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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

It might just be a lack of sleep. I haven't had a really good night's sleep in about a week now. An old injury has been tormenting me in a not so good pain kind of way. I know it's my fault because I've been pushing it when I know what I really need to do is just rest it...but shit's gotta get done ya know. Ever notice how things seem to hurt more in the middle of the night?

Anyone, I can't sleep so I thought I'd do some reading on the boards to help me "get" tired enough to override the pain. I find though that tonight a large number of posts just make me feel sad.....and very, very blessed. There seem to be sooooo many people out there trying to jam themselves or their relationships into the boxes that fit their "perception" of what they think they are supposed to be. No room for individuality, no room for flexibility, no room for fallibility, no room to just be human. If you want to be a _____ you have to do_____ and accept_____.So many unhappy people. So many frustrated people. So many people who seem to be trying to follow some unwritten set of rules. They are trying to find a _____ partner, trying to make a relationship work with a _____ partner. It seems that in that process, so many seem to lose sight of who they are, what they want, what they need.....what fulfills them.

Oh I know that none of this makes sense. But I just wanted to let people know....it is possible to be submissive or Dominant from a place of joy....to know love....acceptance....to find someone that you can share a life with....a life that isn't so rigid that you can't live up to the expectations of your partner....a life that allows for mistakes, growth, sharing, give and take. A life that doesn't require you to hide, neglect or forget parts of who you are or what you want, need or desire. Just saying.......

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ORIGINAL: JANAAZ1
Oh, I told him that this isn't going to work for me

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I read about how happy the one Slave is, I can't think of her name now, but, her Master is ' The Dark,

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I WAS UNDER CONSIDERATION.... I thought that meant for HIM to decide if I was a good fit for him, and, maybe he did mean that, but, I have walked away with the knowledge that, in the future, HE WILL BE UNDER MY CONSIDERATION TOO!!!!!!

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I will try again, I know me, I WILL....   

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ORIGINAL: Poetryinpain

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I read about how happy the one Slave is, I can't think of her name now, but, her Master is ' The Dark,

Urmmm, the.dark is the slave; Darcy is the Master. And, yes, they are very happy.

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

Reality is - it is impossible to disclose the totality of the issue in writing to make any suggestion useful unless/except if it initiates a desire for more self-awareness.

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
There are no 'ideals', no perfect or even good examples of what you should be or what a relationship should look like. There is no dogma. For a relationship to succeed long term it requires a self generated, and unique, dogma. Obtaining that is where you'll find that "joy" and "fun" you seek. It's there in the contentment and confidence of being self aware. No one can tell you HOW to achieve that - the important part is knowing that you have to.