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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

Well, I graduated from graduate school, and of my choices where I might teach for the next year, I ended up with offers from South Korea and a university in Missouri. Yes, both are obvious hotspots of bdsm activity, known around the world. :)

So, if you discovered you were about to move to some place where the bdsm community does not exist, or is so underground that even the people participating in it don't know they're participating in it, what do you think you would do?

(this is a question more for fun than anything else...don't treat it as a complaint or a desire for sympathy or anything like that...there are enough threads of that nature)

Ok so i am having a blond moment (irony)...but how would you know if you were moving to a place with hidden bdsm?

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

Well, I graduated from graduate school, and of my choices where I might teach for the next year, I ended up with offers from South Korea and a university in Missouri. Yes, both are obvious hotspots of bdsm activity, known around the world. :)

So, if you discovered you were about to move to some place where the bdsm community does not exist, or is so underground that even the people participating in it don't know they're participating in it, what do you think you would do?

(this is a question more for fun than anything else...don't treat it as a complaint or a desire for sympathy or anything like that...there are enough threads of that nature)

Ok so i am having a blond moment (irony)...but how would you know if you were moving to a place with hidden bdsm?

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

Start one! :D

People all over the world like a little spank and tickle, even if they don't create a group to talk about it.

That being said... you should go check out South Korea for a year or so, sounds like it would be fun.

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

Well, I graduated from graduate school, and of my choices where I might teach for the next year, I ended up with offers from South Korea and a university in Missouri. Yes, both are obvious hotspots of bdsm activity, known around the world. :)

So, if you discovered you were about to move to some place where the bdsm community does not exist, or is so underground that even the people participating in it don't know they're participating in it, what do you think you would do?

(this is a question more for fun than anything else...don't treat it as a complaint or a desire for sympathy or anything like that...there are enough threads of that nature)

Ok so i am having a blond moment (irony)...but how would you know if you were moving to a place with hidden bdsm?

That's a euphemism for the bdsm scene in Korea. I know one exists, but not being Korean means having a snowball's chance in hell of ever being invited to it.

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn
So, if you discovered you were about to move to some place where the bdsm community does not exist, or is so underground that even the people participating in it don't know they're participating in it, what do you think you would do?

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha
In my industry (marketing) none of the college grads can even write (including Journalism majors), so having writing skills automatically makes you attractive.

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn
So, if you discovered you were about to move to some place where the bdsm community does not exist, or is so underground that even the people participating in it don't know they're participating in it, what do you think you would do?

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha
In my industry (marketing) none of the college grads can even write (including Journalism majors), so having writing skills automatically makes you attractive.

Can i quote you without fear of litigation?

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha


Get a different job and move to a better location.  No one says you have to get a job teaching. People get all kinds of degrees and go into totally different fields.  Start over fresh and begin a career that is exciting and introduces you to a lot of people.  In my industry (marketing) none of the college grads can even write (including Journalism majors), so having writing skills automatically makes you attractive.  It may require working up the totem pole a little bit, but the benefit is working in an industry full of women - very aggressive, ambitious women - who are extremely creative.  Higher paying jobs exist for copywriters or even technical writers.

Other jobs that require writing skills and won't care necessarily what degree you have include grant writing, proposal writing, etc.  You can also go to work for a non-profit for very little money and they will love you regardless of your background in most cases - and eventually work your way into management. If you don't have debt and can move anywhere in the world, you should consider moving laterally into a brand new career.

Akasha

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

... a university in Missouri.

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

If you plan the south Korea move get yourself used to online submission.  It is one thing to start up a group in the states and totally another to begin one on foreign soil.  The laws may make things dangerous for you.  As for Misouri, there may be some groups around.  And I wouldnt dismiss starting one if I were you.  You can always make it an online group for people in your local area.  I am sure they know what kind of reaction it might get and have the desire for discretion just as you do.
Good luck
Kyst

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha


Get a different job and move to a better location.  No one says you have to get a job teaching. People get all kinds of degrees and go into totally different fields.  Start over fresh and begin a career that is exciting and introduces you to a lot of people.  In my industry (marketing) none of the college grads can even write (including Journalism majors), so having writing skills automatically makes you attractive.  It may require working up the totem pole a little bit, but the benefit is working in an industry full of women - very aggressive, ambitious women - who are extremely creative.  Higher paying jobs exist for copywriters or even technical writers.

Other jobs that require writing skills and won't care necessarily what degree you have include grant writing, proposal writing, etc.  You can also go to work for a non-profit for very little money and they will love you regardless of your background in most cases - and eventually work your way into management. If you don't have debt and can move anywhere in the world, you should consider moving laterally into a brand new career.

Akasha

Well, I started this posting with more of an angry response, but decided against it. Intead, I've stripped away the pissed off response to indicate that I'm happy teaching. I went to school to learn to teach well. I love teaching an audience of students. I do it well. I enjoy it. My students enjoy it. I don't want to be a "marketer"; yes, I write very well, but that doesn't mean I'm going to dirty myself to turn into an advertising writer; just not my thing. That's fine for some people. Making money is a goal of some people; I do okay. Yes, my choices become somewhat limited, but I don't have to give in on my dreams in order to "move to another career" because somehow that's going to "solve" a situation that it won't really solve other than put me into a career I didn't want in the first place.

The post was an inquiry as to what other people would do in similar circumstances. I've accepted my circumstances are what they are going to be because two agencies have decided to offer me A LOT of what I'm seeking to do exactly what I love to do. They just happen to be in less desirable locations. So, taking your response, I'm assuming your mode of action would be to completely change your career.

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha



Unless your career gives you such fulfillment that it is more important than having romantic relationships and fulfilling friendships with likeminded people, why let it take your life in a direction that will potentially leave you isolated, lonely, unhappy?  At the end of your life are you going to look back with such a full heart from teaching, in areas where you were alone and lonely, or will you look back and be grateful for rich, romantic relationships, or a soul mate?  That's a decision you have to make.  You can do anything you want with this life, so long as you are prepared to accept the outcome.

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha
Not all marketing or advertising is 'dirty."  You can use your skills to communicate about charities or people in need.  There's also a great opportunity to 'teach' in many careers, including marketing.  I have teachable moments all the time in my career - granted, it's not the same as lecturing in a classroom, but every new crop of eager interns is my own group to teach and grow, and I take great pride when they do well and have a hunger to learn. 

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha
The fact that your original response was going to be "pissed off" is odd.  You may do well to investigate that resentment.

Akasha

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

I ended up with offers from South Korea and a university in Missouri. Yes, both are obvious hotspots of bdsm activity, known around the world. :)

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

Well, I graduated from graduate school, and of my choices where I might teach for the next year, I ended up with offers from South Korea and a university in Missouri. Yes, both are obvious hotspots of bdsm activity, known around the world. :)

So, if you discovered you were about to move to some place where the bdsm community does not exist, or is so underground that even the people participating in it don't know they're participating in it, what do you think you would do?

(this is a question more for fun than anything else...don't treat it as a complaint or a desire for sympathy or anything like that...there are enough threads of that nature)