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Horror stories! - 7/7/2008 7:10:22 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		LOL ok, to be fair, since there is a need for people to call for the safety police let's hear some horror stories.
Tales of first meetings gone horribly wrong.
Since I am posting this I will start.
I have always been good at judging character, but people I have hung out with have not always been so consistant.   So, once when I went on a weekly visit to San Diego for a weekend of fun and frivolity, I took along my neice Evie.  Evie was not the best judge of character, having just gotten out of one abusive marriage and at the time was nursing a broken heart from hooking up with a gay.. correction, he said BI, man from Iran.
Anyway, I left the bar a bit early because she was no where to be found and I thought I might find her back at the hotel.  She wasnt there when I arrived so I put on my suit and jumped in the jacuzzi.  After 20 mins or so she came to the pool with 3 men in tow.  They were military guys who had too much to drink and were very fiesty.  I didn't want to leave her out there with them alone so I stayed in the jacuzzi and kept busy fending off roaming hands.  Then my idiot neice invites them back to the room for a drink before they went back to the ship. 
Shoot.
Once that door closed behind us they were all over the both of us.  I am pretty patient.  I told them it was time to go, they declined.  I told her to get them out, she was in her helpless confused state of mind.  Then I warned them that they were not behaving in a military way and they better leave before I called SP.  Having been to San Diego many times I was always prepared with the number.
So.. the guy knocks the phone from my hands. 
Big mistake.
I am a short woman, and at the time I was about 140 lbs, but I grew up with a brother who wasn't nice. I was used to defending myself from my childhood and from my work as a bouncer.  And I guess it helped that those guys were really drunk.  Flipping one over the round table wasn't difficult.  Yanking another off my neice was a tad harder.  I ended up hitting his head on the metal bannister as he went out the door.  The third one just said, ok, ok, we are leaving.  Well.. I think he said that.  I just know they left.  Of course it might have been the threat to call the SP, or the fact I wasn't backing down which made them leave, but it ended with me lambasting my neice for bringing over drunks to my hotel room.
My neice never learned how to spot trouble, or how to deal with it when it looked her in the eye.  She married yet another abusive man and now has a son who abuses his siblings.
My only other bad experience was dislocating someones finger.

I think most of us have had good stories and bad.  If you don't learn from both, you don't learn what you can do when faced with bad situations.
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RE: Horror stories! - 7/7/2008 7:17:21 PM   
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My horror stories (2) don't involve D/s or BDSM.  They both involve men I worked with for a number of years.  One of them was a VP at the company, and after a company party in which we both had too much to drink, raped me while I pounded my fists on his chest, crying no no no please don't, please stop.  He was married.  I was married.  I was afraid of my husband and never told him.  I had to work with the guy every day, and sit in staff meetings with him.  I said nothing to anyone but my best friend.

The other man was my former boss who left to become CEO of a company in Denver.  I had such a crush on that guy, and he knew it.  He came back to California for business and we went to dinner, which ended up in a hot fuck in his hotel room.  As soon as it was over, he said, "OK you can go now."  Not so much "horror" but pretty damn awful. 

Prior to that, I knew and trusted both men.  Particularly my former boss, I was shocked that he treated me like a street whore, and really hurt since I was so enamored with him.  I had known him for 8 years.  I had known the first guy for 2 years.  I knew where they worked, I knew where they lived, I knew their friends, and I even knew how much they made.  What I didn't know was how willing they were to use someone like they did.  Go figure.

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RE: Horror stories! - 7/7/2008 7:27:28 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		That just sucks! 

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RE: Horror stories! - 7/7/2008 7:30:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		Not a BDSM story either.  When I was 20, I was in the service. I had less than a year to go on my hitch, and was getting out to go to college.  One of my friends hooked me up with a neighbor of his.  He knew how tough it was finding women to date in a military town.  So he and his wife thought it would be good to hook a "homey" up with a loose woman.  Well, we started having sex after the first date.  A few weeks later, she says she's pregnant.  The "honorable" thing to do, was to re-enlist, as I was eligible for a large bonus.  I re-enlisted, we got married.  Two weeks after getting married, I had to go to cold weather training for six weeks.  When I came back after the exercise, she had run off with another guy, and every last bit of that bonus ($12,000).  Of course there never was a baby.

I'll give her credit for being a top notch scam artist, she did the same thing to the guy she ran off with.  I only wish I could have warned him, but seeing him around town in the bars, and the way he gloated about how "he took my woman" I figured, he's going to learn the hard way too. I doubt he would have listened to me had I warned him, summing it up to the bravado "I was more man than you." 

So seeing as the younger folks on this board never ran off with my woman, a word of warning:  Don't let a steady piece of ass cloud your judgement.

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RE: Horror stories! - 7/7/2008 7:32:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

That just sucks! 


It was a long time ago...I'm so over it, lol.

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RE: Horror stories! - 7/7/2008 7:51:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		Some of the worst stories I have heard were told to me by guys in the military.  Short romances, quick weddings, and many months away do not make many happy endings. 
My son is currently in the Navy.  I hope he has learned enough life skills to remember to keep it covered.
Kyst

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RE: Horror stories! - 7/7/2008 9:06:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		In college I was tired of dating frat boys so I posted an ad on a dating site and got lots of responses. I decided to give most of the guys a fair chance. There was one that I really connected with. He had a decent job, was in school, was a great communicator, all that at 22? I was smitten. We went on a first date, things went well. I played by "the rules" and by the third date we had sex. Come to find out, he lied about his job and school, put a major dent in my car, was a total mooch, and despite using protection and the pill I ended up pregnant. I found out I was pregnant by having a miscarriage. When I called and told him he yelled at me and told me I was going to hell because HIS baby died. (It happened on Good Friday).

I'm so thankful things worked out the way they did but I absolutely agree about being a good judge of character. If something seems off, or a red flag pops up just run!

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RE: Horror stories! - 7/7/2008 9:46:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		I met a Dominant who I had been speaking with for some time. He seemed very polite and extremely intelligent. There were no clues or red flags from any of our conversations. We met at a public place. He was already there when I arrived and I took a seat across the table from him. The very instant that his eyes met mine I knew for a fact that I had made a seriously bad call. I have a gift when it comes to reading people and it only took one glance in his eyes to tell me that he was not anyone that I wanted any type of interaction with. After a few very uncomfortable moments I explained that I didn't think we were a match and politely thanked him for his time. As I stood to leave he grabbed my forearm....hard enough to make bruises. It caught me a bit off guard and I told him in a tone that could not be misunderstood to let me go. He just kept holding on. I took a quick scan of the restaurant and I explained to him in no uncertain terms that it would be in his best interest to let me go...NOW. He released his grasp and I immediately exited the restaurant. When I got in my car I was shaking. I left and got about 10 blocks away and was sitting at a stop sign when he rear ended me at about 45 miles an hour, totalling his car. The speed limit in the area was 25 and the stop sign that I was sitting at was the end of the road and you could only turn right or left onto the two lane highway it ended at. I spent the next month off of work recovering from my injuries.....but I am certain that had I not listened to that voice and actually gone with that man I would have been at risk for something much more serious.


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RE: Horror stories! - 7/7/2008 9:51:06 PM   
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RE: Horror stories! - 7/7/2008 10:06:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		mistoferin, that's the stuff of nightmares there! Good to hear you made it out of that.

My big bad horror story is about this girl I'd med online, long distance and such. After six months she came out for a visit, and I knew several people who knew her rl as well. There were a few clues that I should have noticed, but my head was wrapped around so badly I barely noticed. When she showed up in town she was picked up by a mutual friend. Went over to meet after work, and apparently one look was enough to decide her I just wasn't right. Of course having been wrapped around her finger I had no clue until later when she tore into me and left me a messy pile of emo. Also she'd planned to visit a half dozen other long time friends during the trip and attend the mutual friends wedding.

After the wedding I discovered not only had she basically screwed over everyone else she'd come to visit. She also weaseled her way into someone else's relationship which had been a bit shaky, causing enough drama for a daytime soap opera. And in the end none of the people who had known her for years recognised this girl. It was very strange. To this day I look back and wonder how I ever made some of the decisions I did in regards to her.

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RE: Horror stories! - 7/7/2008 10:12:30 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		I am glad you listened to your sense!  Too many people have lost the ability to think on their feet.  Did you sue him for damages? 
Kyst

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RE: Horror stories! - 7/7/2008 10:17:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Some of the worst stories I have heard were told to me by guys in the military.  Short romances, quick weddings, and many months away do not make many happy endings. 
My son is currently in the Navy.  I hope he has learned enough life skills to remember to keep it covered.
Kyst

If you ever want him to speak to someone if he calls and says, "Guess what happened while I was on float mom?" I'd be glad to talk to him. It may not change the outcome, but at least he had fair warning.

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RE: Horror stories! - 7/7/2008 10:18:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		I never saw a penny....but not for lack of trying. Michigan's screwy no fault laws...

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RE: Horror stories! - 7/8/2008 4:53:23 AM   
LadyRainfire


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Status: offline 		Meh, I don't tell my horror story too often but for the sake of the thread.....

It may sound funny considering that I met Lumus here and moved out to be with him but this happened some years ago. I met a supposed Dom on another site and we chatted back and forth for some months. I was a bit leary that I only got a couple of pictures and he wouldn't go on the webcam except for once or twice. I just accepted that he was shy and kept forgetting to send me pictures. We talked extensively on the phone though  as well as online. Eventually things started getting serious and long term commitments were being discussed. Marriage, children, blah, blah, blah.... I was scheduled to go out to New York to meet him, at the time, I lived in Idaho. 

First horror, I flew into BWI, Baltimore airport, to be met by a friend and driven to my hotel. When I got in, I received a call that he couldn't make it down right away, he was stuck at work. I spent 3 days on my own, in a brand new city on the East Coast, where I had never been. I had a blast those 3 days! They turned out to be the best part of the trip. Finally, I get a call saying he will be down late that night. I waited as long as I could but finally fell asleep only to be woken by a strange lady letting herself into my room. As I'm sitting up trying not to scream and reaching for the phone, she finally confesses that she is "him". Second horror the trip was that he was a she who had lied to me about who they really were. Third, she had multiple personality disorder so I never knew "who" I was talking with which is why that a lot of conversations had been repeated or gone over and over. I had spoken with different personalities who didn't communicate with the others. Fourth, she actually got mad at me and threw a hissy fit because I wouldn't have a lesbian relationship with her. This after a year of knowing, and discussing, the fact that I'm hetero.

The whole trip turned into a fiasco but it was a good learning experience, one that has probably scarred me for life. :) It caused me to take a break from the Lifestyle and re-evaluate what I want and do some healing. When I eventually returned to talking to people online, I was pretty gung-ho about proof of gender. I admit that I flat out told a few people "whip it out on cam and prove to me that you're a man". The hilarious thing is that no one ever had a problem with that. It took me some years to get over this and I'm still a bit of a freak about honesty and truthfulness. Ok, so I'm damn near paranoid and OCD about honesty!

So I have both a horror story and a non-horror story.... Both are extremes which I realize but they're part of who I am at this point.

ETA - I found out later that the whole meeting had started as a joke between this person and a friend. Supposedly the woman had fallen in "love" (sick love, huh?) with me and didn't know how to tell me the truth. What a joke......


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RE: Horror stories! - 7/8/2008 6:44:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		The first guy I met from online, I had his moms number, his sister who lived close to me, his work, and his cell.  I think we had talked for about 5 months before he drove up to see me.  We met at walmart in the pet department after having exchanged pics so we would know the other.

Turns out he was just about my height.  5.2. and bald which I never noticed in pics before.  He did have gorgeous blue eyes though, and his voice was still deep and reasonant, but there was zero chemistry.  I felt like he could be my cousin.  We went to lunch, said goodbye and he went off to visit his sister.  I felt no fear.  And I felt no attraction, even though he typed a good connection.

I doubt I would ever go to meet someone who lived out of my area.  And I know that even though I MAY end up physically connecting with someone, I would have to meet them first in a normal situation and get some imput to the person they were.  I can be a risk taker, but I always measure the risk, weigh the potential results, and make my decision from that point.  That is an interesting idea about proof of gender... lol but I require a meeting to determine more than that. 
Kyst

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RE: Horror stories! - 7/8/2008 7:36:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		  Kyst, I was so burned and gun-shy after that incident that if someone wasn't willing to prove gender to me, there was no first meet in person. I went on to meet some nice men, just nothing that was serious or long-term. Until Lumus. Though he was so honest and upfront with me, that I never did have to ask for proof of gender with him. 

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RE: Horror stories! - 7/8/2008 9:56:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		Oddly enough I can totally relate!  I used to chat with this guy on AOL for a few years.  At first it was literary chat.  He was a published writer who thought I had potential and helped me focus.  Gradually it got more serious.  He was the first and only man I felt a romantic connection to without ever having met him.  About a year into "us" I was ready to take a vacation to meet him.  The first thing he admitted t me was that he was not white... ok, I was ok with that.  Then he told me he was 5'6", not the 6'1" he told me sometime earlier.  ok... he was still him, that was doable for me.
For one reason or another he put off the meeting.  I think he said he had to go on a tour or something.  I started to pull back and allow my logic to take over again.
We started becoming just friends as we were in the beginning.  And then on our third year of chatting. he confessed.
He didn't know what to do about a situation.  He had fallen in love with someone he had been chatting with at the same time he and I had chatted online.
Only, she thought he was a lesbian female.
Apparently he used to visit f4f chatrooms and they met there.  He said it was for reseach.  Uh huh.
Anyway, I guess she had left her husband and needed to move quickly.  She relied on "his/her" promise to give her any help when she finally left.
He was in a dilemma and did not know what to do.
Such drama!  I am glad I had detached from the situation.
Proof is a great thing.
Kyst

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RE: Horror stories! - 7/8/2008 10:11:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		i can't remember having any horror stories with dating, but i have had my own personal stalker. And i am still angry at my childhood friend for things getting that bad.

This stalker grew up in the same neighbourhood we did and has suffered from mental problems since atleast teen years. Somewhere during high school she developed this insane obsession towards my friend. Instead of doing something about it, my friend got insanely scared of this girl and moved around many times only to have her move after him. The last time he moved he made his address info and phone info secret. That was his way of solving the problem.

The stalker-girl knew that i was a friend of his and decided that by stalking me, she would find him. Soon she developed an obsession towards me aswell and started infiltrating my life through my father and his spouse. They have this music group they run and she started participating just to get info about me. And, she figured out where i lived and called me this hang-up calls. So, i did the very thing my friend should have done. One morning she followed me to a bus and i caused a loud scene there telling her to leave us alone and disappear. She totally paniced and disappeared for a while, but eventuallly came back. The first time i saw her coming back to lurk around my home i went outside and told her that i had warned her once - now things will start getting ugly. So i called the police and told them the whole story and asked them if they could give her a scary talk. i had her phone info that i got from my dad and the police-officers called her to the station and gave her that scary talk i asked for. After that i have not seen her. And after that i have nothing bad to say about our police department.:)

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RE: Horror stories! - 7/8/2008 11:06:07 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		YAY!  Good resolution! 
Kyst

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RE: Horror stories! - 7/8/2008 3:13:16 PM   
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I met a Dominant who I had been speaking with for some time. He seemed very polite and extremely intelligent. There were no clues or red flags from any of our conversations. We met at a public place. He was already there when I arrived and I took a seat across the table from him. The very instant that his eyes met mine I knew for a fact that I had made a seriously bad call. I have a gift when it comes to reading people and it only took one glance in his eyes to tell me that he was not anyone that I wanted any type of interaction with. After a few very uncomfortable moments I explained that I didn't think we were a match and politely thanked him for his time. As I stood to leave he grabbed my forearm....hard enough to make bruises. It caught me a bit off guard and I told him in a tone that could not be misunderstood to let me go. He just kept holding on. I took a quick scan of the restaurant and I explained to him in no uncertain terms that it would be in his best interest to let me go...NOW. He released his grasp and I immediately exited the restaurant. When I got in my car I was shaking. I left and got about 10 blocks away and was sitting at a stop sign when he rear ended me at about 45 miles an hour, totalling his car. The speed limit in the area was 25 and the stop sign that I was sitting at was the end of the road and you could only turn right or left onto the two lane highway it ended at. I spent the next month off of work recovering from my injuries.....but I am certain that had I not listened to that voice and actually gone with that man I would have been at risk for something much more serious.



Almost the exact same thing happened to my girlfriend, (minus the car crash).... but she met up with someone and it was obvious this guy was severly messed up in the head.... Basically a true snuff/torture addict shopping around the bdsm sites for a new, young, and curious girl who had no idea of the sick predators that lurk these sites.  He lived about 200 miles away, they met somewhere public and immediatly realized what she had gotten herself into.

She managed to get away,....later he found her online again and threatened her by saying "I looked into your background, I know where you work, I will come up there.  I will find you" etc etc etc.  He continued to stalk her online but thankfully after a while he dissapeared.

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