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ORIGINAL: herpreciouspet

I live in a fairly rural area where rumors could become reasons for me to not be able to continue in my line of work. It's not always who you are or what you actually do as part of a D/s relationship or being "kinked", but rather the perception of who that makes you. My D/s is something that stays at home, or that i am willing to explore in more obvious ways only when away from my home town. Should I have to consider that? no, but do I? of course i do. My standard rule is i never allow pictures that show my body and my face in the same pic, and i don't take them either. False sense of security? probably. It does amaze me though when i hear the total SHOCK of someone when something totally mild is suggested, like light bondage or a spanking. The tabboo is really comical at times. Then again there are those moments when the "little old lady" talks about her kinks in a what are you gonna do about it tone that really makes me smile.

I feel that what you owe to your family is a huge concern when there are UM's involved. It is not fair for them to have to deal with issues related to your sexuality no matter what it is. I was much more cautious even in my own home when my daughter was underage. Now that she is an adult, i have slowly let out my opinions to her and her friends, usually by commenting on a conversation they ahve already started. It's important to me that she grow up not seeing sex as a negative or "bad" thing. I want her to consider her choices in that arena based on likes, dislikes and from a base of strong self-respect and knowledge.

Edited to say...oooops, forgot i was on my pet's sn.....opinion is all mine  Hereyesruponyou

Hello Hereyesruponyou,
I would agree with the way you look at it,
especially involved children. For Me that's a
very hard limit. Thats for them to figure out on
their own and not for Us to force upon anyone.

D/s is a free choise of life.

And also involving pictures, I never take them
with the face on there to recognice them.
Because I don't want anyone in trouble, ever.

Amazing, how carefull We must be,
isn't that so.

Thank you for your contribution.

Warm Greetingz

GoddezzT`

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Great post teezzzzzer,

Not willing to go that far

BadOne

Hey SexyBum!!

Thank You kindly, and good to know !!!
Sail My way ya hear [;)]

smoochers

GoddezzT`

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ORIGINAL: feydeplume

"We hold these Truths to be self-evident, that all Men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness."

I've been thinking about this one for years. I was raised in an activist household, not just sexual freedom, but there was A LOT of that. I was that little kid holding hands with a parent in the marches or handing out flyers as a teen. I have done sit-ins and petitions. I have held hands with HIV+ people so that they had human touch before they died. I have written articles, pamphlets, and letters to congress.

The pursuit of Happiness and the Freedom of Speech as deeply important to me and I pursue happiness and practice freedom of speech. I am also willing to take shit for it like fines, lawsuits (had to sue a past employer), dirty looks, getting shot with those bean bags and pepper spray, and yes I think i would go to jail to uphold the constitution. It may not say "the right to pursue what form of inter-personal sexual relationship makes you happy" as a definition of Happiness, but that is the pursuit of Happiness for so many people. It may not say "the Right to talk freely about sex as a positive and important aspect of human nature" as a definition of Free Speech, but just about everyone agrees that good sex is a key element of Happiness and that, as long as i don't talk to minors (at least about details and depending on the state) and use some tact, I have the right (duty?) to do so.

How far would I go for D/s? As far as i have gone for HIV awareness, homosexual marriage, and every party I can get a lift to and pay the cover for. I expect and respect that others will fight just as hard to silence me or denigrate me or the issue, and i will hate what they say, but rejoice that they have the freedom to say it. I will use the law (in my own naive way) along with others to continue to pursue Happiness and help others in their pursuit. I guess i would go all the way; life, liberty, and freedom to uphold and protect my rights and those of my fellow citizens. 

you're a beautiful soul feydeplume,
to do all the things you do, and have done.

I'm also for freedom of speech, and sexual
freedom within limits ofcourse.

And I've also stood up for the weak in society,
as I'm happy to work on their behalf.
And I know it helps them a little step
forward.

There is still allot to b done though!!!

Thank you for all you do.

Warm Greetingz

GoddezzT`

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

So...D/s has cost me a marriage, has at times strained things with my kids, has affected my practice and this was all a result of my choice and occurred, for the most part, on what people THOUGHT they knew about D/s.  Do any of you think that explaining D/s AND BDSM to most of these folks would make my life as a professional...as a father...any easier?  I don't...besides, I don't care to have most people address the sexual aspects of their lives with ME...why on earth would I take MINE to them?

Hello CreativeDominant,

I thank You kindly for Your openness,
and My question is, was it worth it??

(how horrible to read that your kids we're put in the middle here,
that's so low. Because that's so None of thier buss. A divorce
is between 2 Grownups.)

I do wish You enough.

GoddezzT`

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

I just make sure that when I am pushing legal; limits (outside kink) I keep my ass covered.

Good thinking IronBear,
apparently you can push some limits there where you live,
I don't see them leashed shopping here, only on KamaSutra Fairs,
where I leashed My slavegirl back then.

But A nice ass it is [;)]

I wish You enough.

GoddezzT`

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth~ Fast Reply ~
When we go out for a stroll along the beach, I'd love to have a chain and leash attached to beth's collar - but I don't.
While walking around, I would love to have a small quirt, or crop, dangling from my belt - but I don't.

• I would LOVE to allow beth to walk around and enjoy going as topless as the men we see every weather appropriate day where we live in the South Bay - but I don't.
  
• I would enjoy being able to tease her by placing clips on her nipples when she mildly 'displeases' me in some manner - but I don't.

However, I do get to do all those things a few times in public during the year. The Folsom Street Fair, any day in New Orleans, or the Gay Pride parade come immediately to mind. We love to take advantage of those opportunities. First and foremost for the sheer enjoyment of doing so; however, somewhere is the thought in my mind that, once upon a time, a black man and a white woman couldn't walk down the street holding hands, two men or two woman could not express their feelings for each other in public, men were required to wear bathing suit tops and woman showing more than their ankle were 'obscene'. Those that exceeded those arbitrary norms created a path for others that followed. Getting us to the point where today seeing any of those wouldn't raise an eyebrow.

Granted, we are fortunate that the countless number of pictures taken of us when we are behaving in this matter in public during these events can not harm us. We don't see ourselves as activists or even examples. We don't put ourselves out there under a contrived need for attention. We do it because it represents us and the freedom we'd like to be able to enjoy without raising an eyebrow if only 'society' and social 'norms' were not based upon an arbitrary religious agenda based morality.

We are prepared to go and do as much as we can in support of that goal. We aren't for exhibitionism, sadism, masochism, humiliation-ism, or any 'ism'. We are for freedom, and willing to put ourselves out there to represent how we define it. If we never went to another public event it would not make a difference in our life. We'd like to think that exposing our lives in public provides the opportunity for someone to see, and know, something is possible and exists that may make a difference in their life. We're prepared to go as far as it takes, willing to be 'out there' and exposed simply to let someone new, or not as sure of themselves, know that WIITWD exists.

Where they go with that is up to them; however, as a reference, I give you beth. Who until searching to change her 'lifestyle' six years ago on the recommendation of her Doctor to help her quit smoking - found a 'lifestyle' with me instead. she still smokes, but no longer thinks that the only way she'd be able to experience a reality equal to her fantasy was by travel to Amsterdam. It would have been a pity if those that preceded me didn't go as far as they did for D/s and never tried to get a positive image or a public lifestyle dating site like CM off the ground. At minimum, to express my gratitude to people I don't know and never met, I can do the best I can, in every way I can, to advance from there.

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ORIGINAL:GoddezzT`
Thank You kindly for your reply,
and I understand that there are certain wants,
but which the World isn't ready for.
And that you make the best of it, by using
the days in the year, when it's possible to
do such. It's how most people handle it
I suppose.

Thank You for Your contribution.
I wish You enough.

GoddezzT`

*so swell to fight with the settings here... pffffff
[:'(]

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ORIGINAL: NormalOutside

I don't really understand the question because I don't see D/s as something apart from myself. I am the way I am, some would say it has strong D/s elements. Okay, sure, call me what you like. :)  But how far would I go for.... myself? I would go all the way, because I'm all I've got.

Hello NormalOutside,

This question is related to the couple who lost
everything, their job, and pension, and the home
they lived in because they we're into D/s.

That's why I ask others here, how far they are
willing to go, in D/s. And where does one draw the line.

Or is it still really Chinese.. ? [&:]

Have a good weekend.

GoddezzT`

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ORIGINAL: ranja

Some people like talking about sex others don't...i think it is naive to start pushing your sexual preferences at people who are not interested and expect them to be happy for you or even accept you. Though it is maybe difficult to be quiet about something you are very enthousiastic about and obviously misjudgements are made.

As for this judge...I am inclined to believe that the real reason he was torn down lays elsewhere and his sexual life style was the only angle they had on him...i think on that level it matters more as to who your friends and enemies are and how corrupt you are than what you do in the bedroom...some get away with murder others don't

I am wanting to see the movie

Hello ranja,

Forcing anything is wrong, so no one should force anything
upon anyone. That's for starters, but it's amazing to read
this story, and again, I don't know all the facts,
but that it can get to this, is amazingly to Me.

And I do wonder what harm it can B, for putting My picture
online here, so they could relate Me to D/s? for instance.

Yes you're right when you say, some get away with murder,
and others won't, but in this case he didn't harm anyone,
only hisself.

Yes I do want to see the movie too, but for now it's only shown
in Belgium, so I'm keeping My eye on it!

Thank you for your contribution.

B safe

GoddezzT`