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Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/2/2009 11:31:43 AM   
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Has Anyone heard of CFnm? It stands for Clothed Female / naked male. The Women involved are not allowed to reveal anything They wouldn't show in public. The man is not given this privlidge. The gathering could be just about any occasion. The man could serve drinks & food, be a greeter or some kind of D/s scene. This is something i'd be interested in doing. If You have heard of this before, please let me know. i'm not sure where to begin.

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RE: Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/2/2009 11:36:00 AM   
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http://www.cfnm.net/

they have forums too
(not sure if it is free)

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RE: Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/2/2009 12:05:47 PM   
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We call it Tea Service.

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RE: Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/2/2009 3:40:16 PM   
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Now THAT is funny

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RE: Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/3/2009 3:21:28 AM   
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quote:

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Clothed Female / naked male. The Women involved are not allowed to reveal anything They wouldn't show in public. The man is not given this privlidge. The gathering could be just about any occasion.

The women in question are Dommes and the men are their subs.  Hence, the women are allowed to do whatever they want, within agreed limits.

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This is something i'd be interested in doing. If You have heard of this before, please let me know. i'm not sure where to begin.

Like anything else, it begins by being in a D/s dynamic with somebody and one of you suggesting it to the other and then negotiating its role within that dynamic, if both parties are interested.

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RE: Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/3/2009 6:43:21 AM   
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I did some research to try and find a non XXX rated description of the FemDom tea service. Here is a link: twistedteas.org
 
I do not know them well enough to give a rousing recommendation, however, they do practice the tea service and I am very sure could give you some info and insight. I could not find anyone on the East Coast, though it seems someone did a lecture on this practice at Atlanta's DomCon last year so maybe Lady Pact has some insight for you.
 
Hope this helps.

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RE: Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/3/2009 6:50:16 AM   
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cfnm.net is a pay site - about $30/month.
It seems to be all models, no regular folks.

Whatever works for you :)

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RE: Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/3/2009 9:02:17 AM   
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quote:

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Has Anyone heard of CFnm? It stands for Clothed Female / naked male. The Women involved are not allowed to reveal anything They wouldn't show in public. The man is not given this privlidge. The gathering could be just about any occasion. The man could serve drinks & food, be a greeter or some kind of D/s scene. This is something i'd be interested in doing. If You have heard of this before, please let me know. i'm not sure where to begin.


This is probably the best place.

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RE: Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/3/2009 11:18:10 AM   
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I'm not sure why there seems to be such a focus on tea in this thread.  I can see that it might be fun for a bunch of Dominants to have a tea party with naked sub waiters but, I have to say, if you tell me ``You're naked in front of a woman who's clothed,'' then ``Oooh, I'll make her a cup of tea!'' isn't the first or even second thing that comes into my mind.  And I'm English and we're legally obliged to spend at least fourteen hours a day drinking or making tea.

I very much enjoy being naked when I'm with my Mistress and my submission to her is the focus of what's going on.  As it happens, she's usually wearing some clothing (corsets! and leather! and rubber! and uncomfortable boots! er, I mean, usually just shorts and a T-shirt).  And I do actually find it exciting that I'm more available to her than she is to me but the clothes aren't really more than a symbol for that.  After all, I could easily touch her through or under her clothes and often do.  Because the real reason that I am more available to her than she is to me is that she is my Mistress and that's how we've agreed that the physicality of our relationship will work.

So what is with all this tea?

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RE: Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/3/2009 11:26:23 AM   
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This sounds exciting and scary to me, and it would be nice to have the tea to focus on to help me get over the terror. 

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RE: Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/3/2009 11:32:39 AM   
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I should wear a snowsuit?

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RE: Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/3/2009 11:49:57 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: PeterJay
Has Anyone heard of CFnm? It stands for Clothed Female / naked male. The Women involved are not allowed to reveal anything They wouldn't show in public. The man is not given this privlidge.

I don't follow that the women are not *allowed* to reveal anything. Are there some rules somewhere that I don't know about that say that unless the female is in a certain degree of dress it doesn't qualify as CFnm?
 
In my life I wear or don't wear whatever I wish and I have veto power over my pet's clothing (though usually he wears what he likes in daily life.) It's no matter of protocol or anything, but generally when we are doing anything where his submission is the focus, he's naked. I occasionally disallow him articles of clothing otherwise (though it doesn't work so well in winter), and he always sleeps naked although I think he did that before we were together.


I have a big issue with anybody I'm with 'allowing' me things. It's one of my few hot buttons since I don't like being permissed about things for myself. I'm very big on consent when it comes to my rights/access to somebody else, but I don't like being told that I can do things, especially when it feels like they're trying to guide what I'm doing to them or otherwise.
 
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ORIGINAL: PeterJay

The gathering could be just about any occasion. The man could serve drinks & food, be a greeter or some kind of D/s scene. This is something i'd be interested in doing. If You have heard of this before, please let me know. i'm not sure where to begin.

I had thought about having the boy be naked at the party I threw for him. I wanted to put him by the door naked, on his knees with his hands bound behind his back, in sensdep and muzzled. I had the whole vision going in my head thinking about how humiliating (but very, very arousing) it'd be for him to know people could see him and witness his submission without him knowing who it was or what was going on. It didn't happen since in-action it wasn't practical (people trickle in to parties so he'd've had to have been there for nearly an hour, plus he would've gotten cold as it was early Dec), and it just didn't pan out. It was lovely to think about, though.

Thing is, that had nothing to do with CF/nm even though he'd've been the only person naked at that point as over the night other sub-types were naked also. What it *was* was a sign of his submission to my will and my ownership of his body. He has given himself to me knowing that I won't abuse my Ownership. I know he wants to be put in the position where he's displayed like that, but he sees it the way I do, that it's about submission, not clothing.


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RE: Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/3/2009 12:00:27 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: beeble

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So what is with all this tea?

beeble


American women rarely get to have socials, teas, luncheons, and "lady stuff" anymore.  Having someone MAKE tea (or coffee) and fussy little cakes and sandwiches, and then SERVE them is really a glamourous notion. 

Nonetheless, I would not want a naked man serving me food unless I was in bed, and he was about to join me.  Something about dangly bits near my face when I want to eat cake...

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RE: Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/3/2009 12:23:45 PM   
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I would not want a naked man serving me food unless I was in bed, and he was about to join me.  Something about dangly bits near my face when I want to eat cake...
I'm fussy like that as well... My man is to remain clothed, even if only in boxer briefs, unless and until I ask him to remove it because I'm ready to use the parts. M

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RE: Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/3/2009 2:19:20 PM   
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It stands for Clothed Female / naked male. The Women involved are not allowed to reveal anything They wouldn't show in public.

Heard of it.  Have yet to figure out why a female would be clothed.

Clothed Female is best understood as a contradiction in terms.


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RE: Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/3/2009 5:06:06 PM   
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I was wondering about all of this, CFNM appears relatively new on the net, and not greatly distributed, I was wondering how much it has to do with males at last finding their role in society as equal to female, and there are  open to any permutation of kinky ideas and desires. CFNM sounds fun.

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RE: Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/4/2009 8:50:00 AM   
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CFNM has been around for a while, though I've yet to find any good FREE forums on the subject.
It's a concept that does arouse me intensely when I'm feeling subby (and of course - the idea of clothed men and unclothed females has been around quite a while, so this is a fairly straightforward role reversal). The stuff that I've seen on the net focusses either on the idea of the hen (bachelorette) party with male strippers - normally respectable females going wild with tanned fit male strippers, OR - submisive males naked and powerless in front of (multiple ) females.
One Domme I know habitually insists I am completely naked at all times when we play, whilst she often remains fully clothed - but I'm also fascinated by the idea of multiple naked males with one domme (allowing humiliating comparisons), or else being naked in front of a number of females (one ex threatened to tie me naked and then invite her friends around for drinks...shame she never went thro with it).

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RE: Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/3/2010 11:30:42 AM   
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Clothing, in the case of CFNM, represents vulnerability, or lack thereof.
It's an unspoken symbol that says, "I am covered, you are exposed, it is an uneven playing field, and you're in a way, dependent on me right now."
It's not for everybody, you have to internalize all the mental aspects of it, or it does not work.  Though that is true with many things.
There has to be an element of power exchange, of vulnerability, of both parties accepting their roles.

If he's naked and content and she's clothed but nervous and submissive, it wouldn't work out, for example

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RE: Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/3/2010 1:12:45 PM   
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Something about dangly bits near my face when I want to eat cake..


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RE: Have Anyone heard of CFnm? - 1/3/2010 1:14:10 PM   
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Oddly there was no CMnf website..... Wonder why there isn't a market for that?

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