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RE: Damage done - 3/17/2010 4:30:05 AM

subtee

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ORIGINAL: heartcream

Personally I think the damage done in our world and societies is rampant. Add to it the amount of shame, confusion and lack of ability a lot of the time to do what might need to be done to get help.

We are encouraged to be healthy and independent to 'not have baggage' to present ourselves as having it together when we dont really. We get credit for being even-keeled and being unemotional.

I dont know the statistics but people are abused in all sorts of ways all the time unfortunately.

It takes special people to have the kind of insight, understanding and compassion to help heal these broken up places. To want to. I think this is a case of finding somone, or people that click, and really do care to take the time and effort to move this healing along.

It is good to find people to feel trust for and safe around so one can relax and be themselves, let their real selves surface without the fear of being rejected for it. I dont mean acting out and doing more damage to oneself or another but to be able to not have to hide who we are from the other.

I see relationships that seem to very much have this dynamic intact and I find it very inspiring and a standard to hold my own romantic liaisons against.

This is a very cool post, HC.

What I see sometimes, and find alarming, is the posters who come seemingly seeking to invite more abuse; usually these OPs end up with pages and pages of folks giving that abuse to them and they, seemingly, can't get enough of it.

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RE: Damage done - 3/18/2010 7:00:26 PM

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Personally growing up had two loving parents a great brother,always walked the straight and narrow path (never got a detention in school, my first taste of alcohol was when I actually turned 21, never had a traumatic life experience. Just so happens that my brain in wired in such a way that it deviates from the norm everyday society has.

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RE: Damage done - 3/18/2010 7:04:14 PM

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I had a great childhood. I knew I was loved and cared for. My parents, while far from perfect were active in my life.

I wish every kid had a childhood like mine...... with the possible exception of a slightly less psycho mother. But hey you can't have it all.

Jeff

edited to add..... in spite of that. I still think tears are errotic..... go figure

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RE: Damage done - 3/18/2010 7:33:57 PM

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I've always been under the impression that people who were involved in this subculture had more negative experiences than most, and that the more terrible and often the experiences, the more perverted that person will be if they manifest themselves in a sexual way. This way of thinking is common, and while not necessarily true it's a reasonable belief since people naturally associate the "different" with the "bad". Those who cross accepted sexual boundaries are often given the benefit of the doubt, with their difference blamed on a traumatic life experience rather than something inherently different in the personality.

However, I think I would be a very good counterexample! My parents have been nothing but loving and supportive my entire life. Cruises each summer, vacations to the beach, camping, hiking, all kinds of fun activities. While I had a few problems in childhood, they were nothing out of the ordinary and I've always had good friends. Later in life (though I'm only 25), I experienced problems like unemployment, heartbreak, and stress in many different forms but again, just a normal part of life. If I told people what I was into sexually though, most would think that I'm completely insane. I love all water sports, especially the dirty ones. Add to that foot worship, bondage, humiliation, strap-ons...etc. I'd also do more extreme things than water sports, though I'm not comfortable explaining them, even anonymously. So what the hell gave me all these desires??

Sorry, I meant to reply in general to this thread. First post, so gimme a break