basing that information on what they've provided publicly. I did not question his dominance. I said he was single. And I have already acknowledged that the individual that isn't right for me could be the perfect fit for someone else. He just isn't my cup of tea.

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My statement about submissive would fit into that area. Anyway, I'm betting you see the logic in it all. Maybe not.

I see a lot of disgruntled men with insecurities and ego issues seeking a remedy through BDSM. Dominance restores what was lost or never achieved in society.

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RE: In reference to control. - 7/28/2010 7:02:35 PM

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You can use your observation and suggest the behaviors may not coincide with the conduct you consider fitting for a submissive.

Bingo.

I don't need to validate anything. It's an opinion. Much like your "That's why they are single" comment.

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RE: In reference to control. - 7/28/2010 7:04:03 PM

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I see a lot of disgruntled men with insecurities and ego issues seeking a remedy through BDSM. Dominance restores what was lost or never achieved in society.

Where's your proof?

How would you know the guy wasn't your cup of tea from the internet? Maybe the same way any of us do..We go on what we think..whether we've "judged" right or not.

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RE: In reference to control. - 7/28/2010 7:07:23 PM

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You can use your observation and suggest the behaviors may not coincide with the conduct you consider fitting for a submissive.

Bingo.

I don't need to validate anything. It's an opinion. Much like your "That's why they are single" comment.

It would be a little hard to validate things behind a screen. That's one big stumbling block.

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RE: In reference to control. - 7/28/2010 7:09:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: porcelaine

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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You can use your observation and suggest the behaviors may not coincide with the conduct you consider fitting for a submissive.

Bingo.

I don't need to validate anything. It's an opinion. Much like your "That's why they are single" comment.

It would be a little hard to validate things behind a screen. That's one big stumbling block.

~porcelaine

We've went full circle then lol.

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