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RE: extreams - 12/27/2009 6:01:04 PM   
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I tend to view 'extreme' as pressing the very outer boundaries of any limit.  Too extreme, for me, would be going beyond (or being taken beyond) my limit boundaries...


thats what this thread is about , what your thought are, it's not a box to stand on moralizing

i sincerely hope i don't have to repeat this again


Moralizing?  I'm genuinely curious as to how you preceive me having done that?

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RE: extreams - 12/27/2009 6:03:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

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I tend to view 'extreme' as pressing the very outer boundaries of any limit.  Too extreme, for me, would be going beyond (or being taken beyond) my limit boundaries...


thats what this thread is about , what your thought are, it's not a box to stand on moralizing

i sincerely hope i don't have to repeat this again


Moralizing?  I'm genuinely curious as to how you preceive me having done that?


not you, i guess i was still on my rant about a previous poster

didn't mean to give you that idea if i did

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RE: extreams - 12/27/2009 6:09:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		As I understand it, "too extreme", need not be debilitating.  Again, I guess I'm too caught up in semantics or something.  It is just that many scenes can be debilitating, without being harmful.  I've had scenes that wrung every bit of energy from me, and left me debilitated until I regained my strength, and those scenes didn't come close to going even to boundaries of my limits. 

Maybe I'm being too literal?



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RE: extreams - 12/27/2009 6:11:07 PM   
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As I understand it, "too extreme", need not be debilitating.  Again, I guess I'm too caught up semantics or something.  It is just that many scenes can be debilitating, without being harmful.  I've had scenes that wrung every bit of energy from me, and left me debilitated until I regained my strength, and those scenes didn't come close to going even to boundaries of my limits. 


maybe debilitating wasn't the best choice more along the line of permanent disability

or permanently unwanted

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RE: extreams - 12/27/2009 6:13:20 PM   
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RE: extreams - 12/27/2009 6:26:51 PM   
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maybe debilitating wasn't the best choice more along the line of permanent disability


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but then again it's your definition that counts


That is my point, after a fashion.  Before it is possible to communicate, the words used have to be mutually understood with at least a basic commonly shared understanding.   Let me put my thought processes together for you.

If a misogynist is someone who hates women, then as a woman posting on a thread regarding what is "too extreme" started by a self-proclaimed misognyist, part of my curiosity revolves as much around the motivations of the OP, as it does around the actual topic.  Again, while I concede YOU are not here to appease my curiosity, I am here for that purpose...to appease my curiosity and amuse myself.

I doubt you really put as much thought into your original post, as I give you credit for...but I'm still curious as to your motivations regarding the post.

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RE: extreams - 12/27/2009 6:28:13 PM   
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RE: extreams - 12/27/2009 6:32:38 PM   
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the post is simple, i'm curious as to what others think too extreme is, maybe i'm around the bend lol

but honestly , i've seen some women on here that are too extreme for me in some respects

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RE: extreams - 12/27/2009 6:33:13 PM   
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how extreme is too extreme?

you supply the meaning of extreme





I saw a hair do once which I thought was fukkin extreme...it had a 2L COKE bottle in ..on top of her head with hair combed over it..

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RE: extreams - 12/27/2009 6:34:35 PM   
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RE: extreams - 12/27/2009 8:18:36 PM   
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how extreme is too extreme?


When I won't do it, it's too extreme for me.

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RE: extreams - 12/27/2009 8:23:54 PM   
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how extreme is too extreme?


When I won't do it, it's too extreme for me.

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do you stop at the sound of the first or second breaking bone?

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RE: extreams - 12/27/2009 8:54:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		Extreme... Like MOST of what we do in the physical and mental aspects of this lifestyle are subjective.
 
I watched The Punisher and decided that searing meat while trouching my blindfolded sub with a popcicle was not only fun as hell but amusing to no end when they start safe wording and I just turn up the music.
 
Extreme? FUCK YEAH IT IS!! but I know she is in no real harm except for hyperventalating... I know CPR. and when all is said and done they see the things we do differently.
 
Some would call me a Monster for hearing a safe-word and not stopping immediatly but fuck them they aren't in the bedroom with me and if they read this and say I'm a lunitic then they obviously aren't the right one for me.
 
Extreme? Maybe it's extreme to order them nude and then park the car at a truck stop while I watch from the gas pumps. (No I've not done this but thought it might be fun)
 
I can think out some sick shit in my head but in the end it is up to the person who chooses to be with me to determin if it's Too Extreme or not.
 
From where I stand, Mortality is the only steadfast place I would draw the line at being too extreme.
 
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RE: extreams - 12/27/2009 9:13:16 PM   
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how extreme is too extreme?

you supply the meaning of extreme




Your ridiculous use of the boards. Smarten up.

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RE: extreams - 12/28/2009 12:53:04 AM   
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do you stop at the sound of the first or second breaking bone?


The question is what the parties have agreed to. I happen to think that it's important to keep one's word, freely given.

That aside, there are very few things I have even heard about that I would consider too extreme between consenting adults, broken bones included. So I'm slightly curious as to why you're bothering to poke and prod. Your posting has been less than encouraging the past few days, and if you'd bothered to read the board history, you would know this about me and others already. While it's occasionally been amusing, it's getting pretty old, as a moderator has kindly pointed out.

And if you must know, I don't see what broken bones has to do with stopping, so long as that's what the deal is.

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RE: extreams - 12/28/2009 2:56:35 AM   
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i love women but i am able to get into a mindset with a woman where i really mean all the nasty things i say to her and i want her to realize it at the time

but every thing i speak of is within the context of a relationship

some just disapprove of my proclivities and through that of those of other women, damn book burners

i'm open about it, it's in what i've written


you see that to me would be too much for me too. its one of my hard limits in fact. i cannot handle character assassination or emotional/psychological attack. but there are some who love it and can take the mind fuck.

youre picking on the wrong women is all. check out their profiles and look for whatever that comes under. its a kink, same as any other kink, you have to find someone who shares it.

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RE: extreams - 12/28/2009 5:43:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		Anything that will cause me more harm than I am willing to accept. Just like nobody else can announce what my hard limits are, nobody else can decide where my line on harm is. Other people may or may not be compatible with me and that's fine, but only I know what is too much harm.

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RE: extreams - 12/28/2009 5:49:48 AM   
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Oh and Psychonaut, since I usually am the one getting in trouble with the po-po, you'd be doing the fellating hon.

Oh and lastly....it's spelled "extreme". Fuck sake.



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RE: extreams - 12/28/2009 5:54:57 AM   
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Too extreme for what, I'd ask.

I would say nothing is "too extreme" for me because I don't see myself as a dot on a spectrum. I don't define myself as one personality trait (IE submissive or dominant) and then delineate everything that might apply to that trait into a spectrum of "tame" to "extreme" - if there's something I'm not into, like say, fellating a police officer for example, I'm not going to say "That's too extreme a form of submission for me," I'm simply going to say "That's gross. No."

I think the big issue with the idea of 'extremes' is that there's this space of 'normal' behaviour, and on either side there's a space that's abnormal enough to get an adjective (ie "slutty" and "prudish" to give an example) and then further down there's the "extremes" - sleeping with the whole football team on one hand or not having sex with the lights on after 10 years of marriage on the other side. But really the only way any of that can be considered "extreme" is if you place yourself on that spectrum to begin with, because wherever you put yourself decides where the 'normal' spectrum begins for you.

Extreme sluttiness for a nun is prudery for a prostitute.

So I think a problem can come up when I'd look at something and say "oh wow that's so extreme" but what I'm describing could be the mundane daily life of a woman on these boards. Things like eating a dog bowl or not wearing panties outside or whatever. For me, that's "oh my God that's so crazy" but for someone who does that type of thing everyday it's no different from brushing their hair in the morning. Just something that's done.

The only thing I think it can really apply to is the law - what is "too extreme" to be legal, and if you want to take the discussion into that direction let me know.

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RE: extreams - 12/28/2009 6:05:39 AM   
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step by step it seem to become less extreme...
(exceptiosn are is tthe standard hard limit stuff)

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