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MyWorldCT -> RE: getting to know you (2/1/2009 3:47:32 PM)
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I have only really had 2 long term relationships, one with a slave and one with a sub ("Yes Martha, there is a difference"). Anways, I have had quite a few "play partners", most on a long-term basis, but not 24/7. With the "play partners" it was on ly a few weeks, before we worked out all the "details" and started the ride.
However, with my ex-slave, it took about 2 months of meeting at a local clun in LA, then 2 months of phone chatter and dinners, then 6 months of intimacy for us to move in together. She was fantastic in every respect and it took longer, because I needed extra time to figure out if she was for "real" ("too goodo to be true", was echoing in my head everytime we were together). It was not and she would still be with me today if I had the choice, but God's will is stronger than me.
It took me about a year for my sub to move in and be collared by me. It was more like a vanilla dating scenario, as we both worked together, and we talked about "the lifestyle" one afternoon at lunch and she wanted to know more and more about it. I took her to a club and she knew that this was the life for her. I thought she was going to find a Dom, but turned to me one day and told me she wanted to be mine. I actually dropped my ice cream cone (and jaw) and did not know what to say. It took me a few weeks to consider it and we went to dinner, movies, etc. for 6 months until she felt comfortable enough to get intimate. I would love to have here here in CT, but her career, family, and life in LA is more important than me, so I released her, even with her protests. That broke my heart into a pink mist. [:(]
But life goes on... [:)]
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