Termyn8or
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I think the level of anonymity here is a big factor. You realize that regular email is scanned, but mail here is only scanned by this site. To find out who you are takes a court order or subpeona.
So you'll find more people willing to discuss that they have very wierd proclivities or serious issues that would be embarrasing to admit elsewhere. Many blogs put your email right out there for all to see.
The owner of sweetchastity.com got beat up by fagbashers after they found out where he was. He did suffer real injuries, this was not just a smacking around. This is an important point, kinksters enjoy the same stigma homosexuals used to en masse, and some to this day. I guess Canada is a good place for that because that's where the dude caught a severe asskicking. For basically nothing at all. They found him, he didn't go out looking for them.
There are a couple of people here who can think in psychological terms well enough to evaluate the base personality of a fagbasher. Mine is that they are afraid - of themselves. Fear generates anger. Anyone who disagrees has been alone for waaaaaaay tooooo long. The mechanism by which this happens is understandable, but convoluted. I am not going into detail at this time, not my thread.
However it may be noteworthy that the fagbashers are actually more damaged than the "fags" they bash. And that is what we are dealing with in the general population. Everyone has defense mechanisms and their own form of escape. And actually I am starting to think that almost any form of criminality may be the result of same. That was a postulation, not an assertation. And if untrue, the two are closely connected. I have befriended many "criminals" as well as criminals and I see the same thing. It started young. You really get these people talking you get to the root of the problem sometimes. It's not always abuse, at least not physically. Sometimes it is of course, but not all the time. And sometimes it is just not abuse at all, it is the attitude conferred by Parents or guardians. There are many facets of this as well.
Understand how I am, I was not abused as a child. At about 18 I started really abusing myself though, but that is not the point. If I saw someone smacking a kid around, more than a usual spanking I would not call anyone, I would smack them. Even though I did not experience it, I know the effects all too well. Even the alternate morality, if that is how it is, at least teach the kids that they shouldn't hurt people and how not to get caught. That's your duty, and most people have shirked their responsibility in this matter.
And now we have an overfilled prison system, and mental institutions. Hospitals with victims and sharks alike. Not to mention the fact that we have so many people on mood altering prescription drugs now that Orwell's 1984 is boring. I won't even bother to read it, well maybe someday.
If you have damage done, tell us. Don't think we are pros, but realize that pro only means you get paid. The word does not infer any type of competence. But if you have to go to a shrink, fine. But that doesn't mean you can't bring it up here and get some different angles on the situation. That doesn't mean our opinions are automatically invalid.
Think of it like this, you have an embarrassing problem, or are half crazy or whatever. In real life you might only discuss these matters with a few very close friends. Well in that way a site like this, by removing one's true identity from view, can actually make us closer. How's that for irony ?
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RE: Damage done - 
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What can be difficult for some to catch is that there may be an old history between posters that a newer partipant would be completely unaware of, or inside jokes from the other side, or even a little fun-loving score to be settled from internet locations other than this. 
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