Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm?


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? Page: <<   < prev  1 [2] 3   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 3:37:21 PM   
candystripper


Posts: 3486
Joined: 11/1/2005
Status: offline 		Life without laughter would be unbearable.  And laughter in bed is the very best! 
 
candystripper 

(in reply to littlesarbonn)
Profile   Post #: 21
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 3:39:39 PM   
TysGalilah


Posts: 589
Joined: 11/21/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: candystripper

Life without laughter would be unbearable.  And laughter in bed is the very best! 
 
candystripper 


laughter in bed is the very best!  
    Oh ya..I agree....I love that casual playful comfortable laughter in bed...


_____________________________

galilah

.."There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it. " Edith Wharton

(in reply to candystripper)
Profile   Post #: 22
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 3:40:28 PM   
littlesarbonn


Posts: 1710
Joined: 12/3/2005
From: Stockton, California
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: candystripper

Life without laughter would be unbearable.  And laughter in bed is the very best! 
 
candystripper 


I agree, but I wish they'd stop laughing RIGHT AFTER I remove my clothes.


_____________________________

<---- FYI, this picture looks JUST like me


http://www.littlesarbonn.com/Stickman/Stickman.htm
The Adventures of Stickman and the Unemployed Lego Spaceman

(in reply to candystripper)
Profile   Post #: 23
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 3:49:32 PM   
TysGalilah


Posts: 589
Joined: 11/21/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

quote:

ORIGINAL: candystripper

Life without laughter would be unbearable.  And laughter in bed is the very best! 
 
candystripper 


I agree, but I wish they'd stop laughing RIGHT AFTER I remove my clothes.


 
teehee  was thinkin' that but didn't say/type it
 

_____________________________

galilah

.."There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it. " Edith Wharton

(in reply to littlesarbonn)
Profile   Post #: 24
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 5:04:33 PM   
whiteslavebitch


Posts: 479
Joined: 9/10/2007
Status: offline 		I have been accused of being too serious in the past, however, humor is very important to me. I could not be in a LTR that did not allow for laughs when appropriate. We both joke around with each other, without it turning disrespectful.
We laugh together frequently.

None of this has anything to do with the depth of my submission, or the respect I have for MasterK.

_____________________________

MasterK's whiteslavebitch

formally collared 1/30/09

"I give to you my everything, you've given me these loving wings." - DMB

(in reply to littlesarbonn)
Profile   Post #: 25
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 6:06:03 PM   
DesFIP


Posts: 25191
Joined: 11/25/2007
From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		Life is rough enough that if you can't be comfortable and laugh with people, then you probably don't love them. And for me, love, a full and abiding love, is essential in the relationship. Besides, if he's having a bad day and I make him laugh, then why isn't that helping him just as much as getting him lunch or rubbing his feet would be? He's a full human being and that means he enjoys laughing too.

_____________________________

Slave to laundry

Cynical and proud of it!


(in reply to TysGalilah)
Profile   Post #: 26
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 6:21:20 PM   
Skyfire


Posts: 21
Joined: 6/15/2007
Status: offline 		Laughter is a wonderful thing, unless it is accompanied by pointing. :)

I have seen couples go as far as to dress up as clowns and beat their bottoms with rubber chickens.  I have also seen couples that never smile, and communicate with signals and numbers.  I could not live like that, but I am a huge goofball. 

For the OP, I am more disgusted by the way this woman asserted her opinion as the "only way"  I would have thanked her for her opinion and then ignored everything she said from that day forward.  Your relationship is no one's business but your own.  I have also been part of an old school group of dominants, and her behavior would have been looked down upon.  If she had a problem she should have brought it to your mistress as protocol dictates.  So the next time someone tells you how you should be behaving, refer them to your mistress, and watch them shut up very quickly.

(in reply to DesFIP)
Profile   Post #: 27
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 6:21:45 PM   
lronitulstahp


Posts: 5392
Joined: 10/17/2007
Status: offline 		According to Some "in the know", i can be a bit silly...and  that seems to be a good thing.  Who knew? 

_____________________________

Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for." -Bob Marley

(in reply to littlesarbonn)
Profile   Post #: 28
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 6:22:39 PM   
DarkSteven


Posts: 28072
Joined: 5/2/2008
Status: offline 		Actually, I have wondered about that.  I've heard stories of humorless Doms and Tops.  But here on CM there seems to be a healthy sense of humor.

I once stated in a chat room that I punished my sub by tying her up and then telling her jokes and leaving off the punch lines.

_____________________________

"You women....

The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

(in reply to DesFIP)
Profile   Post #: 29
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 6:44:09 PM   
whiteslavebitch


Posts: 479
Joined: 9/10/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Actually, I have wondered about that.  I've heard stories of humorless Doms and Tops.  But here on CM there seems to be a healthy sense of humor.

I once stated in a chat room that I punished my sub by tying her up and then telling her jokes and leaving off the punch lines.


That is one of the most evil and sadistic things I've ever seen on these boards

_____________________________

MasterK's whiteslavebitch

formally collared 1/30/09

"I give to you my everything, you've given me these loving wings." - DMB

(in reply to DarkSteven)
Profile   Post #: 30
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 6:54:14 PM   
kiwisub12


Posts: 4742
Joined: 1/11/2006
Status: offline 		There is something very sensual about laughing with the person whom you live and love with. If my Sir didn't enjoy my rather weird sense of humour, we wouldn't be still together- he enjoys my sass, and i really don't think i could stop all of it from falling out of my mouth.

And  - when needed -  my Sir can stop me with a look or a word. Its one more way of exerting his dominance - being able to stop me in my tracks.  and since usually i am not being very serious, it doesn't hurt my feelings at all.

(in reply to whiteslavebitch)
Profile   Post #: 31
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 7:00:42 PM   
CallaFirestormBW


Posts: 3651
Joined: 6/29/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

What I wanted to ask is how does humor affect your interactions with the person(s) you play? Does it not belong? Does it always belong? Does it enhance the experience? Is it only one-sided (such as the dominant is allowed to use humor, but the submissive is not)? Is it just one of those things? Is it something you seek out? Is it something you avoid?



One problem we encounter when getting people used to our household is our very dry, very pervasive humor. It has been our experience that many of the people that we encounter, BDSM or not, really have sad, underdeveloped senses of humor, and find our laughter at one another, with one another, at our servants, with our servants, with our offspring, and at paragons of society completely inappropriate. Therefore, when we find a servant who appreciates our rather bizarre, rather caustic, rather strange sense of humor, we are willing to overlook a multitude of sins -- provide he still knows when to be obedient. *chuckles*

With that in mind, I will share a funny (My daughter first corrupted me with this site): http://www.illwillpress.com/TP22.html

Yes, we are a blazingly corrupted, amazingly perverse household -- and... we put the 'sex' in dyslexic!

Calla Firestorm


_____________________________

***
Said to me recently: "Look, I know you're the "voice of reason"... but dammit, I LIKE being unreasonable!!!!"

"Your mind is more interested in the challenge of becoming than the challenge of doing." Jon Benson, Bodybuilder/Trainer

(in reply to littlesarbonn)
Profile   Post #: 32
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 7:41:01 PM   
Barbie23


Posts: 6
Joined: 7/31/2008
Status: offline 		I agree... Humor does belong in a relationship.. But then doesn't it also depend on the person your with? Like you said, one of your mistresses LOVED to laugh with you.. and it ofended another.. I guess you have to take each person as they come and try to serve them the best way you can.. whether that be with or without humor... Well.. thats what i think anyway....

(in reply to TysGalilah)
Profile   Post #: 33
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 7:47:30 PM   
Pyrrsefanie


Posts: 1222
Joined: 9/18/2007
From: NEW HAMPSHAAAAAAH!
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

Now, I'm sure it would be easy to take this thread and criticize this young woman, but that's not the purpose of this thread. What I wanted to ask is how does humor affect your interactions with the person(s) you play? Does it not belong? Does it always belong? Does it enhance the experience? Is it only one-sided (such as the dominant is allowed to use humor, but the submissive is not)? Is it just one of those things? Is it something you seek out? Is it something you avoid?



But criticizing her would be so fun!  :(

I'm sorry, but I just learned this "sense of humor" thing recently, so I like to practice it every chance I get.  Underneath the D/s dynamic it's still a relationship with two real living (well, hopefully living) people in it... so is it really so wrong to like each other and enjoy each other's company without the play?






_____________________________

Ти саркастична, це – доля,
Ти артистична в неволі,
Ти симпатична в цій ролі,
Ти синтетична до болю

Read my series, Taking Jessica, on http://www.akashaweb.com !

(in reply to littlesarbonn)
Profile   Post #: 34
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 8:45:07 PM   
NihilusZero


Posts: 4036
Joined: 9/10/2008
From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		Judging from the responses on a recently locked thread, I think it's safe to say a sense of humor is not a scarce thing on a D/s community website.

_____________________________

"I know it's all a game
I know they're all insane
I know it's all in vain
I know that I'm to blame."
~Siouxsie & the Banshees

NihilusZero.com

CM Sex God du Jour
CM Hall Monitor

(in reply to Pyrrsefanie)
Profile   Post #: 35
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 8:47:23 PM   
Pyrrsefanie


Posts: 1222
Joined: 9/18/2007
From: NEW HAMPSHAAAAAAH!
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

Judging from the responses on a recently locked thread, I think it's safe to say a sense of humor is not a scarce thing on a D/s community website.


for just a moment here...

I'm mourning the passing of that thread.  May we have a moment of silence for it in all of its glory and remember it the way it was.

Okay, now back to the regularly scheduled thread.


_____________________________

Ти саркастична, це – доля,
Ти артистична в неволі,
Ти симпатична в цій ролі,
Ти синтетична до болю

Read my series, Taking Jessica, on http://www.akashaweb.com !

(in reply to NihilusZero)
Profile   Post #: 36
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 8:52:44 PM   
kyraofMists


Posts: 3292
Joined: 7/29/2005
Status: offline 		Humour belongs in the appropriate time and place.  For the most part, that appropriate time is fairly often.  It doesn't impact who has the authority or makes the decisions.  Some of his fondest memories are ones where he can't help but laugh because of mine or Alandra's antics. 

Knight's Kyra

_____________________________

"Passion... it lies in all of us. Sleeping, waiting, and though unbidden, it will stir, open its jaws, and howl. It speaks to us, guides us... passion rules us all. And we obey..." ~Angelus

(in reply to littlesarbonn)
Profile   Post #: 37
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 8:55:57 PM   
MissIsis


Posts: 473
Joined: 1/1/2005
Status: offline 		Isn't making me laugh, part of his or her service to me?   Life would be pretty sad without laughter.  I love surrounding myself with funny, & responsible human beings, submissive or not.  

(in reply to kyraofMists)
Profile   Post #: 38
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 9:00:53 PM   
NihilusZero


Posts: 4036
Joined: 9/10/2008
From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: MissIsis

Isn't making me laugh, part of his or her service to me?   Life would be pretty sad without laughter.  I love surrounding myself with funny, & responsible human beings, submissive or not.  

This brings up the key point, I think. The other Mistress in the OP seemed to suffer from the usual "projection myopia" problem: because she could not understand how laughter could still be shared in the honored parameters of subservience meant that it could not possibly be so.

Just another example of some people trying to shove their 'rulebooks' down others' throats.

< Message edited by NihilusZero -- 9/11/2008 9:01:26 PM >

_____________________________

"I know it's all a game
I know they're all insane
I know it's all in vain
I know that I'm to blame."
~Siouxsie & the Banshees

NihilusZero.com

CM Sex God du Jour
CM Hall Monitor

(in reply to MissIsis)
Profile   Post #: 39
RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? - 9/11/2008 9:14:30 PM   
VampiresLair


Posts: 1307
Joined: 9/3/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

What I wanted to ask is how does humor affect your interactions with the person(s) you play? Does it not belong? Does it always belong? Does it enhance the experience? Is it only one-sided (such as the dominant is allowed to use humor, but the submissive is not)? Is it just one of those things? Is it something you seek out? Is it something you avoid?


Fox and I joke back and forth pretty commonly. IT is the standing joke that I am the Man of the house, and he is my good little housewife. We say or do things that , when taken however we choose to take them, drive us both into hysterical laughter. We poke fun at friends and mutual aquaintenences often... a certain someone being the butt of many jokes as of late. The only time humor is not apreciated is when I am in a really foul mood, or when we are in a serious scene.
That doesnt happen often, on either count.
That said, I was just having a snack and handed Fox my bag of popcorn, telling him I was tired of eatting it out of my shirt (I kept dropping it down my sports bra). He stared at the bag, and compared me to a Pez dispenser... and was ratehr surprised that the popcorn fished out of my shirt tasted just like the other stuff. He has been told he isnt allowed to think any more tonight.

DV

(in reply to littlesarbonn)
Profile   Post #: 40
Page:   <<   < prev  1 [2] 3   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: How does humor affect your interaction in bdsm? Page: <<   < prev  1 [2] 3   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.125