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Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for hum... - 8/28/2009 1:52:56 AM

MasterKing1

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Hello folks, I was just sitting here thinking about something.
I am a straight male, and nothing brings me more pleasure than dominating and controlling female charges sexually and etc..but something else I enjoy, however rarely is dominating other straight men in non-sexual ways. Sex is dandy, but being straight the idea of fucking other dudes just does NOT equate with me. But the buck doesn't have to stop there. While sex is all well and good; as any experienced lifestyler will tell you, there's really much more involved than sex. There's literal bondage, caging, financial domination, degradation, discipline training, obedience training, dog training, humiliation training, orgasm control, domestic training, objectification..the list goes on and on.

I love controlling, humiliating and owning other men. The feeling of power, of control was almost unexplainable. To have total control over another person, body and spirit..it just seemed right to me. To own, to train..To put them in their place. To become the all of another and have them give themselves over to me completely. There is nothing better in the world than that sort of trust, that responsibility.

But finding them is rare..to be honest I've found only a couple like that as long as I've been a part of this lifestyle. Are they really truly out there or would looking for them be a lost cause?
Thanks for your advice folks, hope you all have a good day.

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RE: Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for... - 8/28/2009 7:13:58 AM

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It's my thoughts what you seek is far and few between, yet possible. Seems to me that the biggest hurdle for many is to fully understand that domination and control does not always have to include sex.

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RE: Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for... - 8/28/2009 7:24:51 AM

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i cant comment for the men in this lifestyle atall, but from the other genders perspective i just cant ever see myself being owned by a Domme because my sexuality is all tied up in this and im not bi.

from what i can make out male subs are wired the same. though sex may not be explicit always, it is implicit, therefore, for you to find a straight male sub to own is going to be difficult. i should imagine that set up is very very rare and the only way you might be able to get around it is to approach a Domme with a straight sub and see if she wouldnt loan him out to you - but he might not be too keen.

just a thought and an evil one at that now that i come to think of it.

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RE: Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for... - 8/28/2009 7:46:42 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterKing1

I love controlling, humiliating and owning other men. The feeling of power, of control was almost unexplainable. To have total control over another person, body and spirit..it just seemed right to me. To own, to train..To put them in their place. To become the all of another and have them give themselves over to me completely.

But finding them is rare

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RE: Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for... - 8/28/2009 7:47:18 AM

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There are profiles enough that talk about straight men wanting to dom straight men.
What there real wishes are..I don't know. To be honest..when I read such I don't know what to think.
I have been contacted by straight men...but somehow afther 2 days or so of normal talking it tends to go to the not so straight side...lol.
That is when it stops for me.

I would just put your wishes in your profile...and even in your journal.
Perhaps some one reads it and shows interest.

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RE: Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for... - 8/28/2009 8:31:36 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterKing1

But finding them is rare..to be honest I've found only a couple like that as long as I've been a part of this lifestyle. Are they really truly out there or would looking for them be a lost cause?

i believe it does exist, but whether you'd have someone willing to do this is another question. you might find it more likely in a training situation that would have parameters clearly defined. in fact, i think that is probably the angle you'd want to look at. otherwise you'll undoubtedly find yourself in situations where the other party may be secretly desiring more than you wish to provide. best of luck on your search.

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RE: Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for... - 8/28/2009 8:37:51 AM

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I'd go ask some dommes if they would lend you their straight male slaves and get a kick out of watching. A lot of us would find that to be seriously hot.

And with no sex, and the domme watching/participating, fewer worries about their safety in this kind of "forced bi that isn't really sexual" scenario.

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RE: Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for... - 8/28/2009 8:53:37 AM

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I am submissive to dominant women because of the sexual power they hold over me. What would my motivation possibly be to submit to another man?

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RE: Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for... - 8/28/2009 10:13:03 AM

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I can relate. As a lesbian, I often get the urge to dominate a man just because I enjoy dominating.
Trying to find one that doesn't expect it to be sexual is a bit tougher (erotic & sexually charged is okay, but no sex)

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RE: Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for... - 8/28/2009 10:29:43 AM

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I'm a straight guy (well - straight enough for our purposes) who wanted a straight male submissive once, but I wanted him ultimately to be a sort of human dildo (if you will), or towel holder, or just an extra set of hands, with which to play with my female sub.

I don't know what the incentive would be for the guy in your case, as there's not only no sexual element, but there doesn't seem to be any emotional connection alluded to.

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RE: Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for... - 8/28/2009 10:37:04 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer

I'd go ask some dommes if they would lend you their straight male slaves and get a kick out of watching. A lot of us would find that to be seriously hot. And with no sex, and the domme watching/participating, fewer worries about their safety in this kind of "forced bi that isn't really sexual" scenario.

here here!! I am incredibly turned on by this idea, and I have had subs/bottoms who would be ok with this, so long as the rules were set in place and there was trust all around. However, I would be very clear about what the parameters would be and I would want it dictated more by my desires than the male dom, if that makes sense. So, I'd really have to trust the male dom in this situation.

I have had some minor/fun/flirty kinky situations in the past with straight guys, one my "bottom" and/or sub and the other his "vanilla close guy friend." Add the right timing and flirtation and it was plausible to get the friend to "tie up" the guy for me - all clothed, nothing sexual. HOT!!! I had another sub/boytoyfriend type once who was bi-curious with a major crush (untold) on his straight friend and through a lot of planning and waiting for the right time, I got the friend to tie him up and it led to - ALMOST- some hot bi-experimentation. But there wasn't enough alcohol, of course. Such is life -- too much alcohol = unsafe S&M, not enough alcohol = not enough lowering of inhibitions :)

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RE: Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for... - 8/28/2009 11:00:08 AM

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I don't know what the incentive would be for the guy in your case, as there's not only no sexual element, but there doesn't seem to be any emotional connection alluded to.

Well, some of us straight male submissives just like being dominated and tormented. With my Mistress, I have all three things - sexual attraction, an emotional connection, and the thrill of submission itself. If she were to lend me to a male dominant, either gay or straight, I'm fairly sure I would enjoy the experience as a submissive adventure even in the absence of the first two elements.

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RE: Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for... - 8/28/2009 11:26:28 AM

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Why must they be straight?... I mean I can understand not wanting someone who is flamingly gay but there are many masculine bi males that would be willing to be dominated without sex with you. Although they may want and need a release when appropriate or allowed by you…just not involving you.

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RE: Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for... - 8/28/2009 11:28:23 AM

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I can't ever see myself submitting to any man. But I am willing to facilitate milady's dates with a "bull" or dom male. I can go as far as driving her to him, or making up her bed, cleaning the house...that sort of thing. But I just can't be a slave to any man.

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RE: Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for... - 8/28/2009 11:35:50 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterKing1

Hello folks, I was just sitting here thinking about something.
I am a straight male, and nothing brings me more pleasure than dominating and controlling female charges sexually and etc..but something else I enjoy, however rarely is dominating other straight men in non-sexual ways. Sex is dandy, but being straight the idea of fucking other dudes just does NOT equate with me. But the buck doesn't have to stop there. While sex is all well and good; as any experienced lifestyler will tell you, there's really much more involved than sex. There's literal bondage, caging, financial domination, degradation, discipline training, obedience training, dog training, humiliation training, orgasm control, domestic training, objectification..the list goes on and on.

I love controlling, humiliating and owning other men. The feeling of power, of control was almost unexplainable. To have total control over another person, body and spirit..it just seemed right to me. To own, to train..To put them in their place. To become the all of another and have them give themselves over to me completely. There is nothing better in the world than that sort of trust, that responsibility.

But finding them is rare..to be honest I've found only a couple like that as long as I've been a part of this lifestyle. Are they really truly out there or would looking for them be a lost cause?
Thanks for your advice folks, hope you all have a good day.

-MasterKing1

I never would have thought it had I not gotten the actual experience of non-sexual BDSM with guys, but I'm the same way as you, except my interest list with men isn't as long as yours. As for how to find straight guys into that, I'd just find profiles of straight men in your area that seem like they'd be into that and write them a message and see what they think. They might say thanks, but no thanks, or they might be interested. For example, there is one guy in my area that is very clear that he is looking for non-sexual BDSM, basically he's got list of behaviors he wants corrected in his life and he wants to submit to a Dom or Domme that will correct those behaviors... and he was saying that anything goes, as long as it is all non-sexual. There is another guy in my area is is very specific that he is looking for non-sexual BDSM where he wants to submit to a Dom or Domme that will make sure that he maintains a vigourous work-out schedule... like a BDSM personal trainer. Same thing with him, anything goes, as long as it was non-sexual. As for myself, I get contacted on a fairly regular basis from straight guys looking for non-sexual BDSM. A lot of the time they really are sincerely seeking non-sexual BDSM. Sure, sometimes, like TurboJugend was saying, after 2 or so days of normal talking, it tends to get to the not so straight side, which is when it stops for me. Basically, if they start getting way too excited about it, then I lose interest. Another thing I've considered is doing non-sexual BDSM with girls that I have zero sexual or romantic attraction to... you know... all those females you see in your area that are just not attractive at all to you... I've considered basically letting them know that I have no sexual or romantic interest in them, that I just want to dominate them like I do with men... and see what they think about that. Granted, I'm not comfortable with just messaging some girl out of the blue and telling her that, because of how it could quite possible hurt her feelings... but if I made good friends with a BDSM girl I wasn't attracted to at all, I'd most likely bring the idea up with her.

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RE: Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for... - 8/28/2009 11:43:53 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kdsub

Why must they be straight?... I mean I can understand not wanting someone who is flamingly gay but there are many masculine bi males that would be willing to be dominated without sex with you. Although they may want and need a release when appropriate or allowed by you…just not involving you.

Butch

Yeah, it could be that a gay guy is into non-sexual BDSM with a guy. But regarding the part about how they "may want and need a release when appropriate or allowed by you…just not involving you"... for me at least, when I say non-sexual BDSM, I'm not talking about BDSM where the guy is getting turned on and we just have a gentleman's agreement that we are both just going to ignore that... I'm talking about BDSM that is in fact non-sexual... where the guy doesn't get turned on at all by it.

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RE: Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for... - 8/28/2009 12:34:29 PM

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I do understand....but… I'll bet for many, even straight, the very fact of being dominated is the turn on ...not the person administrating. Otherwise I would bet a good many straight submissives would become aroused while being dominated either by an man or a woman.

It does bring up a point however as to what percentage of people separate sexual arousal from domination.

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RE: Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for... - 8/28/2009 4:48:16 PM

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A few people have messaged me asking what the purpose of my domination would be without the incentive of sexual use. I'll make this clear, I I very much enjoy the BDSM lifestyle and protocols for it's sexual outline and activities. I've enjoyed many instances of such with female potential slaves and my own personal female charges. But I do not do domination strictly for the purpose of sex, but for the effect of domination itself.
I'm sure there are many other lifestylers who do this for just the same reason. I dominate first and foremost for the domination in itself. The sexual aspect and activities are just an excellent effect on the side.
There doesn't need to be any sexual excitement on the side of the Dominant, perhaps it's more the sense of accomplishment, the feeling of power. The knowledge and importance of the responsibility you hold as leader of your charge.
I seek STRAIGHT men because I have no interest in sexually dominating a man. I am straight, and have/seek my own female charges for just that purpose, among others.
All the homosexual men I've spoken to about this begin as if they are interested only in my own persuasion, but eventually it always turns to some sort of sexual activity of which I find no enjoyment in whatsoever.

And so I continue searching, but I appreciate all of your advice.
Enjoy your day friends.

-MasterKing1

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RE: Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for... - 8/28/2009 4:49:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: kdsub

I do understand....but… I'll bet for many, even straight, the very fact of being dominated is the turn on ...not the person administrating. Otherwise I would bet a good many straight submissives would become aroused while being dominated either by an man or a woman.

It does bring up a point however as to what percentage of people separate sexual arousal from domination.

Butch

Mhm, you make a very good point. Those were my thoughts exactly. :p

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RE: Straight male slaves seeking straight male Doms for... - 8/28/2009 5:54:45 PM

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Well I guess I will put my 2 cents in. A few times I got frustrated not being able to fime a Mistress, I had thought of going to the other side, and get a master, but it just isn't the same. I love to do things for Females, to make them Happy, Smile and have fun. Sex doesn't have a thing to do with it, since SEX was never involved when I had sessions with MADAM (though there was Penis Gag incindent). I don't do these things (Tied and Gagged etc) for anything Sexual. It is just FUN, having a woman control me. IT IS FUN ! ! ! And I hoped she would have fun doing it too!

I like to cross dress sometimes (Don't get mad at me ladies) and also love Ballet. I can't imagine a Male Master telling me to wear a certain Bra, Panties, Pointe Shoes, Fishnets, Tights to bed or Mary Janes to work.

I feel too that a Male might be too demanding, and might not get as much fun out of tell me to wear my Cock Harness for a few days, and not to touch my Puppies (Nipples) and such.

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