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MidMichCowboy -> RE: Rituals and Proper Form versus Raw Barbaric Passion (3/6/2009 4:44:14 PM)
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ORIGINAL: catize
What you seem to suggest here is that rituals equal, if not apathy, then a certain coolness; that passion cannot be expressed through protocol. Take ballet as an example. Every step, every move is scripted. Yet the story the dancers tell with their bodies has the power to make us feel deeply.
Ritual can be a fervent affirmation of the relationship. A few years ago I was involved with a dominant who had scripted a greeting ritual for me. Every time we met in private, I knelt and spoke 3 short sentences. We called it our mantra. The words were powerful in their simplicity and as I spoke them, I felt them every time. And the best part? When I looked up at him, his eyes were shining with pleasure and pride;;;every time.
There certainly is beauty in the raw and hungry beast we sometimes feed on. But do not doubt that there is ardor, too, in ritual and protocol.
What I said is that for me, formalized scenes are boring. I would never judge what they are for others. IT'S NOT ME.
I don't deny that there are many who can express their passion through ritual. I didn't say that was wrong. I said it was wrong for me.
I don't doubt the passion for those into ritual. I've seen it and admired it.
But why am I considered inferior if I don't want that?
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