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RE: question - 6/29/2008 6:11:48 AM   
Lumus


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ORIGINAL: kitty44

I was reading and few profiles on here and i came across people stating that they have no limits and looking for the same in a sub or slave .
my question is this everyone has some line they wont cross so how can anyone say they dont have any limits
can someone help me on that

thank you for your help
kitty


Saying you have no limits is like saying "I believe" or "I think".  It's a thing in your head by which you define yourself which may, or may not, have anything to do whatsoever with reality...

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ORIGINAL: candystripper
I think 'no limits' is just CollarMe code for 'extreme'.  It's not a term I've seen used anywhere else; it seems like a CM idiosyncrasity.
Oh, hell, no.  The number of no-limit folk expands outwards online as you dig into the smaller pockets of the collective.  I have had people approach me with the concept on Yahell chat rooms; I've seen it bandied about on talkers like Crystal Palace.  Maybe you've just been fortunate enough to avoid it, pink- err, candystripper.

Edited to add:    We're already arguing on Page 1, that's a good sign of an oncoming trainwreck...wouldn't you say?  It would be nice to see this stay civil...


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RE: question - 6/29/2008 6:24:02 AM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		When i first came to my Sir, as a newbie, he repeatedly asked me what my limits were.   I couldn't tell him, since i didn't know all of what was involved in bdsm.  I guess i could have said 'i have no limits", but it would have been truer to say (and did) that i didn't know what my limits were.  And actually, when i started, i didn't know that i could have limits.    (yeh i was really green  *struts, polishes fingernails on shirt , very smug*) nope - not green any more - more black and blue hehe

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RE: question - 6/29/2008 6:33:16 AM   
GabrielleSlave


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Status: offline 		One by one my so called limits are being worked on and eliminated.  i am a new slave (only 18 months experience) and so some of those things which i thought were beyond me are no longer problems.  All safely and sanely dealt with as and when He believed i was ready.  i do think of myself as a no limits slave, but for reasons other than trying to sound cool!  To me, it simply means that i have turned my limits over to my Master.  He is not a no limits Master and i trust Him implicitly with my safety and mental wellbeing.  He is aware of the limits that He has yet to broach with me and for the moment at least He is not going to challenge me with them.  i think the secret to it all is this; if He asked me to do something that He knew i truly, genuinely found abhorrent, then He Himself would not enjoy me doing it. 

There is nothing shameful in having limits; in my opinion those who admit to it perhaps know themselves in a way that can only benefit their future relationships.  Limits which are subsequently explored and perhaps eliminated in a negotiated, unhurried way can only improve the quality of submission and level of trust (this said from my position as a slave for whom this has happened).

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Gabrielle x

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RE: question - 6/29/2008 7:03:11 AM   
cailinbeag


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Status: offline 		Within the context of my relationship with Daddy, I have no limits. There's no need for them. We communicate. We trust. We're also equally sick and adventerous. For me to stand up and define limits would be like my saying "I will not eat brussel sprouts" to a man who hates brussel sprouts and will never demand them for dinner. It's kind of a non-issue.

Now if I were to play casually, then yes. I have limits. No fluid exchange, for example. If there's something I think my play partner might want to do that I will not do, then I need to speak up so that no assumptions are made. By the same token though, to make not giving me third degree burns with a butane torch a limit is to infer that this was in the realm of possible play and obviously I haven't made a suitable choice in play partners.

I think people take the word "limits" too literally, and I don't understand why people come down so hard on those who claim to have none. When I hear "no limits", all I think is that the person doesn't have any recognized triggers, either emotionally or physically, isn't afraid to try new things and has enjoyed what they have already experienced. I hear comments here about "telling her to rob a bank" and I just roll my eyes. Yah, you made your point, but seriously. If I lined up a list of 100 people who were advocators of limits, and their lists of limits, I'd bet money that not a single one of them would have "I will not rob a bank" listed.

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RE: question - 6/29/2008 7:04:55 AM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		Within my current relationship I have no limits :D ......

Oh wait im not in a relationship (but my rabbit wouldnt do ANYTHING to hurt me)

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RE: question - 6/29/2008 7:06:43 AM   
ftmyersartist


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Status: offline 		If some says to you they have no limits, ask them to cut off their right hand. If they say no. . .then you've found at least one limit.

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RE: question - 6/29/2008 7:17:34 AM   
myotherself


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quote:

ORIGINAL: colouredin

but my rabbit wouldnt do ANYTHING to hurt me


mine would!  Stroppy floppy-eared little gits...

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RE: question - 6/29/2008 7:33:07 AM   
GabrielleSlave


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quote:

ORIGINAL: colouredin

(but my rabbit wouldnt do ANYTHING to hurt me)


My rabbit just did....................... but then it was a task...   *smiles happily and settles down to sleep for a while*

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RE: question - 6/29/2008 9:13:22 AM   
lally3


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Status: offline 		it boggles my brain that people can fill in a profile and read, i assume they read the menu list of possibilities and still say they have no limits.

so what they are infact saying is that they wouldnt mind a bit having their nipples nailed to the table, have themselves suspended by their hair, toes and labia (table still attached) whilst having their mouths wired open, before being dumped on and tied to a plank with an extreme sadist brandishing a strip of twangy thin wire 

some of the russian sites are terrifying!

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RE: question - 6/29/2008 9:16:24 AM   
IvyMorgan


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Status: offline 		There are always limits, even if I'm just trusting to the sanity of the person I'm playing with.  (He's sane ergo won't break bones/kill me/etc.)

I tend not to list things I won't do if they won't come up.  So, I don't say no minors, cos, I'm figuring, most people aren't about to include one.

I find it sort of sad that people feel they need to encode their kink (no limits = likes animals) because of taboo.  Assuming that is the case, which it might not be.

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No limits - 6/29/2008 9:26:45 AM   
kitty44


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Status: offline 		first i want to thank everyone for sharing thier thoughts about this subject
I was just wondering about the no limt statements is all
i am not trying to step on anyone toes here
i am trying to learn things and to understand stuff better
thank you all so much
kitty

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RE: No limits - 6/29/2008 9:33:19 AM   
came4U


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Status: offline 		My limit is someone wanting to find someone with no limits.

That is what blow-up dolls are for. 

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RE: No limits - 6/29/2008 9:40:58 AM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		I'm amazed that no one has mentioned chainsaws yet.  In threads about "no limits," you usually get someone talking about chainsaws by the third or fourth post.

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RE: No limits - 6/29/2008 9:47:18 AM   
softness


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Status: offline 		I have no hard limits, merely requests of preference or taste that He may grant or ignore as He pleases.
DV has *plenty* of hard limits, as does our relattionship .. the slave doesn't have limits, The House does.

The old response .. tell someone with "no limits" to chop their ear off and watch them say no ... is just stupid. Its context. I dont need limits because of the context I am in, you might need limits for the context you are in. Nothing wrong with either.

edited to add CHAINSAWS for LAM

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