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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/28/2008 7:01:31 PM   
MissIsis


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1. What do you define as intimacy?  Vulnerability, the letting down of ones defenses or guards, so the other is allowed to get to know you on a deeper level.

2.What is one of the most intimate moments you have ever had?  Laughter during sex (Not laughter at the sex)

3.Do you believe that D/s brings you more intimacy? It can, but I have found that it isn't always a truth.

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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/28/2008 9:13:58 PM   
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the Intimacy I already have facilatates a more intense D/s relationship.


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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/28/2008 10:16:17 PM   
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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/28/2008 10:49:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		Intimacy is feeling one here beside me though they may be a hundred miles away.

The most intimate moment was a kiss goodbye to a dying friend of the heart.

Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't. Much like dreams, which can either
awaken me with a sigh, or startle me with a cry. It inhales, it exhales, in a
constant exchange of breath.

chia* (the pet)

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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/29/2008 3:49:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

Intimacy is feeling one here beside me though they may be a hundred miles away.

The most intimate moment was a kiss goodbye to a dying friend of the heart.

Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't. Much like dreams, which can either
awaken me with a sigh, or startle me with a cry. It inhales, it exhales, in a
constant exchange of breath.

chia* (the pet)



awwwwwww

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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/29/2008 6:35:37 AM   
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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

2. What is one of the most intimate moments you have ever had?
Leaving the bathroom door open.   Crying together (not because the bathroom door was left open).


*SPLUTTER* Once again a reminder to be careful reading CM whilst drinking coffee!



Yeah, that made me laugh really hard.  :)


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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/29/2008 9:22:42 AM   
metalmiss


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ORIGINAL: MladyHathor
1. What do you define as intimacy?


Intimacy to me.. Achieving a state of contentment through my personal acceptance of my vulnerability as His slave felt very intimate. For me intimacy isn't physical in any way.

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ORIGINAL: MladyHathor
2. What is one of the most intimate moments you have ever had?


Saturday night, the deepest darkest corner of a fetish club, wrapped tightly in His arms,gazing deeply into His eyes, shuddering because i know how much He's still aching to hurt me some more.. smiling.. and kissing.. lots and lots of kissing.. *smiles softly* This girl never wanted that moment to end..

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ORIGINAL: MladyHathor
2. Do you believe that D/s brings you more intimacy


Yes definately. The deeper connection that comes from Our Dynamic allows for greater depths of intimacy and knowing of each other than would ever be possible in my experience of a vanilla relationship.




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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/29/2008 2:06:44 PM   
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1. What do you define as intimacy?

So many definitions, and so many levels of intimacy. Something as simple as spooning in bed, listening to the rain thunder down. And as intense as knowing you will never be judged and you will never judge. Complete acceptance.

quote:

2. What is one of the most intimate moments you have ever had?

Oddly enough, a rather vanilla one. My slave had just come home from a trip that had left her emotionally abused and exhausted. As she came in the door, I gently undressed her, and we sat in a big armchair together and just held each other for a loooong time.

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2. Do you believe that D/s brings you more intimacy?

No. There are people who can be intensely intimate, and those who can't be intimate at all, whether in bdsm or the vanilla world.

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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/29/2008 7:09:44 PM   
opensoul


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Status: offline 		Before i thought i knew what intimacy was, That was so far away and sooo far of track. Intimacy is the knowing you are loved for everything you are, everything you bring with you, good and bad, and awaking to to the feel that you are closer to someone soo special, that you are alive, breathing feeling for the first time.

I must say i believe i have two so special moments its so hard to say so you pick, 1 Having my dieing father tell me for the first time That he truly loved me! 2 Having my Master, tell me as He put his collar on me that We are soul mates and that he loved me, as he stripped all the bad experiences  from me along with my clothes and made me his!!!!!!

For me it has helped me open to intimacy,  I believe i always wanted intmacy but till my Master helped me open to it I never truly knew how.

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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/29/2008 7:34:21 PM   
SailingBum


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ORIGINAL: petpete

No i don't think that D/s brings "more " intimacy. i only know it makes me feel something inside me that i have a need to release. And that is not in a "liquid form alone"...


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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/29/2008 7:42:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		1. Intimacy is to me first of all about being close to someone else in a state of extraordinary openness or vulnerability - it may or may not involve physical touch.

2. I'm having a hard time pinning down the most intimate moments I've had, though I'm sure they can be found, there are perhaps to many to choose from. Allthough it doesn't really apply here since this is of course about people, one image that came to mind first was a time when I held a small wild bird in the palm of my hand and felt its' intense, rapid heart beat. It's a good image though. Nevertheless, it's more about a depth of feeling that grows and develops between two persons as I see it, and it is by that also that the moments of heightened intimacy occur.

3. I believe D/s can bring a deeper sense of intimacy; though it also depends on the people involved. For me personally, it's an important aspect of it.

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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/30/2008 12:20:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hey Bad1!!! How have You been?? Sailing the seven seas yet?? i've been offline most of the time cause of my new job.. Thought i slog it off for another 5 or so years (if i live that long.....) Take care old buddy and watch out on those nasty weather turns.. Isn't it funny how sailing also resembles our lives?? Sometimes its all smooth sailing and other times we can experiences some very rough waters....

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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/30/2008 12:42:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SailingBum
Yea what pete said.   Great to see ya dude!

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ORIGINAL: petpete
Hey Bad1!!! How have You been??


Good to see you guys sharing some intimate moments here!

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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/30/2008 12:57:23 AM   
petpete


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Status: offline 		What's up chief?? Have you been offended by our friendship??? Sorry if i missed your point but my friends can vary from all sides of the spectrum. Sexuality never interferes with my friendship and just to clear and remind you my profile reads that i am a straight male and so as the Badone's. (Unless you wanna sit on the mast)!!!

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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/30/2008 12:58:52 AM   
SailingBum


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ORIGINAL: petpete

Hey Bad1!!! How have You been?? Sailing the seven seas yet?? i've been offline most of the time cause of my new job.. Thought i slog it off for another 5 or so years (if i live that long.....) Take care old buddy and watch out on those nasty weather turns.. Isn't it funny how sailing also resembles our lives?? Sometimes its all smooth sailing and other times we can experiences some very rough waters....


Yep got the boat in and lovin it.  Ive not seen you around assumed you got tied err tangled up with a new someone.  Good luck with the new job.

BadOne

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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/30/2008 1:09:58 AM   
petpete


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Status: offline 		i wish..... That new someone is called a new job that keeps me occupied most of my time.....grrrrr!!! (Early wake ups and late returns....) Plus i've been spending more time pedaling and losing weight, (since i gain it easy...) Riding the bike back from work keeps my body trimmer and my pocket fuller... ;) Anyway my only vehicle now is my classic 1964 Ford Fairlane (Compact) and i have just restored it to showroom condition and have no intentions of wearing that one out..!!!

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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/30/2008 1:15:34 AM   
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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/30/2008 1:19:24 AM   
MstrVik


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ORIGINAL: petpete

What's up chief?? Have you been offended by our friendship??? Sorry if i missed your point but my friends can vary from all sides of the spectrum. Sexuality never interferes with my friendship and just to clear and remind you my profile reads that i am a straight male and so as the Badone's. (Unless you wanna sit on the mast)!!!


Offended? Not at all. I was referring to the thread topic - and that was my only point. -I have friends from all over the spectrum as well, and I hadn't even though to check any of your preferences. - Thanks for the offer, I enjoy it at sea, but not on the mast and I also suspect it might fare even worse than me if I did. Happy sailing!  

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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/30/2008 1:32:54 AM   
petpete


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Status: offline 		Scuse moi MissMagnolia? Did anyone mention of the "V" word cause i dont recall of doing so...

< Message edited by petpete -- 5/30/2008 1:34:08 AM >

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RE: Men and Intimacy - 5/30/2008 1:51:30 AM   
Hippiekinkster


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ORIGINAL: Level

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ORIGINAL: MladyHathor

( This was originally going to be for the male subs/slaves,  but I'd like to have all the men weigh in here)---we often accuse men of thinking with one head and it isnt where the brain is---and we often hear that D/s brings more intimacy than a vanilla relationship.  ( Note not opinions, not generalist statements---frames of reference only)--
 
So given that--and no references to your penis---I'd like to hear:
 
1. What do you define as intimacy?
 
2. What is one of the most intimate moments you have ever had?
 
2. Do you believe that D/s brings you more intimacy?


1- it can mean all sorts of things, but what comes to mind first is emotional closeness.
 
2-  an evening with a lady friend; I had a nice mix of songs playing, we slow danced, and did not speak much. We didn't need to.
 
3- Yes, but that's subjective.
I reckon I see things much the same as Brother level, here. Emotional closeness and a common language define intimacy for me. By a common language, I mean those shared experiences which create, over time, convergence of philosophies and likes/dislikes.

My most intimate moment(s), well, there have been so many which have brought me great joy.

Does D/s bring me more intimacy? Well, I'm not all that interested in Power Exchange. I'm more into BDSM.  Let me say that BDSM most certainly can create moments of intense intimacy. But so can any other shared activity.  For instance, fisting. That's not a BDSM activity, not in my view, anyway, but I can't think of a more intimate PHYSICAL activity that I would want to share.

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