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RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 9:17:18 PM   
Dari


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Status: offline 		If I didn't have laughter in my relationships, I would wither and die.  That's all relationships, including the ones I have with any subs.  So for me, if we can't laugh together, the D/s equation is incomplete.

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RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 10:06:24 PM   
zakkan


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Status: offline 		What if all your the jokes your sub knows are female jokes?(for Mistresses) Like blond jokes, driving jokes... so on? Then one fine day while you are talking he accidentally lets out a blond joke. And you are blond...  

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RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 10:10:42 PM   
NuevaVida


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ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

Judging from the responses on a recently locked thread, I think it's safe to say a sense of humor is not a scarce thing on a D/s community website.


for just a moment here...

I'm mourning the passing of that thread.  May we have a moment of silence for it in all of its glory and remember it the way it was.

Okay, now back to the regularly scheduled thread.



LOL I had my moment of silence. 

The man I am talking to now...well...wow, we laugh ALL THE TIME.  I have never laughed so much with a man, and it's awesome.  I have a voicemail saved, and it's just of him laughing.  It cracks me up to hear it.  Life is short - be happy and laugh!

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RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 11:45:39 PM   
OneMoreWaste


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ORIGINAL: candystripper
laughter in bed is the very best! 


! form of birth control

How does humor affect my interaction? Well, I get laughed at a fair amount. And sometimes I laugh because if I didn't I'd have to cry, and nobody likes a whiny-ass bitch.

But honestly, in a scene? If I'm in pain, and trying to believe that I'm "enduring it for her", and she goes off onto a tangent of silliness?

It's like, Ok, we'll be silly now. That's super. Never mind me. I'll just... yeah, you can untie me now, that's fine. kthx. Oh yeah, I guess it is about time for another "Friends" re-run, isn't it? Well, you certainly wouldn't want to miss that, Mistress, I'll just take care of all this junk...

Yeah. It's super. Super-diddly-uper, even!


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RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/12/2008 12:23:22 AM   
MrRodgers


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Status: offline 		I always try to keep them laughing. Every line afterall...could be a straight line.

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RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/12/2008 12:32:49 AM   
Vendaval


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A sense of humour is vital to maintaining your mental health in life.

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RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/12/2008 2:53:44 AM   
PrincessJ77


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Status: offline 		I pictured him as Lurch from  the Addams' Family and couldn't stop giggling, even through the ball gag.


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RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/12/2008 3:28:15 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		You people need to get serious. There is no time for joking around when there are subs/slaves to attend to. Have'nt you heard the expression that Im going to slap that silly smile/smirk off of your face. Now thats a trew Dom/Domme. Nothing irratates me more than hearing a fat guy say Ho Ho Ho. Unless he is calling his Ho.  

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RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/12/2008 4:15:10 AM   
Twicehappy2x


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ORIGINAL: zakkan

Like blond jokes, driving jokes... so on? Then one fine day while you are talking he accidentally lets out a blond joke. And you are blond...  


It is still funny. Scooter and i are both natural blondes, Jewel, who is a redhead, tells blond jokes all the time. The best part is, we can all see where some of them are true.

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RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/12/2008 4:26:47 AM   
BKSir


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Status: offline 		A wise man once said...
"Laughing is a wonderful thing in the bedroom, as long as there is no pointing involved at the same time."


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RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/12/2008 5:01:13 AM   
CNJDom


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Status: offline 		Hi I just read the original post, and haven't read through to where the thread is currently...but wanted to respond to littlesarbonn first.  What the irrate Mistress was most likely upset about was the protocol aspect of BDSM, and not the personal relationship and bond you and your Mistress had developed to that point.  Humor is a part of life, as well as BDSM is.  Humor is an major part of my life, and I try to find humor anywhere.  I also tend to use humor in my play and BDSM.  I've been accused of not being true to the lifestyle by a certain person (a protocol -heavy Domme) that didn't like the way I handled my submissive, and felt that I was not using my position properly.  No fun there!  So I know what you feel from the other Mistress giving you a hard time over humor. 

Humor is not a poison, or takes away from anything that you and your BDSM partner(s) may have, because it is a part of your relationship.  So I say it's not a matter of respect and protocol and the idea of it taking away your submission or Dominance is unfounded.  Be who you are, and be happy.  That's more important, if your Mistress didn't like that behavior from you, then she'd let you know.  Everyone else can just speculate.  Take care... 

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RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/12/2008 5:23:14 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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If my sub can't make me laugh, we are not a good match.  Laughter is vital to my relationships, and I can't imagine not sharing that.

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RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/12/2008 7:13:02 AM   
alittleevil


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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

Now, I'm sure it would be easy to take this thread and criticize this young woman, but that's not the purpose of this thread. What I wanted to ask is how does humor affect your interactions with the person(s) you play? Does it not belong? Does it always belong? Does it enhance the experience? Is it only one-sided (such as the dominant is allowed to use humor, but the submissive is not)? Is it just one of those things? Is it something you seek out? Is it something you avoid?



Greetings,
Master makes me laugh. He seems to like to see me smile.  i'm fairly reserved and  have a strange sense of humor--things that other people find amusing often don't touch me (most stand up comedy, slapstick, Adam Sandler) , whereas things that i  can find humor in often confuse other people.  Viva la difference.  i love it when i can make Master smile or laugh out loud, and we share a rather dry, sarcastic, off-beat sense of humor. So, it's all good :-).  i don't feel the teeniest bit unslavely when i'm able to be amusing. i'm adept enough to know that if at any given moment my quips, comments and wry observations were inappropriate, i should stifle them, and do.

Laughter to you,
aj

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RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/12/2008 2:56:04 PM   
Sandyshores29718


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I am a smart ass. I have a sense of humor thats a mixture of a lot of things. This caused me a lot of issues when I just started studying and learning about the life, but it does not affect our relationship at all. He LIKES that I'm a smartass and I love him greatly for putting up with me. I think it works only cause we are both smart asses and no I'm not being disrespectful at all. He knows I love him and would never disrespect him at all.

I feel that being able to laugh and joke around with him has made us closer. If I was not allowed to do this, then I would not be myself. Laughter is a major part of my life. Sharing and joining in that with my loved one makes everything much better.

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RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/12/2008 3:59:53 PM   
pixidustpet


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Status: offline 		the very first time i was with Daddy in person, he decided to relieve my nervousness by doing an impression of the Swedish Chef from the muppet show. 

just today....TheEngineer was distracting me from the storm worries by tying me up and interrogating me...all is well....

till....

"so, Princess Leia, tell Darth Vader where the r2 unit went!" and begins the sexual torture...  Darth Vader.  and Princess Leia.  *ba-link*  that's when the giggling began.  "to the toy store! for new attachments!"

it just went downhill from there.  um yeah, laughter is a BIG part of the relationship. 

kitten the irreverent

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RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/13/2008 6:08:05 AM   
MercTech


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... if not alpha centauri

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RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/13/2008 6:17:19 AM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		Oh that just brings stars to my eyes - it sounds vega-ly like my relationship with the light of my life, the man i ly(ra) with every night. He is the light in my filament - oh that sounds vaguely dirty - shame on my, i should be spanked    ....     and caned, and made to see stars!!!!!

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