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RE: orgasm control - 3/1/2010 5:38:24 PM

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RE: orgasm control - 3/1/2010 5:50:00 PM

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If you move away from the orgasm you can enjoy the build up to lift off subsequent. I find being brought close, then backed off and staretd again, ends up in a much more intense orgasm when I am finally allowed to come. YMMV.

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RE: orgasm control - 3/1/2010 6:05:54 PM

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I think most people don't cum enough. Intellectually I understand orgasm control. In practice, not so much.

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RE: orgasm control - 3/1/2010 6:42:50 PM

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tell her No...then nibble on her earlobe and say.."maybe next time" while stroking her softly..hhmm well hell..your trying to say I got it all wrong???lol

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RE: orgasm control - 3/1/2010 8:36:15 PM

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Ask sooner.

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RE: orgasm control - 3/2/2010 1:55:20 AM

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yes, ask sooner
... and also when you find yourself on the edge, instead of asking a forced strangely formal question, maybe stay in the mood and just breathe: "close i'm so close", or "i'm nearly there"... something that makes sure he knows where you are... (if he didn't notice that him self already) so he can decide to what to do... i think it is more about giving information than asking for permission...

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RE: orgasm control - 3/2/2010 8:46:17 AM

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Yuuuuuuuummmmmmy, Orgasm control.

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RE: orgasm control - 3/2/2010 9:12:54 AM

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Maybe my plumbing is rusty or soemthing, because turn me off in midstream and I don't start easily again. So it never quite worked for me like in the movies.

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RE: orgasm control - 3/2/2010 9:35:20 AM

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I keep thinking about this one, and all I gotta say is I'm very glad I'm not in a position to worry about someone denying me my sexual pleasure. It's fun to just have a quicky or use a sub and then put them up wet, but doing it over and over and over because I get a kick out of it? Nah.

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RE: orgasm control - 3/2/2010 9:49:54 AM

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I think most people don't cum enough. Intellectually I understand orgasm control. In practice, not so much.

Too many mistake the "control" part in "orgasm control" to mean "orgasm denial", where the "control" part means just that... CONTROL. When CONTROL is learned, the affect is not only being able to orgasm MORE, but FASTER and HARDER as well.

Example: Being able to drive a car faster and harder because you've learned to better "control" it.

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RE: orgasm control - 3/2/2010 10:02:11 AM

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The anticipation and mental stimulus that is ongoing and somehat distracting is what I always focused on. Lust is a powerful thing to control-a biulding orgasm can be plateaued numerous times to make release more powerful-you have to be perceptive as the top.

Denial tends to back fire-since women eventually sublimate.

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RE: orgasm control - 3/2/2010 10:38:16 AM

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I have been following this thread and holging back My post because I just couldn't see any logical reason to practice orgasm control (other than the obvious: for the sake of control) and thinking it was a lot of trouble to even be successful at it with little gain. I'd rather teach the girl to cook mexican food.

I think I got it now. A reason to do this that would actual provide a benifit to Dom and sub!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I would do O control on a nymphomaniac. This girl would be so fucking horny all the time and pestering Me to give her so many fucking orgasims to the point of My fatigue and mental anguish. O control would be a good way to teach her that I am not her masturbation machine, she has no rights to an orgasm. And she would be so fucking horny all the time that once she had permission she would be able to easily orgasm.

So advice to the OP.... Become a nympho. smile.

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RE: orgasm control - 3/2/2010 10:42:16 AM

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You might even get the nympho to do *gasp*..housework to be able to get off.

What an AMAZING concept!

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I have been following this thread and holging back My post because I just couldn't see any logical reason to practice orgasm control (other than the obvious: for the sake of control) and thinking it was a lot of trouble to even be successful at it with little gain. I'd rather teach the girl to cook mexican food.

I think I got it now. A reason to do this that would actual provide a benifit to Dom and sub!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I would do O control on a nymphomaniac. This girl would be so fucking horny all the time and pestering Me to give her so many fucking orgasims to the point of My fatigue and mental anguish. O control would be a good way to teach her that I am not her masturbation machine, she has no rights to an orgasm. And she would be so fucking horny all the time that once she had permission she would be able to easily orgasm.

So advice to the OP.... Become a nympho. smile.

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RE: orgasm control - 3/2/2010 11:23:51 AM

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hi

im wondering what method or techniques there are for not losing the orgasm thats belting up sooo nicely and then you have to hold back and ask to cum. at that point i tend to lose the immediate need to O - its got tripped up by having to remember to ask - so then theres this stupid delay when ive asked to O and need to go back to tuning into the sensations that had got me there the first time - its so annoying.

can anyone help or is it all about practice.

Orgasm control requires practice for some, and seeing as there is some crucial moments that if interrupted, you'll lose the momentum, then this poses a challenge. I personally don't like to impede on my submissive's orgasms and often encourage them like one who deals with sweepstakes: "[Orgasm] early and [Orgasm] often..." to adapt from Al Capone's quote. I am happy when my girl orgasms, and even more happy when she asks - knowing that she is doing her best to time it all since she is one of those if impeded, will lose the momentum in a frustrated heap. She prizes her orgasm as much as I do, and so she is doing her best to make that happen, she is wanting to please me even more by requesting what I already want from her...who could as for anything more?

I propose that orgasm control doesn't have to be about denial, or impediment; but can also be about pulling more out of her when she thinks she's had enough (or the "I say it's over when I say it's over" exercise). Granted she can only do as many as she can. But you can work on pushing it some and trying to get more out of her. Some women are usually good with one, some with a few and there are a number of women where sky's the limit (or at least consciousness). In the past, I have had fun with this, but I've never had fun with orgasm denial...I'd rather they beg me to stop than to ask me if they can start. Besides, a good sadist knows that too much of a good thing can be a good thing.

Good luck with the practice though. Sounds like the right way to go with this.

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RE: orgasm control - 3/2/2010 11:25:23 AM

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My Master is very fond of controlling my orgasms. But for us, it has been very much a process on both our parts. Actual training to teach me how to do so. I never thought I would enjoy having my orgasms controlled, but the way he does it makes it more fulfilling, and in no way seems like I am being denied anything. I just feel very tuned into him, and begging to cum is a powerful addition to our play.

When we first got together, he started off by using the same key phrase every time I was about to cum (he learned my cries and sounds very quickly so he knew exactly when I was ready). "Cum for me". There wasn't a control of my orgasm at that point, simply associating that phrase with orgasm in my head. Then he gradually started taking more control of my actual point of no return. When he knew I was getting close and really wanted to cum, he would make me stop. At first I couldn't stop myself, I was so used to cumming without any control at all. It took practice, but oh it was so much fun learning!

Now we are at a point where I can get so close, squirming and writhing and pleading with him for release... but until he says those three words "Cum for me", somewhere in my brain I don't WANT to cum until he lets me, just to please him.

This method also has the fabulous side effect of if he says those words outside of a sexual situation, like whispering it in my ear out of the blue? I immediately get wet and shiver all along my spine. I don't actually CUM without stimulation and build-up, but it immediately flips a switch in my head. It thoroughly reinforces the control he has over me, and thrills me to no end.

So I personally feel that practice is very good, but I think the more input your Master has in the learning process, the better! :) Just my humble opinion based on my own experience, of course.

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RE: orgasm control - 3/2/2010 3:45:23 PM

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orgasm control works for a little while on me, making me want him more and more but the longer I go without the harder it is for me to have any interest in much of anything sexual.

I'm good in the moment if he's teasing me, building me up but if he's just ignoring me then I tend to just lose interest and will eventually just find something else to occupy my time.

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RE: orgasm control - 3/2/2010 8:37:00 PM

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I for one am glad to see your getting laid.

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RE: orgasm control - 3/2/2010 9:04:41 PM

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Seems like this is an ask four people get five answers sort of topic. It seems to me (and I could be entirely off base as I just have a few sentences to go by) as though something about asking is causing you to feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, awkward or some other emotion that's not conducive to cumming. Maybe worrying that you'll mess up is causing you to mess up or you're worrying he'll say no or et cetera et cetera.

The only solution I know for this is more practice with as little stress and as much fun as possible.

I'm also wondering about a couple of things: is this a fairly new relationship, do you have difficulty orgasming outside of this scenario or with him in general?

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RE: orgasm control - 3/5/2010 8:18:10 PM

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Like others have said - practice. Just keep at it. I had a hard time with it at first, too, but after a while it became much easier and I've come to really enjoy and prefer it.

Also, try using a powerful stimulus like a Hitachi. Even if you've lost some steam, that damn thing'll power you right back. ;)

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RE: orgasm control - 3/6/2010 4:02:20 AM

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I for one am glad to see your getting laid.

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im glad about it too

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