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lally2 -> RE: spanking bottoms versus flogging backs and breasts (2/4/2010 5:33:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven quote: ORIGINAL: lally2 clearly i was wrong in assuming then that pain for a masso is ok all over the body it helps to know im not the only one - [:)] Yup. I've known several women that loved getting spanked but could not take any nipple play to speak of. hm, im the same - nipples are small, soft, cute little buttons that smile at you and want to be licked and sucked and teased (IMHO) [:)]

lally2 -> RE: spanking bottoms versus flogging backs and breasts (2/4/2010 5:36:04 AM)
........ but noone has come forth to say why they like to torture nipples, or flog breasts or backs. i think it would help me to understand that. i can understand bottoms, theyre round and bouncy and fun - ok so breasts are too, but im used to men wanting to nuzzle up to those and love them. just saying anyways....

DesFIP -> RE: spanking bottoms versus flogging backs and breasts (2/4/2010 5:40:23 AM)
Nipple torture is his only real sadistic activity. I'm not at all masochistic and I knew from the get go that I wouldn't be compatible with a sadist. I wanted, and got, a rope top who is dominant. I have no idea why he absolutely adores making me squeal from nipple torture, except that it gets that immediate visceral response. Even all tied up, I try to get away, cover them, make lots of noise. And he gets off on my responsiveness. He dislikes it when I go deep into subspace because then I don't respond, I don't give off lots of energy that he can take.

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: spanking bottoms versus flogging backs and breasts (2/4/2010 5:49:46 AM)
lally, here's a link to something I posted a long time ago on another thread... this might help you understand why somebody might want to hurt your puppies ()().... http://www.collarchat.com/m_1929359/mpage_1/tm.htm#1929573 Actually the whole thread might be a good read for you... A Question for Sadists

lally2 -> RE: spanking bottoms versus flogging backs and breasts (2/4/2010 6:00:02 AM)
my puppies [:)] oh i like that. thank you for the links, ill go and read it. xx

lally2 -> RE: spanking bottoms versus flogging backs and breasts (2/4/2010 6:05:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Nipple torture is his only real sadistic activity. I'm not at all masochistic and I knew from the get go that I wouldn't be compatible with a sadist. I wanted, and got, a rope top who is dominant. I have no idea why he absolutely adores making me squeal from nipple torture, except that it gets that immediate visceral response. Even all tied up, I try to get away, cover them, make lots of noise. And he gets off on my responsiveness. He dislikes it when I go deep into subspace because then I don't respond, I don't give off lots of energy that he can take. you see i want to be able to do that too - not to get so angry, just respond and react in the way that they want and if that means the visceral dislike response, then fine, just not to get angry about it, that feels so damn negative and i hate responding that way. like allthatjaz said, Stephen likes it when she gets angry -so then that works for them. that is another way around dealing with it i spose. thanks xx

lally2 -> RE: spanking bottoms versus flogging backs and breasts (2/4/2010 6:17:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4 lally, here's a link to something I posted a long time ago on another thread... this might help you understand why somebody might want to hurt your puppies ()().... http://www.collarchat.com/m_1929359/mpage_1/tm.htm#1929573 Actually the whole thread might be a good read for you... A Question for Sadists ()() - giggle, just spotted that [:D] so really with this its along the lines of 'entertainment' and 'sex freak' sadistic mode. i can relate to that. if i think back to the two times i got angry during breast and nipple torture i was at a complete loss to understand why he wanted to do those things to me, when i clearly hated them so much. i know how stupid that sounds[&:]. if he'd fucked me to death afterwards i might have seen a 'no pain no gain' [:)] deal going on. and i know there is no such thing as a pay off or a 'deal' - but my anger got in the way of logic. in my head, if im giving pleasure then i can deal with most things, i wasnt aware that i was giving pleasure. it felt like it was just something to do to me and the fact that i hated it was all the more reason to do it - and yes, i can see how that would work now. thanks hun, ok, i know it must seem elementary, but on those two occasions it was all about how much i hated 'it' and him at the time and nothing atall about pleasing him, as a byproduct of that anger i guess. and now i can see how it all got skewed.

bondmaid123 -> RE: spanking bottoms versus flogging backs and breasts (2/4/2010 6:27:27 AM)
FR~~~ I'm the exact opposite. (sorta). To me, a nice heavy flogging across the shoulders is akin to a quality deep tissue massage and it really helps me release the tension that I oh-so-conveniently store right there in those muscles. :P It's a slice of heaven! Breast flogging for me isn't all that erotic. My breasts are not terribly sensitive, and so there's just this sort of "ouch!" but it's a neutral in terms of which headspace it puts me into (subspace or 'get me the fuck away from here'). When I'm hit on the ass/legs, I panic. Straight away. I was spanked severely as a child, and it triggers some serious stuff for me. I've never seen spanking as erotic, only punishment and it hits me in the "OH MY GOD I AM SORRY PLEASE DON'T HIT ME" spot and it's typically all downhill from there. Fortunately, my Master and I have had some lengthy conversations about this topic so he's aware that he may end up with a quivering pile of goo, but not THE quivering pile of goo he bargained for. ;)

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