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ORIGINAL: LadyLou


To understand this, one needs to quantify love. Once you start doing that you need to ask what is love? I am sure it means different things to different people, and has many meanings and manifestations to those individuals.



I think lots of couples love unequally, not to a lesser are greater extent, just differently in different 'peaks'. To quantify each individual 'peak' within the whole is looking at it from the wrong angle. It's not so much a case of loving someone more than or less than, it's a case of love manifesting itself in different ways. Ideally, the ways they differ are complimentary.

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ORIGINAL: lighthearted

my highly vanilla stepmother uses the phrase, "In most relationships, there's one person that loves the other more".  the first time she said it to me, I mulled it over, and it did seem to apply to most of the relationships I could think of.  I don't really think it's a bdsm thing, but more of a yin/yang thing.

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

It leads me to wonder........
In most cases does one person love / need the other person more?
Is it a BDSM related thing?
Is it more likely for the sub / slave to be the one loving and needing their partner more?
If it is a known quantity to both partners that one loves or needs the other more is it harmful to the relationship?
Can it enhance a relationship?

These things have never been a consideration in my family.   Alandra, Kyra and I where just talking about this thread and find the questions to be rather unimportant to us and our relationship.  We have never concerned ourseles with equality or who loves/needs one more.   As Alandra stated "It's not a competition"   We are in a relationship where we look to express our feelings to each other... we in a "Partnerhship".  We desire to know that all of us are loved and wanted.  We each do express these things differently and we don't quantify them either.  What enhances our relationship is not that one of us is loved or wanted more... but are confident that We all love and want this relationship. 

I think you are absolutely right

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ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

I'd like to know just exactly how a person might go about measuring love... 

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

I'd like to know just exactly how a person might go about measuring love... 

This was my first thought. How does a person measure such a thing.

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Well, each person is attached to a love fluxometer which sends signals, by way of biomagnetism weight, through the oscillator coils which then becomes a biolelectric current which is measured through a separate process that becomes superimposed on an MRI image.

This superconducting device forms either a “least square” or a “least norm” position, whose coordinates are fed into a radiographic CT apparatus, and when the magnetic field generating probe grasps the positional surface relationship between dominant and submissive, the measurement of love is determined.  

However, this process must be repeated 10 times in 20 second increments in order to be fully effective.