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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/11/2009 10:00:13 AM   
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But, I've been in here over 4 years, and this was the first one that really blew my dress up, so to speak.

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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/11/2009 11:29:36 AM   
Prinsexx


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Plenty but then I am active on the real life scene here in London, am well known and easy to find at certain well attended events. Unless they are new to the scene then chances are they have already heard of Me if not seen or met Me. I am already something of a known quantity, not just a bunch of pixels on the screen. Most of those I have arranged to meet I have met, the few who didn't I don't worry about as unreliability means non-compatible anyhow.

I only play privately an I've had success here on this site and on others and say no to meeting far more than yes....
but then I'm a female, sub, intelligent, attractive and servile...indeed I'm the Mary poppins of UK bdsm... perfectly perfect in every way....


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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/11/2009 12:11:33 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Prinsexx
indeed I'm the Mary poppins of UK bdsm... perfectly perfect in every way....


Geek pedant mode... engaged...... "Practically perfect in every way" 

In any event you is definitely Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious! 

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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/11/2009 12:36:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		Pompeii, I don't think what you wrote is going to mean much to the OP as his profile states he is gay and only looking for men. It is pretty much the truth though and will be informative to other men.

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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/11/2009 3:08:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

Plenty but then I am active on the real life scene here in London, am well known and easy to find at certain well attended events. Unless they are new to the scene then chances are they have already heard of Me if not seen or met Me. I am already something of a known quantity, widely admired and respected, not just a bunch of pixels on the screen. Most of those I have arranged to meet I have met, the few who didn't I don't worry about as unreliability means non-compatible anyhow.


Edited for accuracy.

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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/11/2009 3:16:13 PM   
RavenMuse


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ORIGINAL: stella41b


quote:

ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

Plenty but then I am active on the real life scene here in London, am well known and easy to find at certain well attended events. Unless they are new to the scene then chances are they have already heard of Me if not seen or met Me. I am already something of a known quantity, widely admired and respected, not just a bunch of pixels on the screen. Most of those I have arranged to meet I have met, the few who didn't I don't worry about as unreliability means non-compatible anyhow.


Edited for accuracy.


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When are We going to see you out and about again sweetie? Munch is next week if you can make it and We haven't had chance to catch up for a while.


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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/11/2009 4:32:27 PM   
quietlycontent


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Status: offline 		I can't actually comment on percentages or success rates on meeting people through collar me or similar sites as i haven't been a member very long? and as yet haven't tried messaging any one.
However reading the replies to this post is actually quite depressing, as it sounds as if most of the members here see success by how many "dates" they've met. It all smacks a bit of one up-manship? and notches on the bedpost to me. Some of the figures being quoted are to be honest a physical impossibility, unless the average age on here is a 150, and if they were possible the writer wouldn't have the time to spend every night posting hundreds or in some cases thousands of messages on here. I think perhaps there might be a little poetic license going on here, But then that's just the opinion of a 55 year old whose only ever had three relationships in his life, but they did all last more than an hour.

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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/11/2009 4:48:00 PM   
RavenMuse


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ORIGINAL: quietlycontent

However reading the replies to this post is actually quite depressing, as it sounds as if most of the members here see success by how many "dates" they've met.


Try reading the question that was asked. He asked how many people that had been arranged to meet, actually turned up.

He didn't ask how many relationships or 'dates'... I have met quite a number of lovely FRIENDLY people for a coffee and enjoyable chat, from here and elsewhere. Sure I have also met a few playpartners here and as mentioned a few girls that I have then gone on to become involved with including My present girl who has been with Me for two years now.

But all that was asked was about meeting people, not what for... I suggest you react to the asked question rather than to an erroneous assumption!


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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/11/2009 7:14:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have had zero luck on this site. (See my profile rant about wankers, lol.) Then again, I'm not exactly looking for someone. I have met two boys in-person from here. Both were nice, both pulled a disappearing act. I have had two others express interest but then vanish when I wanted to meet.

Oh, well. Like I said, I'm not really looking anyway. I am quite happy with my Josephine. But every once in awhile, someone interesting crosses my path. So far none have stuck around. If I were actively looking for a partner, I would probably be very disappointed.

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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/12/2009 8:57:16 AM   
Andalusite


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ORIGINAL: playfulotter
Pompeii, I don't think what you wrote is going to mean much to the OP as his profile states he is gay and only looking for men. It is pretty much the truth though and will be informative to other men.

Huh? I agree that the odds favour women over men here, but I don't think recommending that men spam women until they happen to get lucky is a good idea!

Back when I was looking, I noticed some of Pompeii's posts, and he came across as quite interesting and well-read, was local, had several interests in common, and was in my age range. His profile made it crystal-clear that he just wanted a kinky fuckbuddy, and so I didn't bother contacting him. Someone who reduces my (and other ladies') value to just our body parts doesn't have any "value" to me. I'm planning to meet some more people from here at Folsom Street Fair in a couple of weeks - I'm attending with my Master and my playpartner, so I'm not looking for anyone else to *be* with, but it's fun putting faces with the posts and talking with people! quietlycontent, that's one way to meet a huge number of people very quickly - granted, it isn't a date, but you get a lot of them all in one place and hang out.

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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/12/2009 9:10:58 AM   
sweetsub1957


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I've had good luck.  I met a ton of Doms through craigslist and none worked out, a couple through Alt w/ the same results, and then I met Sir through collarme and we're still together. 

Also, later this month, Sir & I are meeting another couple from collarme for dinner....I've been writing to her for awhile now.  I'm looking forward to it, as I'm still on collarme for friends.

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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/12/2009 11:21:13 AM   
RavenMuse


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ORIGINAL: Andalusite
Someone who reduces my (and other ladies') value to just our body parts doesn't have any "value" to me.


I did wonder if that not be part of the problem there as, as I pointed out it isn't because he is male given I am male and don't have any such problem.

In fact I just got back from meeting a delightful young lady and spending the afternoon enjoying her company over coffee. As a friend, but it you can't accept and value folks as people and as friends FIRST then you don't value them at all. I enjoy the company of whole people I don't look at them as just a collection of bodyparts!


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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/13/2009 3:49:52 AM   
fredllfixit


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Status: offline 		Just a note of "thank you" to those who responded, all of whom except one were positive about this website, some even making life partners out of a meet with a prospect from Collarme.
The one respondent who was negative about it was "pompeii", who assumed that I am straight. I am gay, and the gay world is not really like the straight world at all, if for one obvious reason (among others) that there is no procreation except by adoption for male gays.
A previous website I frequented, ABY.com, produced almost universally negative opinions from exactly the same question posed by me. This I find puzzling. I wonder if this is because the fetish is different, or another reason perhaps? Help me out here.

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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/13/2009 4:03:16 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		I hate to be pedantic fred but I do know gay males who have children. Usually from an early on relationship when they were still trying to deny their feelings. As well as those who chose to have them with a friend, either lesbian or straight, who also wants one. And of course adoption is also an option.

If aby is an adult baby site, which I'm assuming purely from the name. Then yeah, you're unlikely to find somebody. That's a kink that appeals to subs way more than doms.

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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/13/2009 7:40:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		Over the years, quite a lot.  I have met dominant women through almost every possible way.  Internet, phone personals, at parties, at work, and at school.

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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/13/2009 9:05:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		depends very much on what youre looking for, if youre looking for a play partner or somewhere to play then a club.  if youre looking for a relationship then i think, by and large, its the internet.  i met my Master on here and i have met other people from here too. 

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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/13/2009 1:13:38 PM   
MsD


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Status: offline 		Like Meagan, I have not had much luck in actually meeting anyone from CM face to face. I have had success on the internet in the past - the old user-created yahoo chat rooms & alt, but not from CM unfortunately & I'm really quite puzzled by it. Again, like Meagan, there have been those that I've emailed, chatted, & talked on the phone ... but once f2f time comes, *poof* & they're gone. It's dissappointing to be sure, but then, I have a very busy, full life, so I'm not exactly crushed over it. What will be will be (or not), after all.

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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/13/2009 5:51:03 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		I have met several people from here in real life. Some were just one time meetings as we didn't really have enough in common to continue. Some people i met several times and another I have spent quite a bit of time with. It's been a good place for me

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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/25/2009 10:43:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have my fist meeting from someone off of here few months back. After being on and off of CM for a few years (under different names than the one I use now) this was my first face-to-face meeting. The meeting came after first exchanging some nice and very interesting emails ironically on politics and other stuff mostly non-bdsd/kink related. Ultimately though we weren't really a good fit for what we sought, but it was still a good meeting over tea and bread. It reaffirmed my hopes that there are real women on here who meet offline and who are local (or within a reasonable drive) of where I reside. You just have to be willing to keep at it since meeting someone via these more "adult" nature sites tends to be far harder then your more general dating sites.

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RE: Players and Spectators. - 9/25/2009 4:38:06 PM   
Elipsis


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Status: offline 		So far it has been frustrating, disappointment, and mostly discouraging.  (I do get the occasional random encouraging message from women who are impossibly far away or out of my age range but wanted to tell me they liked what they read and good luck... which still feels good.)

I think it's in part because people my age are uniformly more full of shit than the 30+ crowd.

I've had more fun in these forums than with the actual meeting people part of the site, so far.  (Thanks guys!)

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