oneserene
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Just playing the "devil's advocate" for a moment but didn't anyone else detect the distinctive scent of "Troll" in this one?
Think about it, op creates an account for the sole purpose of posting this then disappears and cannot be contacted or even receive private emails of how to get help if they really wanted it. Doesn't provide any specifics as to what limits were discussed if any were discussed at all, what was violated, etc. Nothing really except just a general statement to stir the masses and cause outrage from the community.
Think about this, what if the op isn't really the victim? What if the op were the person who had crossed the line well into "non-consensual" with someone and in an attempt to intimidate and isolate the victim, posts something like this to bring the issue to the table? I admit that it is a little far fetched but then again, is it?
If I'm wrong, let me apologize to the op in advance but there is actually quite a bit that can be discussed without identifying a specific person or attempting to destroy their reputation. For instance, I can make the statement that someone I met on this site and dated for two months unexpectedly contacts me one morning to inform me that he is coming over to my home. Being the good little sub that I am, I don't think twice about being ordered to put on a blindfold and wait in my bedroom for him to arrive. I wouldn't be revealing who he was by saying that he never mentioned his intention to bring a couple of buddy's with him to take turns on me that day or any other day for that matter.
Regardless of how consensual and damaging to me personally, it still wouldn't warrant my being able to actually name this person but it certainly has given enough information to anyone reading that there is someone still out there who doesn't adhere to SSC and could potentially do this to someone else.
If the op is truly the victim, I understand and sympathize with your desire to hopefully prevent this person from being able to emotionally and/or physically scar another submissive, but you need to center your attentions right now on healing and protecting yourself, no one else. Learn from what happened, develop a list of questions to ask a potential Dominant during initial encounters and pay attention not only to what they have written in their profiles but more importantly, what they have NOT written there and asked for specific expectations. And finally, as previously suggested ask for references.
Another outlet would be to talk to a well known and respected member of your community. At the very least, someone else will know and can keep an eye on the individual and alert others if something else occurs regarding this person.
If you were raped or sexually assaulted, someone advised you to go to the police...well, that's an option of course. But keep in mind that to report it you are going to have to report EVERYTHING! Including the dynamics of the relationship, ie. Master/slave Dominant/submissive and all of the private and humiliating details involved in this lifestyle that most "nilla's" label sick and twisted at best. Based on my own singular experience, it was like being raped twice. First, by the bottom feeding low life and his buddy's and second, by the incompetent "good Ole' boy" assigned as the investigator of the case.
"We crush the caterpillars then complain there are no butterflies"
"I'm not a tease, Im just a reminder of what you can't have"
< Message edited by oneserene -- 2/24/2009 3:47:19 AM >
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