Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

The kidless kinksters thread.


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Off the Grid >> The kidless kinksters thread. Page: [1] 2 3   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 7:57:13 AM   
Smutmonger


Posts: 995
Joined: 2/17/2010
Status: offline 		Just sounding out folks without kids on here. I decided at some point in my life that I wasn't good parent material-and I stuck with it.

Ideally-people like me find others who don't have children as well-it makes life a lot less complicated.

But it does still create problems.

Do you ever feel judged for the choice not to have bred?

_____________________________

I didn't get into an alternative lifestyle to explore new frontiers in conformity.
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 7:58:49 AM   
GreedyTop


Posts: 52100
Joined: 5/2/2007
From: Savannah, GA
Status: offline 		Not lately, but yeah... sometimes I have felt judged. 

_____________________________

polysnortatious
Supreme Goddess of Snark
CHARTER MEMBER: Lance's Fag Hags!
Waiting for my madman in a Blue Box.

(in reply to Smutmonger)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 8:01:48 AM   
onlyfreelycaged


Posts: 254
Joined: 4/3/2007
Status: offline 		yes, I am.. but mostly because I think of a unborn baby inside *me* as a parasite. (at least for the time being)

(in reply to GreedyTop)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 8:02:10 AM   
NihilusZero


Posts: 4036
Joined: 9/10/2008
From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		Nope.

About the only rumination I occasionally suffer is that of being the only son my parents had and, as far as this branch of the family tree is concerned, no children would mean the end of the last name.


_____________________________

"I know it's all a game
I know they're all insane
I know it's all in vain
I know that I'm to blame."
~Siouxsie & the Banshees

NihilusZero.com

CM Sex God du Jour
CM Hall Monitor

(in reply to GreedyTop)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 8:11:51 AM   
Smutmonger


Posts: 995
Joined: 2/17/2010
Status: offline 		I'm not the only one of my "name" out there,and I would not let a constraint like that make such a grave decision for me in any case.

And I really enjoy the freedom to do as I please.

quote:

ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

Nope.

About the only rumination I occasionally suffer is that of being the only son my parents had and, as far as this branch of the family tree is concerned, no children would mean the end of the last name.



_____________________________

I didn't get into an alternative lifestyle to explore new frontiers in conformity.

(in reply to NihilusZero)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 8:12:24 AM   
GreedyTop


Posts: 52100
Joined: 5/2/2007
From: Savannah, GA
Status: offline 		That's a bit of it too, for me, NZ.  I am my parents only child.  I feel SOME self-inflicted pressure due to that.  There is a part of me that feels like I am failing in some way by choosing not to continue the DNA line of my parents.  This is NOT a sufficient reason to reproduce, though.  Besides, I am rapidly approaching the point where the choice is no longer mine, anyway... (damned hot flashes!!)

_____________________________

polysnortatious
Supreme Goddess of Snark
CHARTER MEMBER: Lance's Fag Hags!
Waiting for my madman in a Blue Box.

(in reply to NihilusZero)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 8:18:46 AM   
Smutmonger


Posts: 995
Joined: 2/17/2010
Status: offline 		My mother asked me several years ago.."When am I going to see some grandchildren?"

I just replied,"And this is your choice to make..how? Don't hold your breath waiting!"

< Message edited by Smutmonger -- 3/15/2010 8:19:02 AM >

_____________________________

I didn't get into an alternative lifestyle to explore new frontiers in conformity.

(in reply to GreedyTop)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 8:24:08 AM   
GreedyTop


Posts: 52100
Joined: 5/2/2007
From: Savannah, GA
Status: offline 		My mom is resigned to having grand-furbabies...LOL

_____________________________

polysnortatious
Supreme Goddess of Snark
CHARTER MEMBER: Lance's Fag Hags!
Waiting for my madman in a Blue Box.

(in reply to Smutmonger)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 8:30:20 AM   
Lucienne


Posts: 1175
Joined: 9/5/2009
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

There is a part of me that feels like I am failing in some way by choosing not to continue the DNA line of my parents.


This. Except I'd take it one more step and say that I feel a teeny tiny bit of guilt that at this point I'm completely indifferent to spreading my DNA. So I feel slightly guilty for feeling like I'm not failing if I choose not to reproduce. I mean, that whole reproductive urge is kind of the essence of life. But I figure what's the point of achieving higher level consciousness if I don't feel free to exercise choice when I can? I never decided "no way am I having kids." I think I'd make a great parent. I also think that parenting urges are different than reproductive urges. It's not impossible at this stage that I might find myself deciding to get pregnant, although it seems pretty damn unlikely. And when the biological window closes, I'll still have plenty of opportunities to nurture. At the end of the day, I think nurturing is more important than contributing my particular strand to the gene pool.

I don't talk about this sort of stuff very often, and when I do people tend to be confused, not particularly judgmental.

(in reply to GreedyTop)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 8:38:34 AM   
GreedyTop


Posts: 52100
Joined: 5/2/2007
From: Savannah, GA
Status: offline 		I think (NOW, as opposed to even 10 yrs ago) I'd be a good parent.  Ihave no desire to actually be preggers, though.  Maybe someday, fostering or adopting might be an option.  Although that still sidesteps the whole DNA thing..LOL

_____________________________

polysnortatious
Supreme Goddess of Snark
CHARTER MEMBER: Lance's Fag Hags!
Waiting for my madman in a Blue Box.

(in reply to Lucienne)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 8:39:24 AM   
Hawkwindblues


Posts: 183
Joined: 6/26/2009
From: Berlin, Germany
Status: offline 		It was a very long time ago that i decided due to different reasons, that i do not see blood bonded children on my way.

From time to time i thought about it, because i felt the need to do it and i am of the inclination to proof my attitudes regularly.

I felt judged and misunderstood, but not as a very often occurence. As i am exceptionally good with children and taught a lot in my life, i still stayed in contact, i even had to help a friend through the birth of her daughter, which was a breathtaking experience.

Today i am still happy and content with my decision.

_____________________________

After 10 years with the handle ZenDragoness it is time for a change.

(in reply to Smutmonger)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 8:39:54 AM   
CarrieO


Posts: 2432
Joined: 1/27/2008
Status: offline 		I love children....other people's children.  You know, the ones you can love and spoil then not worry about saving for their college education!

I've worked with children in one way or another for over 20 years...I've been able to have a positive effect in the life of many ankle biters.  Yes, I know I would have made a fantastic mom but I made the conscious choice to remain childless.  I like being Aunty.  I have a nurturing nature and I can express that in many different ways.

I would have no problem with becoming involved with a man who has children but it's not something I seek out. 

My mom has come to accept that there'll be no grandkids from me. 

_____________________________

"No matter what happens in the kitchen, never apologize"~Julia Child~


(in reply to Smutmonger)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 8:43:12 AM   
CarrieO


Posts: 2432
Joined: 1/27/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop
Maybe someday, fostering or adopting might be an option. 


I've given serious thought to fostering and plan on doing it at some point.  There are so many other options to express a nurturing side. 

_____________________________

"No matter what happens in the kitchen, never apologize"~Julia Child~


(in reply to GreedyTop)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 8:43:52 AM   
Wolf2Bear


Posts: 3204
Joined: 9/6/2009
Status: offline 		Thankfully in the past 20 yrs or so, I haven't gotten the lecture of " It's up to me to carry on the family name so when will I get married and have kids?"  I never wanted offspring and never felt that drive to reproduce, and in the cold light of day...I am damn glad I didn't have offspring as I'd make a damn lousy parent.

_____________________________

~Resident Sadist Approved~

Take the pain
Take the pleasure
I'm the master of both
Close your eyes, not your mind
Let me into your soul
I'm gonna work it 'til your totally blown

(in reply to GreedyTop)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 8:46:54 AM   
GreedyTop


Posts: 52100
Joined: 5/2/2007
From: Savannah, GA
Status: offline 		Bear.. what I know of you, you'd make an awesome Daddy (of the parental type LOL).

_____________________________

polysnortatious
Supreme Goddess of Snark
CHARTER MEMBER: Lance's Fag Hags!
Waiting for my madman in a Blue Box.

(in reply to Wolf2Bear)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 8:51:45 AM   
BKSir


Posts: 4037
Joined: 4/8/2008
From: Salt Lake City, UT
Status: offline 		Can't stand em, don't want em, not gonna happen.  Plain as that.

_____________________________

We'll begin with a spin, traveling in a world of my creation. What we'll see will defy explanation.

I am the voices in your head.

BiggKatt Studios

(in reply to GreedyTop)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 8:57:52 AM   
Wolf2Bear


Posts: 3204
Joined: 9/6/2009
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

Bear.. what I know of you, you'd make an awesome Daddy (of the parental type LOL).


Thanks Greedy yet it comes down to the plain fact that I do not want nor have I ever wanted that responsibility.


_____________________________

~Resident Sadist Approved~

Take the pain
Take the pleasure
I'm the master of both
Close your eyes, not your mind
Let me into your soul
I'm gonna work it 'til your totally blown

(in reply to GreedyTop)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 8:59:49 AM   
LadyHibiscus


Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline 		Being child free is the best decision I EVER made. And I made that decision at age FIVE!!

_____________________________

[page 23 girl]



(in reply to Wolf2Bear)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 9:00:23 AM   
sblady


Posts: 433
Joined: 9/28/2007
Status: offline 		I've been judged and called selfish for my decision to remain childless. I really wanted at least one child but didn't want to be a single parent. Honestly? I've only met one man who I felt would be a great father and that's Sir. As we're of a "certain" age, it's a non-issue. He does have kids but they're grown and out of the house.

I have a lot of siblings and have over 30 nieces and nephews. Whenever my biological clock started ticking, I'd get one or two of them for a weekend or so.


< Message edited by sblady -- 3/15/2010 9:03:15 AM >

_____________________________

Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values. Dalai Lama





(in reply to Smutmonger)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: The kidless kinksters thread. - 3/15/2010 9:03:48 AM   
Dominasola


Posts: 582
Joined: 9/18/2008
From: Ottawa, Canada
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Smutmonger

Do you ever feel judged for the choice not to have bred?


Being young, this hasn't come up with me yet as I still have 20+ years to do so.

I HAVE, however, felt judged sometimes because I CAN'T have children.


_____________________________

I have made a ceaseless effort not to ridicule, not to bewail, not to scorn human actions, but to understand them.

—Baruch Spinoza

The measure of a man is what he does with power.

—Pittacus

(in reply to Smutmonger)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2 3   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Off the Grid >> The kidless kinksters thread. Page: [1] 2 3   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.094