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someone please explain this - 4/15/2008 9:32:55 PM

jezzabelle19

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ok what is up with the capping like Y/you and other things like that when do you use it and why? (by the way im new into this so i dont know a lot)

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RE: someone please explain this - 4/15/2008 9:36:54 PM

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Some people prefer to do that so that they can, indirectly, address all who are dominant with capital letters, always, and those who are submissive without capital letters, always.

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RE: someone please explain this - 4/15/2008 9:39:50 PM

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Some people like to be different.

It became the custom (online) back when chat was just green text for submissives to capitalize You when speaking with a dominant, and using lower case i, or using their name with lower case as a means of identifying themselves as submissive. It progressed to dominants saying Me and My to indicate they were dominants. Thus, if I was to address everyone in a room, I might say "when Y/you are having troubles communicating...." meaning I'm talking to all dominants, and submissives.

I never use it, personally. I think the majority of people on this site F/favor P/proper E/english O/over F/frilly O/onlineisms.

I do occasionally say s/he for the sake of convenience though.

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RE: someone please explain this - 4/15/2008 9:40:31 PM

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In the use of pronouns, many capitalize when the subject is Dominant and and keep it in lower-case when the subject is submissives. The slash-speak (like Y/your) is generally when not directed specifically towards one or the other. i don't generally use the capitalization unless in terms of my own Dominant and Her Dominant Husband, and seldom if ever use slash-speak.

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RE: someone please explain this - 4/15/2008 9:46:46 PM

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Most folks here have provided a reasonable explanation of why it started. I would just like to add my vote to the proper English side of the discussion.

In the same vein, dominant and submissive are adjectives, not nouns. So I would prefer to read "I am the dominant partner" over "I am a dominant."

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RE: someone please explain this - 4/15/2008 9:50:09 PM

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thanks for all the answer guys i really appriciate it

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RE: someone please explain this - 4/15/2008 9:58:09 PM

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:) don't learn to adopt that trait! Please!
I find my eyes glaze over when people do slashy speak or refer to MASTER, HE (note the caps) as if they were God incarnate.
So unless you find yourself a dominant who needs that to get their warm fuzzies.....

please don't embrace that habit.
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RE: someone please explain this - 4/15/2008 10:06:06 PM

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Awww cmon, Kystie! You mean you don't like it when you see the following examples (that I have seen here):

Is someO/one going to answer that part of the question? <-- you would really type someOne to a dominant??
When I talk to M/my sub... <--- seriously... capitalizing "my" and then not knowing if you consider yourself dominant or not??
Are A/all of you... <--- the word isn't even a pronoun or a noun, gimme a break!

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RE: someone please explain this - 4/15/2008 10:13:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Awww cmon, Kystie! You mean you don't like it when you see the following examples (that I have seen here):

Is someO/one going to answer that part of the question? <-- you would really type someOne to a dominant??
When I talk to M/my sub... <--- seriously... capitalizing "my" and then not knowing if you consider yourself dominant or not??
Are A/all of you... <--- the word isn't even a pronoun or a noun, gimme a break!

Cali

cali I do lust your great ass. not sure what word you are refering to but all can be a noun pronoun adverb and a few I cant think of...

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RE: someone please explain this - 4/15/2008 10:22:40 PM

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In the same vein, dominant and submissive are adjectives, not nouns.

Merriam-Webster's Collegiate Dictionary, tenth edition, lists dominant as a noun and dates it to 1819. The second definition is "any of one or more kinds of organism (as a species) in an ecological community that exerts a controlling influence on the environment...." Arguably that definition could apply to WIITWD. It doesn't have submissive as a noun, though.

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RE: someone please explain this - 4/15/2008 10:26:09 PM

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BigBad....

I have never (thank god) seen someone say: Do S/some of you....
But I constantly see peeps say: Do A/all of you...

If they're going to annoy, they could at least be consistent about it!

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RE: someone please explain this - 4/16/2008 1:44:11 AM

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I was "taught" the caps/small letters rule when I first came into the scene, and while I know there are some here who don't like it, I do find it useful. I am both sub and Domme, not so much a switch who flip flops from one to the other ... but more of a dual personality where both sides can operate almost simultaneously. So that can get a bit confusing because sometimes my 2 personas have slightly different points of view! And here as I respond to questions, I want to let people know whether I am answering as a Dominant or as a sub. So I tend to type Me, My etc when it is My Dominant side talking (Jay) and me, my when it is my submissive side talking (violet, collared to Master, shown as [A]). I used to use the slash speak more, but try to minimise it!

I think it's more important to ask what the person you are corresponding with actually prefers, and just try to be tolerant on the boards! The one I find most difficulty with is the third person speak "girl does this" ... and bright lairy fonts which hurt My eyes! Oh ... and mis-spellings, describing yourself as "a Dominate" etc!

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RE: someone please explain this - 4/16/2008 2:56:38 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: jezzabelle19

ok what is up with the capping like Y/you and other things like that when do you use it and why? (by the way im new into this so i dont know a lot)

Some like it and some loathe it.... I don't mind the use of caps denoting a hierarchy between D & s but I can't stand the Y/you type slashes.

It's fine if that's what's decided in personal mail contacts and you do what you can in maintaining a dynamic for those limited to mostly email relationships but purleeeeeeeease keep the slashes off public discussion boards - it's annoying. Generalising here; not picking on the OP....

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RE: someone please explain this - 4/16/2008 4:08:26 AM

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It's really annoying, don't do it. It's one of the most annoying and retarded things I've ever seen on this site. To me, it's almost as bad as chatspeak.

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RE: someone please explain this - 4/16/2008 4:44:08 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: jezzabelle19

ok what is up with the capping like Y/you and other things like that when do you use it and why? (by the way im new into this so i dont know a lot)

I believe it all started before the age of dinosaurs back in the chats,I personally find it irritating but what ever works for you is all that counts..Most subs when new in
to the lifestyle use it ie.Y/you to make sure they cover all the base when in chat/boards.... A young subbie wouldn't want to get screamed at for not addressing a big bad Dom properly smile..bounty

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RE: someone please explain this - 4/16/2008 4:46:09 AM

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If there is anything Im consistent about it is annoying Cali. Op while in Rome do as the Roman's do.

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RE: someone please explain this - 4/16/2008 6:09:44 AM

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I'm a southern type gal so it's A/all Y/y'all...........lol

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RE: someone please explain this - 4/16/2008 6:52:27 AM

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To honestly answer your question.

There has been studies that show certain people just cannot handle being in this lifestyle and slowly become retarded.

One day they are Daydreaming Sweet girls who simply need a small does of reality and then they start buying into a substituted reality where Respect is given in how you type something rather than Actually just respecting the person and slowly thier Caranial Mass Drops and they no longer care about any of the things they were taught in grade school

Furthermore this behavior can extend beyond the Great Wide Net and into the real world and can manifest itself into the actual belief that just because a person says that they are dominant then they actually MUST be and so they honestly believe that they must follow this person around and believe every truely retarded thing that they say and act as this persons personal Cock Socket and after a few months they see how they have been treated, they feel abused, But rather than realize thier own part in this, thier diminished capasity only allows them to complain about everyone else and ignore thier own place in thier own misery.

I/i W/wish Y/you A/all W/well/

S/s/Ssteel

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RE: someone please explain this - 4/16/2008 6:56:31 AM

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Retarded cock sockets?

HERE?

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RE: someone please explain this - 4/16/2008 8:17:09 AM

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It's chat speak. It identifies you as a chatroom user.

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