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RE: disrespect - 3/29/2008 1:28:32 AM   
MasterOfMyRealm


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Joined: 3/7/2008
Status: offline 		Mel,

With all due respect, I just took a look at your profile, and it's not very clear that you aren't looking to meet Doms here. You might want to rethink your profile. Take a look at softness' profile, for example. She makes it very clear up front, right at the top of the profile, where it says "Am not looking. Am found." (which of course could mean many things, but it gets the point accross right away that you at least need to read more.) And there's that journal entry of 3/13 in her profile, which is pretty interesting in itself.

Another good example, is OmegaG's profile. Right at the top, the first thing she says is "I am under a collar of consideration and only looking for friends" and that's what displays at the top of the page when you click on her name.

Anyway, again, with all due respect, what I get from reading your profile is that you're looking to be controlled and looking for that ultimate 24/7 relationship. The note you added on 3/28 is confusing, because it references your Master, but you also say that you return all messages. For those that read down and look at your journal entry, finally, we find something that says you are "under consideration". Basically, what that means is that anybody writing emails to you for other than friendship or just chat has not read your entire profile and journal, so you really owe them nothing. You don't have to reply to everybody that sends you an unsolicited email, and you may not want to promise that you will.

Knowing how these things look when people click on your name, you may want to put the most important thing first so it appears at the top of the page in large bold letters.

Finally, good luck, and I hope things work out for you.

-David





< Message edited by MasterOfMyRealm -- 3/29/2008 1:42:06 AM >

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RE: disrespect - 3/29/2008 4:47:06 AM   
adoracat


Posts: 1779
Joined: 2/16/2007
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherist

Actually, that never dissuades me. I know what responsibility is. It's when the sub refuses to accept her part in making it possible that I have issues. The work needs to come from both sides-never expect a Top to be a mind reader.


if i put on my profile that i am exceedingly happy being owned by Daddy....and some domly-dom type either (a) doesnt read my profile or (b) disregards it entirely and sends me a positively scintillating message, the whole of which is "what are you looking for in a dominant?"

then i dont accept any responsibility in his actions.  i do accept responsibility as Daddy's slave to politely point him at my profile and wish him luck in finding what he seeks.  i also accept responsibility to block said domly-dom if he decides that the proper response for being pointed towards his own error is to berate me.

if i've messed up, i deserve (to a certain extent) what i get.  but if i've communicated clearly from the begining, then the error is absolutely at the feet of the person who doesnt read profiles, just looks at the purty pictures.

kitten

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RE: disrespect - 3/29/2008 7:10:12 AM   
xxblushesxx


Posts: 9318
Joined: 11/3/2005
From: Kentucky
Status: offline 		Maybe they don't respect your dom's 'under consideration' idea. They might think that 'under consideration' is just a way to keep other doms away while he ponders whether you'll do for his collar. Some self-described doms can't handle competition.

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RE: disrespect - 3/29/2008 7:29:03 AM   
Griswold


Posts: 2739
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ifyoudontknow

Ok,  This is really not a question, but more of a grrrrrrrrrrrripe.. heavy on the *grrrr*  I'm a relative newbie to the lifestyle,  under consideration with a wonderful Dominant.  Why do other Doms think it's okay to contact me and try to sway me or disrespect my Dom?  I've recently blocked a few, and have decided just to hide my profile to keep them off my case.. any input appreciated!
 
mel


I think it's because you have tits.

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RE: disrespect - 3/29/2008 3:58:49 PM   
Masterssj


Posts: 20
Joined: 12/27/2007
Status: offline 		In my profile it just says plainly i am here to read and respond on forum and i have a Master .
my Master approved my being on here , my name and has my password so at any given time he can sign onto my account .

you could do as i do , if you get email , let your Master read it and answer it or ad his own notation or write your profile .

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RE: disrespect - 3/29/2008 6:19:12 PM   
Missokyst


Posts: 6041
Joined: 9/9/2006
Status: offline 		My question is why you feel the need to cut all, to avoid the few?  Is there some reason you cannot simply read the email and take it for the BS it is?  Of course you could delete them unread <g> that would get a few more threads started.
Kyst


quote:

ORIGINAL: ifyoudontknow

hehe.. you're not fugly at all!! And I have had a lot of very Cool people contact me as well.  That's what makes me grrrr.  I hate to cut off the nice people just to avoid the assholes..

and no.. no one has tried to poach me outside of here  :)

mel


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RE: disrespect - 3/29/2008 8:26:19 PM   
MontrealPhoenix


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ifyoudontknow

Ok,  This is really not a question, but more of a grrrrrrrrrrrripe.. heavy on the *grrrr*  I'm a relative newbie to the lifestyle,  under consideration with a wonderful Dominant.  Why do other Doms think it's okay to contact me and try to sway me or disrespect my Dom?  I've recently blocked a few, and have decided just to hide my profile to keep them off my case.. any input appreciated!
 
mel

mel, my advice is to turn your profile on and use the idiots for target practice when you've had a bad day...*wink*
 
Phoenix

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RE: disrespect - 3/30/2008 4:50:34 AM   
ifyoudontknow


Posts: 30
Joined: 1/28/2008
Status: offline 		Well.. You know I never even thought to change the wording on my profile comments.  *feels very blonde*   Thank you very much for pointing out what should have been obvious!!!!!  Sometimes the obvious things just don't jump out!  I appreciate your comments and all the advice... Profile has been updated and hopefully the new wording will discourage the disrespectful,  but encourage those who want to help one grow and learn. 

mel

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RE: disrespect - 3/30/2008 6:32:47 AM   
AS11


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Joined: 2/17/2008
Status: offline 		I find no disrespect based upon the words "under consideration." I am considering a purchase,  its well known that I own its counterpart, what isn’t known is if I will purchase it, if I will keep it or if I will donate it to the historical society. Of course many contact me with similar items they are desirous of selling.
Considering an acquisition is simply that, a consideration, nothing more.

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RE: disrespect - 3/30/2008 8:43:44 AM   
roughleather


Posts: 232
Joined: 11/11/2004
Status: offline 		Oh, quit whining. I'm  fed up with the "oh, poor me, somebody sent me a message I didn't like" posters. You're just trolling for sympathy. Get a life. 

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RE: disrespect - 3/30/2008 8:44:53 AM   
Gemini1766


Posts: 991
Joined: 3/7/2008
Status: offline 		Some could say the same as you with your high and mighty attitude, "get a life."


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RE: disrespect - 3/30/2008 8:53:20 AM   
MissHarlet


Posts: 2728
Joined: 9/11/2005
From: El Paso , TX US
Status: offline 		I find that if a thread I start reading strikes me as whiney I can simply not continue reading it or not read any started by certain OPS ... if I think they are whiney all the time or attention seeking  ... this may be their life .. and if so .. who am I to tell them to get another .. <wink> ....

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To be respected you must be respectful, to be loved you must be willing to love,
to be trusted you must be willing to trust.

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RE: disrespect - 3/30/2008 10:02:13 AM   
Najakcharmer


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Joined: 5/3/2004
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ifyoudontknow

Ok,  This is really not a question, but more of a grrrrrrrrrrrripe.. heavy on the *grrrr*  I'm a relative newbie to the lifestyle,  under consideration with a wonderful Dominant.  Why do other Doms think it's okay to contact me and try to sway me or disrespect my Dom?  I've recently blocked a few, and have decided just to hide my profile to keep them off my case.. any input appreciated!


Probably for the same reason male doms contact me and tell me they want to fuck me up the ass.  I also get the occasional lesbian come-on despite my profile being clear on the subject of my not personally batting for that team.   My profile says female dominant looking for friends, no offers of anything else please.  Most people don't read profiles and totally ignore what I want and what I'm looking for, ergo they get ignored in turn. 

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RE: disrespect - 3/30/2008 12:19:18 PM   
metalmiss


Posts: 341
Joined: 5/4/2005
From: Croydon, UK
Status: offline 		i think we've all spent alot of time sifting through mails from people who either have not even the faintest glimmer of intelligence, or can't accept the fact that we're "off the market".
Believe me.. there's an endless supply of them..
The only reason i don't take my profile down is i have found that hearing from one decent & real person out there makes it all worthwhile.. and i do.. occasionally. *grins*

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RE: disrespect - 3/31/2008 7:17:34 PM   
andreaC


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Joined: 10/15/2006
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ifyoudontknow

Ok,  This is really not a question, but more of a grrrrrrrrrrrripe.. heavy on the *grrrr*  I'm a relative newbie to the lifestyle,  under consideration with a wonderful Dominant.  Why do other Doms think it's okay to contact me and try to sway me or disrespect my Dom?  I've recently blocked a few, and have decided just to hide my profile to keep them off my case.. any input appreciated!
 
mel


Dont worry, even in my profile it says what i am looking for and i have 3/4 of the people looking at my profile are Doms and malesubs who at times leaves me messages.......i plainly ignore them and delete the message without reading it.

In another website, its Master who monitors my email inbox and lots dont seem to know how to read. Also, due to the language which isnt english, i love it when Master settle those wannabees.

In any website/chat, there will always be *so-called* doms that will try to swept you away and some will say, you are not collared so you are still free. For me those doms arent doms and lack of respect.... period.

Just my point of view.

Goodluck :)

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